When do you know its time?
He recently developed a "bed sore". It will not heal according to the vet. He is in no pain. Help!?! We love him so- much. We were not blessed with children and he is our first born. How can we do this? |
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Sorry to hear of your dog's health problems. |
| Sorry to hear of your sheepie's health troubles. Despite his ailments, it doesn't sound like he is suffering, which is a blessing. Do you think he is enjoying himself, looking forward to things, having any fun or feeling pleasure?
It is hardest the first time, but I've come to recognize the value of ending (or even avoiding) misery. I found I was clinging to the memories of what life used to be like with a beloved companion and all the things he or she used to enjoy. So instead, I made a list of all the things that were currently good in my pet's life. As that list dwindled, I knew the time was drawing near. I also think it helps to not think of this as something you are doing to him, but rather something you are doing to help him. Best wishes, Val |
| Hi Spiko,
I'm so sorry to hear about your old boy. Making the choice is one of the most difficult things you may have to do. I can relate to your pain as I've had to go through it several times. Ron, whom started this wonderful forum did so as a tribute to his dog Jake. His post which I remember helped me when trying to make the decision for my Shaggy was called, "When is Enough, Enough?" When it was Shaggy's time I remember reading a wonderful poem , about an aged dog's plea to his upright. I found the words comforting but in the end you know you make the choice out of love for your dog. There is no easy answer to this but know your dog's life was filled with love during his lifetime - I'm sure he knows it too. A pet's Plea, is one of the poems listed. http://www.nepanetwork.com/keepsakes/pe ... t's%20Plea You're in my thoughts Marianne and the boys |
| I am so sorry for you. We went through this just six months ago and the pain is still so fresh. I well up periodically and somedays I miss her so bad. They are a member of your family and it broke all of our hearts to lose our beloved Mopsy. Including her Mamaw (grandma).
But remember this and it helps. The decision I made that day was the hardest decision I ever made. On top of it she was not ready to go. She tried to get up four times that morning on her bad hip - only to go down in pain. But as a parent to human kids I have had to make many decisions that hurt me but is in their best interest. Sometimes that is how we show our love. I had planned for that day a long time knowing we were living on borrowed time - she was diagnosed with severe hip dysplasia at eight months. And at age nine we got our first indicators that things were going down hill BUT she persevered and found a way to make it another year and a half. But the only two things that went according to plan were 1) I did not let my feelings get in the way of a decision that was in her best interest and 2) I did my best to put her at ease teasing her and singing to her like always so that she wasn't afraid at that the one place she hated (the vet). The fact that you are taking the time to ask shows what caring parents you are. But no amount of pain can ever erase the wonderful years you have shared with your baby. As I have told many people, I would do it all over again even knowing how horrible is it to let go because those were 10 fabulous years for our family. Even as I write this I am struggling to keep from crying. Take care. We will be thinking of you. |
| This is a very hard time for you. The links to the other posts should be very helpful. I lost my "first born" Katrina in 2002. Not a day goes by that she isn't remembered. Treasure these last days, you will know when it's the time. It will be clear. Hugs to you. |
| I am so sorry for the pain you are going through..
I would also like to add that you will know when it's time.. My girl gave us a signal. When we hugged her and kissed her good bye, and whispered into her ears that we'll come visit tomorrow at the ICU, She didn't want to return to the oxygen tent... She whimpered and her heart gave up... The vet worked frantically and she was resuscitated, we knew she wanted to sleep peacefully and told the vet to euthenize her. We kissed her, held her head till the very end... Yes it was by far the hardest thing I had to do and I still cry thinking of the moment, but I know I had to help her in her choice to cross over the rainbow bridge |
| its just agonising ..... i've had to make the same choice, and the only way I did it was when Bonnie could no longer do things for herself and I knew in her eyes she was saying, mum I just don't want to do this anymore - I think you just know, there really was no life in her and I thought I'm being selfish wanting to keep her, but I decided to let her go and I know hand on heart I did the right thing.
I honestly beleive you will just know what to do because you'll just see a look or it could be something different for you. In your heart, you'll just know what to do when the time comes. Thinking of you all, and like you, I have no children, my dogs are my babies, even the ones that have passed away |
| Having had to make choices like this myself, I think when we ask this question of others, we already know in our hearts - its time. This is our last thread of hope, that someone will tell us its not time yet.
Watch the eyes. You will "see" it, and when you do, you'll know it. The stage you're in now is the acceptance stage. Spend time sitting on the floor petting, talking and crying with your baby. You'll find it does help to say goodbye, before they're gone. And then, because of your love, you'll be able to let go.  I'm sorry you are faced with this decision! |
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