Partial Empty Nest!!
Gosh I am feeling like the start of an empty nester, is this normal!! 
I am so happy and excited for him and at the same time feeling very blue, boy I am going to miss him terribly. 
I suppose it makes it worse for me as he is my youngest and time to let go of the apron strings as they say. How do others cope/feel when there kids go off to college or move out of home? Thank goodness for mobile phones I suspect my phone bill will be enormous in those months ahead.  |
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| Lisa, the feeling is always temporary.....trust me, they keep coming back ...for food, to do laundry, for money and sometimes just for comfort and love.....it's not so bad! We havent experienced the marriage thing yet...but this is a good start for that........ |
| dont worry lisa, darcy is right... my mom cried when when i went to college as i was the last of her kids to move out, but now they cant get rid of me! |
| I haven't gotten to that point yet.... but I'm not looking forward to it either... so all I can offer is a *hug* |
| Lisa, I can totally relate.
My older son is leaving in September for University in Thunder Bay. He will be 20 driving hours away. We will miss his 18th birthday, but hopefully he will be home for Christmas  .
I am trying not to think about it until it happens..... The worst part is that he is at the stage right now when he does NOT want to spend any time with his parents....Just when we need him to the most! |
| You have my hugs and sympathy Lisa.
My oldest has moved away from home and I remember thinking...ahhh can't wait until the youngest one does. He did one time to his dad's house, it was only for a couple weeks and I'm glad he returned. Yeahhhhh I thought...I can play what I want on the radio, dance and sing at the top of my lungs if I want to...eat crackers and cheese for dinner if I feel like it!!!!  Well that lasted all of 3 days euphoria...then I noticed the silence int he house. Doesn't matter I lived with all the furballs ...not the same. 
I didn't feel like cooking any meals because it was just me. I realized I really do like to cook and it is fun doing it for someone else. So now I cherish every day as I know it won't be forever. We don't want to hinder them either...Failure to Launch..so lets enjoy them while they are around. Marianne and the boys |
| Lisa,
My oldest, 8 yrs old (ha ha) is gone for the summer. I couldn't be happier  But of course my situation is different. Ryan is quite the handful and I am getting a well deserved break. I really wish he would start acting up for his Dad so he can see what I deal with the rest of the year.  He is always such an angel for him.
I went to off College....got married then ended up back with Mom and Dad at 21. I think they were happy to have me....though I couldn't wait to get back out of there! Then they went and moved from the East Coast to the West Coast and I said I would never move. Just two years later I moved to be near them. |
| One night the first week after my son went off to college I woke up in a cold sweat, cry hysterically. I COULDN"T REMEMBER WHAT HE LOOKED LIKE!!!!!! I had to get up and find a picture of him at 2:00 in the morning!!!!!!! Of course it was just a dream, a bad one. But now I keep pictures of both my kids by my bed and look at them every night before I go to bed.
I had a really tough time with my kids growing up and leaving but it's the way it's "supposed to be". You really wouldn't want your kids to spend the rest of their lives with you....... REALLY you wouldn't, (((HUGS))) |
| My mother is dealing with her empty-nest thing right now too. She is driving me crazy.
I'm only moving IN TOWN and she is still very sad. My little brother has moved out... I think he lives 15 min away from my mom's house? And it's on her way to work. She's still upset. Sometimes she can be very nice - like she'll say I can have something for my new place. Other days she takes it back and wants to keep it. Sometimes she gets excited for me - sometimes she tells me she doesn't want to hear about it because it makes her too sad. I think I'll live a whole whopping (maybe) 30 min away from the house but 15 min away from her work. Our jobs are 10 min away from each other.
I keep telling her that we haven't moved out of state or too far away right now. At least she is getting baby-steps and hasn't lost us completely yet - but she is still pretty sad. I hope that Isabella will keep her company. |
Lisa, I can totally relate. When my son, my first-born, went to college, I was a mess. He only went 3 hours away to school, but it felt like he was on another continent! I cried all the way home! 
The house felt different, but at least I still had my daughter home. Gradually I got used to his absence, and the lesser work that went along with it! He moved back home after graduation for 6 months, then moved about 4 hours from home, and that's where he is today. Again, not too far, but still feels like 3000 miles sometimes! He's been out of the house for 18 months now, but I still miss him so much sometimes. I console myself by telling myself that this is the right thing for him, the way things are supposed to be. We raise them to be independent, but when they actually DO it, we're sad! Guess mothers just can't win! My daughter just finished her sophomore year of college, so she's gone from Sept-May, with the occasional visits home. Her school is MUCH closer that our son's was, so we do get to see her more often than we did our son when he was in school, but for the most part we're empty nesters too. I'm still hanging on to that very thin last apron string for the next 2 years!  |
| My mom still hasn't gotten over her empty nest syndrome. She calls me several times a day, sees us almost every week. If we go over her house and stay any length of time, she's crying when we leave. Then she tries to give us all her groceries. I always have to tell her that our freezer and refrigerator are full and we're not exactly starving...lol She makes me take it, but we usually end up dropping it off by my little brother's apartment on the way home since we really don't have room for it. If we leave the house and she knows it or go on a trip to see Jason's family, she has to get a call when we get there and when we get back...
I mentioned that we're driving out to Lake Havasau City next year to visit Jason's grandparents, and they said they would follow us because they wanted to go see the Grand Canyon anyway??? I don't really want them to, because if they do, they'll make themselves pay for the hotel rooms and food on the way... One time I drove to Shreveport by myself (7 hr drive) to stay with my husband's mom a couple of weeks while he was deployed. They didn't like me driving out there with the boys alone, so when they found out what day I was planning to come home, they called me at MIL's house and said "We're in town - meet us at the gas station by the 20 turnoff and we'll follow you home" As annoying as it can be sometimes, I know they only does it because they loves us. I just put up with it, because I know I'll be upset when they boys leave the house too - just hope not quite as bad as her since I've been out of the house for 8 years now, lol I know it's a step I'm no where near ready for, so I'll send you huge (((HUGS))) |
My mom is TOTALLY over the empty nest symdrome. She was pretty upset at me when I moved out with Mike, there were lots of issues at that point, but little sis was still home. Then Christina moved to college in CA, and I think she really had a hard time with it at that point. Now that they have the townhome, they have taken over my sister's room, she can decorate any way she likes, she loves it! But then she's had 4 years to adjust too She'll still call or come over to see how we're doing but I think we're all over the parental hump. My dad works out his empty nesting by coming over and helping with the house  and thank goodness for that, because we'd never get anything done without him!!! Now both her and my dad can't wait for a grandbaby.
and we're working on that. |
| Well I am glad I am normal with how I am feeling
I suppose it has hit home hard as yesterday Jarod had to go for a full physical and apply for an adult passport. I have known since the start of the year all this was coming up, but reality is setting in now 
Away for 4 months, then home for 3 weeks, then off for 7 weeks on a training ship, whoa is me.
Funny isn't it, when they do something and they are little, you think "Oh grow Up" then when it hits you think "I wish you were a little person again" I can't drive to see him as Tasmania is an island at the bottom of OZ, so have to fly for a visit, just great as I am not a fan of flying, thank goodness it is only a 1/2 hour trip across bass strait by plane
My eldest is still home, but never here, as girlfriend, work and social life I hardly see him, but now my baby is off on his lifes journey I can not believe how much this has hit me in how I feel. So thanks it really is nice to know my feelings aren't abnormal.
Nicole your son is off too at the same time, maybe we need a mourning section for moms missing there kids, I am sorry that he is away for his 18th, Jarod has just turned 19 so last year was a big party for him as here it is legal driving age and legal drinking age, so 18 is an important birthday, more so then a 21st. I am hoping too that my boy will be home for christmas as well |
lisaoes wrote: How do others cope/feel when there kids go off to college or move out of home?
Acquire a new sheepdog for every kid that moves out?
You'll be fine, its the initial adjustment period that is difficult. You must be very proud of him going to Maritime College. Best wishes to him in his studies and career. You can bet he'll be home for his favorite homecooking  when he can
to give you a big hug and kiss. It will be an adjustment for him too! |
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