I realy want to quite
I can´t quit by my self soo help me!!!!!!!!!
I have been a smoker for nearly 40 years. Born with an organic heart-disease, had a big heart surgery 2 years ago, when I was staying at the hospital for 3 months after a triple bypass surgery. I went out and in of the hospital because lungs and kidney-problems. Last year I spend together nearly 7 months of my time in the hospital. All my doctors told me: "Quit!"
My daughter is mad, she says she doesn't want to see me killing myself. My sister can hardly believe that I continue in the same old rut, and Arnfinn has given up on me. He knows me to well! I have been stubborn in my hole life and gone my own way to the despair of my surroundings. If I have been told so and so, being given advice always makes me angry, and then I would rather do just the opposite. As a kid I was spoiled and used to have everything my way. A friend said to me once: Tove, if you fell into the river you would float against the stream. Poor Arnfinn, he has had to take a lot, it is a miracle that we still are married. I have cut down a lot over the past 2 years, because I go outside and smoke. (We have to do that at the hospital) That is a stupid thing to do. Do I really think I can benefit from a cigarette in -20C°? But I do it! Please HELP me some how! Arnfinn knows I don't listen to him, so he has put up a painting in front of my desk: 
I want support and help please |
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| I don't know if they have the Zyban tablets available where you are but that is what I am on to help me stop smoking, it's been 10 days now, the tablets help with the cravings.
I quit last year for nearly 6 months so I'm detemined to make this time permanent but I go one day at a time. If I get a craving I either find something to do or I get some chewing gum and that helps a lot. Just keep telling yourself you can do it. We are here for you Jean |
Tove know exactly what you are going through, I have been a smoker for 30 years. Only time I did not smoke was when in hospital having my boys. Then straight back on to them. I know it is so hard and I am struggling too. I did stop once for 2 years with the help of patches but silly silly me started up after a party with just having one or two then. I am a very stubborn person and if someones says don't then I do, that is my nature. I also am hooked big time on cigars, not very ladylike is it but I just adore them. Since being on this forum and reading this section I have cut down big time and am hoping to be off them completely soon. They are great here for support, even venting how you feel, wether it's angry, cranky or depressed there is always someone here in the forum to support you through this time. I really need to go to the doctor and start on patches again, I have cut down but still at the moment not good enough. Get some sort of Nicotine gum, patch or tablet to help you come off them without too much withdrawal symptoms, they do help. So hard it is and so silly of me to start as a young teenager.  |
| Tove, I understand what you are going through. Part of you wants to quit and part of you doesn't. I was like that. FEAR is what held me back. I was a smoker for almost 30 years. It was such a part of me. I thought "how can I live without a cigarette?" Everything I did was tied to smoking. I really felt that I couldn't do anything without my constant companion.
But it can be done. I've been not smoking for 2.5 months. Well, I've had a few here and there but I'm not going back to it fulltime. You said you are stubborn and that is good. You can use the stubborness to your advantage. Quit, and be stubborn about not smoking again. I'll like to offer you a challenge. No smoking for just one day. After that day, you can smoke again. Pick a day and say, "just for that day, I will not smoke." You will be scared and nervous, but you can do it. Tell yourself "I choose not to smoke this day, but tomorrow I can." I think you'll find that you'll get through the day. You may be crabby but that's o.k. |
Paula - that's good advise!  Use your own stubborn will in your favor! Tell yourself that your craving is NOT stronger than your will and give yourself the one day challenge.
That's exactly how I approached losing weight. I struggled with it mentally much more than physically. I hated the idea of a diet. So, I told myself I WAS NOT on a diet. I was just chosing, for today, to eat healthy foods. I can do that for myself for one day -right? And I did. Tomorrow is another day - I'll decide about tomorrow when it gets here. I've approached each day the very same way - so far with good results! Try it, Tove! You have nothing to lose!! |
| This is going to sound like really silly advice, because it's so obvious, but just try to shut down your thoughts about smoking as soon as you have them. When I quit, I found all the celebration and congratulations for not smoking only made me think of it more. I found that I functioned the best when I just started acting and functioning like someone who had never smoked in the first place. If the thought came into my mind, I'd go outside, clean the house, brush the dog (which I found particularly soothing since you're still using your hands), exercise-- anything. I never used the gum or patch or anything and I quit over a year ago now. It's funny, even now when I read the forum, it reminds me more of things that I liked about smoking than being happy I quit! Now that I don't really care about the smoking anymore, I let vanity serve as my deterrent. Cancer isn't my enemy, it's wrinkles that I don't want! |
| Hi Tove,
Oh boy I can relate! I've been a smoker since the age of 9...yes still a baby but what did I know at that age? I read some research on the net and it found that Zyban (not all can take it) pills combined with the Nicoderm Patch increases chances of quitting smoking by 50%. The patch alone 33% Zyban 12% Cold Turkey is said to be the hardest by far. If you're not familiar with that term it's quitting without the support of aids... I quit for 6 wks in Sept and never felt that good in years!!!!!! I loved the feeling and the freedom. Please try and Darcy and I are also preparing to quit too. I also found something just "clicked in my brain" the last time...for once I really SAW ...all the photos of the dreaded blackened lungs, and arteries full of yucky white stuff smokers have. We have those photos on our cigarette packs and yet I barely glance at them. The last time I tried to quit smoking I really looked and then looked at the most horrific photos on the net and kept thinking my insides look like that. The good thing is within the year the lungs heal themselves...there are various stages of healing with each week....the net tells you those too and that helped with my goal. For example...another week and this will help clear my nasal passage.....another month and my lungs will regain some of their elasticity.....my skin will start to get that natural glow after 6 wks... I am supporting you all the way!!! Marianne |
 Thank's for the suport!
After the last big surgery I had, I quit for some months but then ) got into a desperation and my doc.give me some pills who make me sleep all the time. I throw these and took a smoke instead of. Becouse of the tablet's I take for my heart I can't use the pill who helps you to quite. But I know i canwhen the day come and I say to my self: STOP!!! |
| Hi Tove,
I don't have any advice to offer you but I do give you my support. I care and the people here care and would like to have you around to enjoy what you bring to this forum and probably to other areas of your life too. |
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