Up and Down Day
I love it already, I'm going to take pics all day probably.... hopefully my subjects will cooperate! LOL And bad news, for me anyway, is that my 10 yr old got suspended again today. He was just suspended a couple of weeks ago because he was goofing off in class and being rude to the supply teacher. Today, another supply teacher, and he did it again! Grrrrrr.... I just don't know what to do with him. This time he was suspended for 3 days. I had to leave work to go pick him up from school, and unless my husband can miss a day, I'll have to miss 2 more days. Not a great time to miss work, since this week is Xmas shopping money. I think my hubby can miss tomorrow, or at least some of it, but who knows. He's so exhausted and completely stressed out this is the last thing he needs too. I have made Aaron just sit on the futon behind me in my office since we got home. I haven't talked to him much yet, except at the school to attempt to explain the consequenses somewhat (disrupting the class, their learning and his own, stressing out his teacher and ruining her day, jeopardizing my job by making me leave work to deal with this, etc) and made him apologize. I don't know what to say to him, or what to do for punishment this time. Last time he lost video games and TV privileges, plus I made him do several hundred math questions. I've always raised my kids to use their manners, to respect others and themselves, and to know that every action has a reaction, and consequences. It just seems to have slipped this little one's mind the last few months and I'm at a loss. Anyway..... I guess since I'm home before the sunset I might try to get my xmas decs up finally. Plus I have major housework to do, since my mother has decided to come up to visit this weekend instead of next.  |
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| Hurrah about the camera!!!!
As for the 10 year old.............you have my sympathy. I sometimes wonder how any of us survive kids. I'd make sure that if you have to miss work that he knows that it will financially impact HIS Christmas not everyone elses'. This is a stressful time of year without added complications!!!! Good LUCK!!! |
Willowsprite wrote: I guess since I'm home before the sunset I might try to get my xmas decs up finally. Plus I have major housework to do, since my mother has decided to come up to visit this weekend instead of next. Ummm HELLO??? You have a very willing helper sitting on the futon.... |
| I agree with Ron. Put that boy to work! Let him know that if he doesn't want to do things that will allow him to stay in school, it's manual labor for him! Could this be puberty descending upon him already?? Good luck!
Chris |
I'm glad you got your camera and that it's as great as you hoped it'd be!  Merry Christmas to you! I look forward to seeing all new pics!
Sorry that Aaron is suspended again. Sometimes it does seem as if all the things you try to teach them go in one ear and out the other. I think your punishment methods sound appropriate to the crime. 
I'd make him work, too, while he's home. Beside taking away priviledges, make him help you put up decorations and help clean house, too. I know for my youngest nephew, the worst punishment he can get is to have to sweep...LOL...of course, he's just six, but he really hates it. The one day he got sent home from school, that's what my brother made him do. Sweep the showroom floor of the motorcycle business my folks own. It was pretty funny...after about 15 minutes he was asking to go back to school and promising to be good. 
Hope you find the "key" for Aaron. |
| Hopefully he will get the message: no education means the tired old line "would you like fries with that". I would give him all the dirty jobs to do while he's home, it will give you a break and get it all done Good news about the camera, take LOTS of pictures of Aaron doing manual labor |
| Ohhh I doubt it will actually help getting the chores accomplished well...
(but it might be a good photo taking opportunity... lol) |
When I was a kid and got into trouble my mother made me sit and polish silver. I HATED POLISHING SILVER. We had the shiniest silver in town  |
| like stability not supply teachers everyday he goes to school. He probably would like a regular teacher someone he can get to know and interact with. how would you feel if your boss changed everyday. |
| Getting him to help with housework is a good idea, and one that I usually do as well, however, he isn't very good at most of it. That pesky Y chromosome gets in the way of sense I think ...lol.... (no offense, J/K)
He is good at organzing things, but before doing that things generally need to be dusted, or swept or mopped or whatever. I'll think of something.... I did also warn him last time that if it kept up and I had to miss more work, we wouldn't be getting him as much for xmas. I don't like to threaten anything I won't follow through with, so I am actually going to have to make sure he gets noticeably less than his brothers and sister. It feels so mean, and I'm actually angry at him for making me have to do this. I don't want to involve xmas, I want to enjoy it, to me the best part is seeing them open their things xmas morning. I think I have to this time though, it seems to be the only thing that might get through to him, something that affects him directly, in a big way. He blows off punishments like it's nothing. He is happy to be home with me, which is nice to know, but also doesn't help things. *sigh* |
| I really feel for you Stacey, being a parent is not easy!!!!!! |
pepe wrote: like stability not supply teachers everyday he goes to school. He probably would like a regular teacher someone he can get to know and interact with. how would you feel if your boss changed everyday.
Very good point, but then I haven't been happy with this particular school since day one. The school has a bad reputation, there are more than it's share of bad apples, so although my son is far from innocent, it certainly doesn't help when he has so many bad influences that I have no control over during school hours. The school's population is transient in nature, which means it is very difficult for any child to form long lasting friendships, I think that makes a big difference too. My 12 yr old was getting in trouble quite often while he was at that school too, but he is in a middle school now for grades 7 and 8, and the change was immediate and amazing. The principal has only called me to let me know that he has been a model student, polite, respectful, and works hard. He's happy there, that's the difference. Our oldest two have been angels all their lives, not a single problem from either of them, no matter what was going on in our lives, no matter what school they were in. I don't know why they are so different than the youngest two and especially the youngest. Perhaps Aaron being the youngest feels he doesn't get enough of my time, or perhaps he is trying to impress his older siblings, maybe the various changes in our lives have just happened at bad developmental stages for him, I don't know. I try to spend one on one time with each of them, as well as family things together as often as possible. It's hard though when I usually work 6 days a week and my husband works pretty much 24/7 I'm thinking army cadets might be a good idea. I've had each of them in various groups, violin, drums, acting, church youth groups, skating, soccer, basketball etc but Aaron has never really had much interest in any of the things his older siblings have participated in. He doesn't want to go into army cadets either, but I think he would like it if he tries it. |
I'm telling you Stacey, time to bring out the squirt bottle...  |
| YAY Stacey, all that hinting has paid off, congratulations on the camera!!
As for Aaron, it is a hard time, been there and my boys are now 18 & 21. Hard years of confrontation and rebellion as they are growing up and testing their limits. Hang in there and be consistant with him. I personally would make being home from school as unpleasant as possible, yep housework, and any other odd job you can think of, that way he might think OK school is better then being home suspended. We have all been through this with kids growing up and it is a testing time but we all seem to survive it. |
| Ground his little @&$. Take away the video games, TV, the phon, and put him to work. He's lucky he doesn't have my father as a parent. HE'd be part of the living room wall permantly!! Both of my parents are in Education. My Mom is a principal. We knew better, if we wanted to see our next B'day. |
| What is a supply teacher? Is that what they call a substitute teacher in Canada?Sounds like you need Maryanne advice. My expertise is at the opposite end of the age scale-geriatrics. Did you ask him why he was being rude and acting up? Just curious what he has to say?You should tell him the money your losing by not being at work was to buy his Christmas present. |
| I was gonna ask that too, we call them substitute teachers here as well...might be an Ontario thing? Not to say he doesn't derserve some sort of punishment, and defintitely something to suit the crime. Extra homework. no video games, tv..during what would be school hours...
On the flip side, if your son is normally well behaved, and respectful of others...I'd dig a little deeper. Someone may have said something hurtful, another classmate....the teacher may not like boys??, some teachers are good teachers and others are way to high strung, nervous, stress out etc...and it may have been an incident but your son was the one caught in the moment....if you know what I mean. As you've already mentioned, you have been working 6 days, hubby 7...when is his time, quality time...maybe he's figured something out. being bad = mommy time....even if your mad at him, he still gets to be with you. With the amount of time the dogs gets, time needed for work, hubby, the other kids needs, your time, the house work etc...you may be stretched to thin. He might be rebelling at this stuff. Or is he being bullied at the school...you say alot of bad kids attend this school. If he is feeling stress, he may do whatever works to get out of it, and be home. Home is safe. Hope it works out, maybe a trip to Timmies for tidbits and some quality conversation you may get to the bottom of it. Congrat's on the camera. |
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