Others without two legged kids?
My husband and I are both 31 and don't have a desire to have kids at this time. The parental bug hasn't hit us. I also have fibromyalgia which also makes us hesitant. Our friends are all starting to have kids, and I was just looking to connect with others in a similar situation. I do enjoy their kids and hanging out with them, just don't think pregnancy or parenthood for the human variety is for us. I love to smother my furry baby with love. 
Please contact me via forum or private message if you feel more comfortable. |
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| Hey Stacy,
I'm married and don't have any kids. I'm 27 and got married this summer and as of now, do not have the urge to have babies. My husband and I dated forever (since I was 20!) and for the longest time the question was, When are you going to get married...now that we're married it's When are you going to have babies...you can never win! My husband would love to have them today, but we moved all the way across the country for him to go to school, so neither of us has family out here, and he is in med school so he has very little time, so there is no way I would willingly start a family right now. I would have to do EVERYTHING...since he's in school, I'm the income, so I'd have to work, then come home and take care of the baby, the pets and my husband. Just not ready for that. A lot of my friends have started having babies or trying to, but not me! I love my Barney and the 2 cats--for me, that's enough for now...maybe in a few years when hubs is out of med school and we are settled in a more permanent location (hopefully back home!) |
| Hey,my sister who is 38yrs old doesnt have any kids.She was w/ her hubby for 18yrs and they never wanted kids.They did other things,like concerts,vacations,ect.....it is a good thing however they didnt have kids my sister has no maternal instincts,and her ex-hubby is 18 still!!LOL!! Now my sis is w/ this wonderful guy and Im thinking they want kids now,well my sis is wanting kids now,her new guy has 1 already.I dont see anything wrong w/ people not wanting kids OR holding off til they are 100% sure in fact I think it is a very UNselfish thing. For me I had my 1st baby @17,and my last at 26.I in no way was ready for my 1st,but stuff happens.I think if you want too wait then I think thats a really good thing. |
| Thank you both. Who are you "Gues"? You should register with the foum. |
| Stacy, Im married, 38 and my husband has two kids from a previous marriage (he is 9 yrs older than me). He begged me for no more kids...he said he could see the light at the end of the tunnel...they are 18 and 19 now....I didnt have a problem with it...I just said I wanted a dog...so of course all maternal instinct are directed toward Panda...Its fine with me...Im a great, fun aunt...but am okay with no kids of my own. Besides, with Panda, there is no talking back and one less college education to pay for |
| Stacy,
Just wanted to let you know I also have Fibromyalgia. (I'm 32, but I do have kids...2 of them. A 7 yr old and a 10 mos old) If you ever want to talk just PM me
Also I run an online support group if you are interested in joining. Elissa |
Annies mom sorry I posted about my sis at 38 and no kids!!  Some times I just think Im logged on and Im not!!grrrrrrrrrr.... |
| Just to let you know. Richard and I will be married 29 yrs on Dec. 10th.
We do not have children together. but I have 4 from my first marriage. I did not want to have them deal with half sibbs. At the time they had enough to deal with, with the divorce. Sometimes I regret it but that was long ago. Now the (kids) are our babies. They keep us busy. I never wanted to explain why we did not have children ( it is none of there business) so keep to your guns. It is your life not theirs. |
| im only 23 and far from married, but i do not plan on having kids.
i do however plan on having somewhere around 10 dogs. |
| When I was a breeder it occured to me one day of how many of the Parents of My Babies didn't have uprights { 2 legged } children.....I knew everything about them before they got one of My Babies.....When I started to count .....It was aver 40 % didn't have uprights at all with no plans of having any...and most of the others the uprights were out of the nest or getting close to leaving....I don't know anything about other breeds of dogs........So is this just a Sheepie thing that these are our Children....???????? Great Subject.......Kaye |
| I'm 39 (husband's 47) and a few years ago I was thinking that maybe I would like to be a real mom but with our crazy self-employed working lifestyle, I kind of gave up on that idea. I was never a person that was really into other people's little babies either. I usually start like kids when they are speaking and potty trained. So I live vicariously thru my friends and families' kids who I adore. I'm happy that I can qwell my nurturing instinct through our pets. I selfishly wonder who's going to take care of us in our old age, but having a kid doesn't guarantee that either.
~VerveUP |
Oh, and just an observaton. I once read this bio book called "100 people over 100" and I would say 95% of the people recognized in the book either had no kids or like over 8 kids. 
verve |
| We're four legeed but no kids (Yet, but that will change soon)
Our maternal/paternal instincts were directed towards our dogs and they are very spoliled... I think they think they are humans in sheepie suits! It's annoying having to explain that you don't want/can't have children and sometimes you're an outcast because you don't have children.... bleh |
| I'm 27 and a single dog mom. 5-10 years ago in the pre-dog, freshly post-collegiate years, I was interested in getting married and having kids. Not the case anymore. I guess I got used to just being with Dudley. ~K. |
| I'm 30 and my boyfriend and I both love our dogs like they're our kids. We don't plan to have kids but we have both agreed in the last year what used to be 100% certainty is now 99%. Neither of us want to settle down with that sort of responsibility and we're not sure if we ever will. We're depending on our siblings to pop out kids so we can be aunts and uncles-- which is much easier and a lot more fun. Get them all hopped up on sugar, spoil them and send them home.
Also, selfish as it sounds, I like having money to spend on fun things. Having kids would seriously cut into our "blow money on whatever I want" lifestyles! We're not rich but we can live like we are without having kids to take care of or futures to save for. We're not ready to trade our BMWs in for something more practical! |
| Not married, no kids. And since I adopted a senior, I don't particularly think of her as my kid either (altho she's sure a doll). |
| Parenting is such a huge responsibility and a very personal decision.
I would have had a whole house full but our second child was born with spina bifida. I did not want to risk that again for another. My sister on the other hand has always known she didn’t want any. When she was 25 she asked her doctor to tie her tubes. He refused because she was single,45 had no children and would probably change her mind. It took her 5 years to convince him that she did not want children. He finally agreed and said, “You know, these women who say they don’t want children, really don’t want children”!!! DUH!! She is a wonderful aunt but knew motherhood was not right for her. |
| I have a stepson who is 26, none of my own for medical reasons. I used to think I did want my own but as I get older I realize things are fine the way they are. Putting one kid through college was enough, now I have money for lots of treats and vet bills. |
| I always knew I wanted kids, and although I started too young, I was blessed with 3 wonderful kids and at times would love to have a fourth. However, I don't think we will, it is such a difference to conciously make the decision to have a child (as it should be) instead of just finding out I was pregnant. It is a huge responsibility. Mine are older now so even though sometimes I really do want another, most of the time i just remind myself that it is almost time for the ones I have to be going to university and I'm not sure I'd want to do all that all over again.
I think puppies will be the best thing for my biological clock....lol.... |
| Hubby and I just celebrated our 36th wedding anniversary and we are w/o offspring. Do we regret it now? I'm 99% satisfied with my decision, my husband 100%. The only negative is when one of the spouses dies, the other will be lonely and if infirmed, alone. There's no guarantee an offspring would have been helpful to us.......too many cases of abandonment.
sheepieboss |
SheepieBoss wrote: The only negative is when one of the spouses dies, the other will be lonely and if infirmed, alone. There's no guarantee an offspring would have been helpful to us....... I think about that often, expecially since I am the youngest of three, separated by 6 and 12 years.
Joan and I don't have children. Perhaps if we're really good to our nieces and nephews, we'll get a visit once a year in the nursing home. |
| Understand Ron. I'm 15 years younger than my husband........with only a younger brother. Since we moved when nieces a nephews young, we've never formed a tight bond there either. Oh well............ |
I've told my nephew (age 9) that he was in charge of making sure I didn't grow a beard & mustache when I'm in the nursing home. 
He just cackled at that image and told me he'd let me look like Santa Claus.
So, I told him he was fired from that job, now my niece (age 7) is in charge of making sure I remain presentable.
My nephew is now in charge of making sure no one takes my teeth. |
Quote: My nephew is now in charge of making sure no one takes my teeth.
Is teeth-stealing really that big of a problem in nursing homes these days? Are they looking for people with the high end models? |
| I'm 33 married and have no children - all my friends have children apart from me and all of them now say I did the right thing, and that they felt it was what should happen, get married have kids etc etc - I've alwways been a rebel, so I did the opposite. I love my life with my husband and Ollie. All my friends do is moan about their kids, sleepless nights, fighting at school, oh no thanks - I have no regrets at all - dogs dogs dogs everytime |
| This insight has been very informative for me. I too think about what will happen if I'm old and alone. Some people say that's a selfish reason to have kids. I would like to think people don't have kids solely for that purpose. And you are right, not all kids want to or can take care of their parents. Hopefully, I'd save enough money to take care of myself. I picture myself having a grand ole time in a nursing facility doing crafts, puzzles, and watching movies all day. That is if I'm not seriously ill.
It's hard as there is so much pressure from friends, family and people we don't even know who ask when will we have kids, why we don't have kids, etc...Like you said, it is a very personal decision. There are many reasons to have kids and just as many reasons (if not more) to not have kids. |
| Yeah, well the regrets didn't start until my 40's, and my dad's open heart surgery kinda drove it home. |
| Sounds like you need to make some younger friends, Ron. I have a couple of friends who are childless and old enough to be one of my parents that I kind of "look after". It works out really well for me because I am able to get alternate "parental" opinions from them on issues where my parents aren't savvy. Kinda like having an extra mom or two. It also means double the lectures, sometimes.  ~Katie. |
| Grant and I have been married for almost 12 years...and we made the choice to have no upright kids. I love OTHER peoples children...and they love me! Only because I don't have to discipline them...just have fun with them...I really love my friendships with the children in my life...especially because I have zero responsibilty!
My family has just finally accepted this choice...except for Grandma...I think she still secretly prays we will change our minds! The pressure is starting to be relieved...my two cousins are expecting next month and one has a 4 year old! He loves his Auntie Caween, even though I live far away.
Did I also mention that Grant is a workaholic? So I also would have been a single mom most of the time and with not living near my family...that was just not an option for me. Not saying single moms don't do a fantastic job...I just knew I couldn't handle it! So it's just me and The Muppets (Smooch and Murph) and the bad kitties...complete BLISS! |
| I'm 39 and my husband is 49 and we have been married 18 years and we have no kids.I never really wanted any .
I also have fibromyalgia and my husband isn't very well so it's a good thing i don't have any kids to look after. I'm hoping for another puppy instead in a couple of months time  |
For another two months I am childless of the 2 legged variety. As we get closer to the due date, I am in no way ready for the change that is too happen. I blame my OES. He was born in February, we got him in April and then Memorial Day weekend found out we were expecting the 2 legged variety. I had sworn up and down dealing with the whole puppy/house breaking, etc. that we were not having kids. Obviously, we weren't ready either, life just happened.  |
Annie's Mom wrote: It's hard as there is so much pressure from friends, family and people we don't even know who ask when will we have kids, why we don't have kids, etc.. Stacy, I'm 41 and have never wanted to have children of my own. I love kids and enjoy spending time with nephews/nieces and children of friends, but never had the desire to have my own. It's a huge commitment and there were other things that I wanted to accomplish - selfish sure, but honest. My mother will never understand the choice that I've made. I have a good relationship with my mom but she totally defines her life by her children and grandchildren, so she just doesn't "get" me. I got very lucky that I met the love of my life after he already had two sons. His sons are teenagers and he didn't want to start over again with babies. So Bailey gets to be a very spoiled only child when his step-brothers aren't here! Sometimes people do get too pushy about either asking why, or feeling sorry for me. But I'm so happy with my husband and my sheepie, and our home, and my life, that I really don't care what they think! Annie's Mom wrote: And you are right, not all kids want to or can take care of their parents. Hopefully, I'd save enough money to take care of myself. I picture myself having a grand ole time in a nursing facility doing crafts, puzzles, and watching movies all day.
My mother in law lives in a senior complex. There are many people there who are never visited by family. I've had a few of the residents tell me that they haven't seen their children since the day they moved in. So children are no guarantee of companionship! However, these people are living in a great community with lots of activities, trips and support. I think the important thing is to stay active and involved so that you have relationships to rely on - relationships with family or good friendships. |
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