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| Nina, There is no right or wrong. You must do what you feel is right. Im sure your other baby would want you to be happy. I think the sound of the jingle from the collar and the click clack of paws on wood floors is music too, so just play it by ear and do what your heart tells you. |
| We've been in the same position twice, and twice we've had another rescue sheepie within 2 months. The house is just too eerily quiet without them.
Only you can tell when the time is right for you. Good luck! Chris |
| Getting another dog doesn't mean you're going to forget about the one you lost. Everyone's right, do what feels right for you. No matter what, you'll learn to love your new puppy for his or her own unique personality! |
| To my mind, getting a new puppy is a sign of respect and gratitude for all that your beloved angel OES brought you. Of course, not everyone can face starting a new relationship right away but, if you can, more power to you. Trust your instincts. If you miss having a dog, then have a dog. I don't see how living without one helps anybody. |
| thanks everyone for your support. It mean a lot to me to get advice from people that have been in the same boat as I am now. Thanks |
| I had many people ask me questions like yours when I was breeding. My answer to them was always a question. "Are you trying to replace the one you lost? If so, then its not time." You can never "replace" that special dog. Are you looking for the exact same personality as in the one you lost? Will you find yourself comparing the new one to the one you lost to the point that it will cause disappointment? Will all that stand in the way of allowing you to love and bond with a new pup/dog or do you know in your heart that it doesn't matter, that you just want "another" dog.
As long as you're not looking to replace "the one" you lost, its never too early. But, if you can't think of having one thats not exactly like the other one, I'd say be cautious, it may be too soon. Only you know if and when you're ready. If you get a puppy, don't forget you have to train this one. It won't come well behaved like the one you lost. Do or will you have time for that before you get out of school? No disrespect meant. Myself, and others have recently lost dogs and each one has to look at their individual circumstances. I'm soooo sorry for your loss and the painful decision you're facing. Good luck and God bless. |
| One of our rescue volunteer foster homes only takes in the old dogs who don't have a chance of getting adopted. That family "fosters" for a few weeks, then adopts the dog, so that it doesn't go to the bridge as a homeless dog. The dog is loved, catered to, and all health issues taken care of, as she is a nurse. Then once the dog reaches its time, they are ready to take in another one. There are always dogs needing homes, and this woman has a board in her house dedicated to pictures of all her senior rescue dogs. All have special stories and all are remembered for thier own distinct personalities. That family has a special place in heaven. |
| I just felt like I wasn't respecting my other OES space. I thought that it would look evil to her to see me just up and get another one right after she was gone and let it roam around her space. I knwo that when I got another dog that s/he wasn't going to be like my past OES. No dogs are identical which is a good thing. I mean I know I have to train her and teach her everything all over again but I think that is the best part. I just didnt want to disrespect my last OES doing so. I just missed having a dog around to get into trouble and to play with and walk with and stuff like that. My boyfriend and I have rearranged, well he mostly, our schedules so that the new pup won't be alone for more than 3 hours at the most on any given day so I hope that that will be ok for the little one. Thank you all for being so honest and helping me out. I really appreciate it.
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| Hi Nina,
So sorry about the news that your OES passed over the Rainbow Bridge. I agree with the other members, do what is in your heart. Once you have known the love and devotion of a sheepie, its feels too quiet without one. Our first sheepie died years ago of cancer. It was very difficult for us as a family. He was full of life and happiness. But once the cancer took hold, it was very sad to see his decline in later years. I think of him every day, and in his honor I am a member of a local OES rescue. We just got our second sheepie one and one half years ago. He is truely a blessing. He has been a bright spot of nuturing to our family. My Mom had major heart surgery last year, and it great to see him walking with her and my Dad. If she stops, he comes back to make sure she's ok. He will wait patiently for her. He is a very special dog. Best wishes on your decision, ask for guidance from your heart and you will make the choice that is right for you at this time.... |
OES4ever wrote: .........I mean I know I have to train her and teach her everything all over again but I think that is the best part.
I just didnt want to disrespect my last OES doing so. Knowing all that, having said that, it sounds as though you are not expecting your new dog/pup to be a replacement of the one you lost. As long as you know that, you will have a wonderful bond with sheepie #2. 
As far as disrespect goes. Reverse the situation. Say you had gone before her and she was in the position of making this same decision. What would you tell her? What would you want for her? Answer those questions honestly and you'll have your answer. "Remember me, love me, mourn a short time for me, but honor me by being happy, not sad. Honor me by sharing your life and love with another thats longing for, and in need of the life and love we once shared." |
| hi Nina,sorry i just read this post.Im so sorry you lost your beautiful OES.I was in your shoes back in June.My Joey was hit and killed by a car,for the next 3days I cried straight through.I swore Id never get another dog.Funny how life is sint it? My feelings on "replaceing" your fur baby is this,knowing how much I "we" love our buddies,and the desire too find another buddy w/ "some" of the same things that made you fall in love w/ your buddy who passed on is perfectly fine.For me,my Landon just fell in my lap,basically.He is Joeys brother litter mate,he acts ALOT like Joey,he is silly,funny,the way he lays on the floor,his temperment,the way he eats w/ his monkey like under bite cracks me up just like when Joy did it.Do I compare them,yes some times I do,its hard not too.Like Joey was alot more nippy,he'd get all excited if I was too grab his beard w/ my lips,it was fun,and it was silly.What did i do when I adopted landon?I did the same thing too see if Landon would get nippy back.Of course he didnt,but it was due too me missing my joey.I dont think there is anything wrong w/ looking for traits your fur baby that passed had in another fur baby your thinking aobut bringing home.Looking for those silly little things that make all of our hearts melt when our fur babies do it,I feel is perfectly normal.I should add it was about 1.5months after Joey died when i adopted landon,I dont think there is a too early,or too late when one is greiving.You adopt another OES or whatever you fall in love w/ when your ready.Dont beat yourself up.Your dear OES thats passed WILL help you find that perfect fur baby.Please let me know how your doing. Take care Tanyathenurse |
| Here is my view- I now have 4 OES because we had Flash, who was put down at a ripe old age. We swore we would NEVER have another dog because Flash was so wonderful. His passing left a huge hole in our hearts which we filled with Beau, Luke, Rosco and Daisy, they were named in honor of Flash. None of them could replace our first boy, they all have brought something different to our lives. Every dog is special in it's own way. |
| Hi Nina ,
It did make me sad when i did read how you feel about Bobo but i know that you did everything for her she had a great life with us 
Love Mummyyyyyyy Hug and Kisses, Dikke poot van Sammy |
I don't think there is a right or wrong time... it's whatever feels best to you.  |
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