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Lori, So sorry for your losses and now about to be another. We had to put our Kassie down a year ago. It is hard to make the choice. We had talked to the vet and she helped in making a tuff choice. Our Kassie was fine one day and sick the next. She had liver cancer. She was 12 and was starting with her hips to. I did not want her to suffer. She had a hard time getting up. One day I had to get my husband home because I could not get her up. It is hard on us to make a choice between our love for her and what is the right thing to do for our OES. Follow your heart. I have heard it said you will know the right time. You have done many things to ease her pain. There is a time to let her go to the rainbow and be with out pain. My heart goes out to you.  |
| I'm so sorry for what you and Gypsy are going through. It is really obvious from your post how much you love your sweetie. I have so much sympathy. . . |
| I'm so sorry for your losses... and it is so difficult to watch them knowing they aren't comfortable anymore, knowing they should go and having to make that decision to help them. That final one is the hardest, but your final gift to her will be the kindest. *hugs* |
| Lori,
We had to put our families OES Libby down when she was 12 yrs old. It was the hardest thing to do. But she had lost control of her bladder and bowels even with the help of medication it got to the point we couldn't control the problems. She was also blind and very arthritic at that point. Soon we will have to say goodbye to another of our dogs, she is a 4 yr old Boxer, she has Lymphoma. 
So I do understand the pain and anguish and the heart wrenching decision you are up against right now. With my dogs I let them tell me when the time is right. I don't know how to explain it, it's just a look I guess. The look of I'm tired, it's time to go. Hugs to you during this difficult time, it's never easy to say goodbye to a dear friend. But know that we do understand what you are going through and hope you will come back often to share your frustration and greif with us. As well as the wonderful stories of the life you shared with each of your sheepies. |
| Lori,
My heart goes out to you. You are facing the hardest decision of your life. I think ultimately you know what you have to do, but you're just not ready to admit it yet. You see it as losing a best friend, and you will be - but you have to look at it from Gypsy's eyes. When you do, you and she will be ready to say good-bye. We're here for you, whenever you need us. We've all been through it, and having someplace to go where people truly understand what it's all about is a blessing. Chris |
| Lori,
I am truly sorry for the time you and Gypsy are going thru. I had to make the same choice with my best bud Bart a couple of years ago and I agree with Chris, they somehow just tell you its time. I think that keeping your eyes open to catch the sign is the best thing you can do. Stay strong for your Gypsy and we will all be here when the time comes to have a good cry with you. Colleen |
| Sorry to hear about all of your heart ache. Please find comfort with the folks here at the forum. It really helps having everyone to talk about things. Would love to hear more about your pups and more photos, please. |
| Lori,
I'm so sorry to hear about Gypsy. She will let you know when she can't take anymore and will look to you for the courage to let her go. We've all been there and know how heartwrenching it is. Please share some stories and pictures of your girl when you're able to. |
| Lori,
Sorry to hear that Gypsy isn't doing well. You'll both know when it's time. Our best friends have a way of telling us. |
| Lori -
I'm so sorry to hear that Gypsy isn't doing well. It's so heartwrenching!! It's very obvious from your posts how much you love her. Your so close...she'll let you know when it's time. |
| Thank You everyone for your replys. I thought Gypsy would be doing better on the prednisone than she is. Emily who died in may had that look that she was ready to go but I didn't listen. I was feeding her by hand and had to press on her bladder to get her to urinate She had no bowel control. It was very hard her. I think she had a slipped disc and couldn't move her hind legs. It happened suddenly. Then one day she just died, I was in shock. I felt like I let her down but I thought she was going to get better. I even got wheels for her which didn't work well for her. She had something else wrong with her. I'll see what happens with Gypsy. Lori |
| Lori,
Listen and look with your heart. I know it is so very hard to let go, but - listen and look with your heart. We all start out by thinking that this new medicine or that one will be the cure. 99% of the time, it isn't. Having just gone through it with Emily in May, you know what to look for. You don't want Gypsy to be in pain, you don't want her to suffer. You will always have her memories, and in time, your heart will heal. But Gypsy will not heal. Listen and look with your heart. You're in my thoughts and prayers. We're all here for you. Chris |
| Dear Lori ,
My heart goes out to you , It is a very hard decision . My Oes Tommy passed away in august 2005. He had a kidney failure, there was nothing we could do to save him ,he was 10, we took him to a number of vets ,we were told that we should put him to sleep, the last three weeks of his life I had to give him IVs, he wouldn't really eat and lost a lot of weight,, the last week we carried hin out to go to the bathroom.Even though he felt dizzy, was vomiting and his standart of life wasn't very good we were told that he wasn't in a lot of pain.We might have made a different decision if he was in a lot of pain. Couple of times we even were on the way to the vet and had to turn around because We couldn't do it. I know some people will dissagree with me ,but in my mind I always thought if it was my family member I wouldn't put them to sleep( I know it's not an option in the case of a human being to be put to sleep ,but to me there was no difference ) if it was a member of my family I would do everything to make the time they have left the most comfortable for them. We researched every option and tried everything that we could.I was lucky we own/work in a restaurant and we brought him with us in the suburban, we bought an airconditioner that we put inside the car and he was with us everyminute for the last month of his life , WE would go out and check on him every 15 minutes and made sure he was OK. I know most people cannot do that .And it is hard to take care of them. I think you will know what to do , you know your dog ,you will know when the time is right and you will make the right decision. I just know in my case I was glad that I did't take him in, he went on on to the rainbow bridge laying next to me ,in our home, he just took a deep breath and then he was gone. I have no regrets in my decision. My prayers are with you Lori. The only thing that I wish is that I should have gotten a flock of his fur. Sorry about the long post. Tanya. I miss you Tommy. |
| I've been deeply thinking of what all of you are saying. Last night Gypsy had a restless night and today I notice she doesn't have any spark left. I came home from work and she was under a table tangled in the electric cords. panting hard. She had a bowel movement and was unable to move away from it because she was wearing a diaper. She's been having major trouble getting around for 3 years this month where she's been on meds and acupuncture. I think she's getting tired and so am I. If it was a terminal illness I could probably go through that with her but she could live like this another few years never walking never happy. Can't stand falls over doesn't have a big bark like she used to have. Every oes I've had loved music I put on her favorite album last night and she recognized it but couldn't bark at the places she use to. Anyway, I E-mailed my vet about putting her to sleep so I should hear something in a couple days. I know I'm rambling a bit I'm sorry. Thank You all . Lori |
| Hi Lori,
I had to log back on this evening when reading your post. I feel your pain and your anxiety about "doing the right thing". Ron originally started this chat in honor of his wonderful boy whom passed away aprox 2 years ago if I remember correctly. His name was Jake. He also posted something on the Rainbow Bridge forum titled "when is enough, enough?" I can't tell you how many times I reread that post when my Shaggy's health was failing and how much I cried when I thought I had made the decision only to convince myself she was just having a bad day..or week. I returned home one evening to find Shaggy laying in a heap at the bottom of the stairs where she had fallen unable to get up. Again I cried knowing what I had to do in the morning. I did have a reprieve as she pulled herself up at the vets office as if claiming she wasn't ready yet. We sometimes tell ourselves we will know the right moment and if we are truthful to ourselves perhaps we do. A few weeks later she was unable to get up again. Yet she didn't sleep like she usually did in the afternoons..she looked right at me..and I knew it was time. No regrets about my decision as unlike the previous time ..we had a chance to say our goodbyes ..no finding her on the floor or alone..I was with her. That will always be in my memory. I even placed her outside on a blanket near her favorite spot..my other pets would go over to her as if saying goodbye. I remember in retrospect saying it was a good death as aboriginal people refer to it. Driving to the vet appointment was one of the hardest things I had to do..but I felt I loved her enough to go through with it. Her last day with me was a good one. I said goodbye to my girl on that day and miss her very much. If we could choose we'd want them to live forever with us. Only you will know the right decision and you know in your heart what memories of her you'll have of her on that day. I wish I could give you a hug as I feel for you so much. I'm glad you decided to share your story with us at this forum whom understand so much your indecision and your pain. Whatever you decide to do..it was the right choice for you and her. Marianne and the boys |
| Lori
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Tanya |
| lori thinking of you at this difficult time and sending sheepie hugs your way |
| Thank You everyone. I talked to my vet today and She'll come to my house sunday afternoon and do it. Since my first post she has become worse and I can't stand to see her like this anymore. There are no more good moments for her. She was always very bossy now she doesn't boss the others around at all. Lori |
| Lori- Many of us here know how difficult this is for you. I am so sorry for your pain and having to make this difficult decision. I get all choked up when I read this thread and my heart aches for you. Know that it is a gift you give your beloved sheepie when life has become too difficult. Take some time to just be together. |
| Lori, I know how difficult this is, but just know that you are doing what's best for Gypsy. Spend as much time as you can with her these next few days, and take as much time as you need to grieve. She's had a great life with you and knows how much you love her. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Chris |
| Lori,
As hard as this is for you it is the kindest gift you can give her now. Cherish the hours you have left and remember all the wonderful memories. |
| I just wanted to finish this thread to say that the vet left about an hour ago, Gypsy was put to sleep, it was very peaceful. I'm very sad and it was hard to do. I got some of her fur like you mentioned Tanya, thanks. I only have one picture of her on the photo section. She has all the toys in front of her. She used to steal everyones toys and stack them in her corner. She used to get a kick, out of that. She'd get a twinkle in her eye like she's going to mess with someone. Lori |
| Bless you Lori. My thoughts are with you.
Tanya |
| Lori, Im so sorry for your loss. Just know you did the right thing and Gypsy is now romping and stealing toys in a beautiful place.
Darcy |
| Darcy said it so well.
Hugs to you Lori. Jaci |
| I'm so sorry for your loss ..... |
| Lori,
I just recently found this forum, and read about your beloved Gypsy. I know how hard it is to say good bye to such a loving and devoted friend,one who gives unconditional love.My thoughts are with you. I too had a sheepy named Gypsy she was a pet store puppy pribably from a puppy mill. She had cancer, my children were 5 and 2 at the time. . I came home and found her dead in the family room. She was 11. It was so hard to tell the kids (they are now 26 and22) I was going to have her put down that evening and felt I let her down because she died alone. I put laundry in the washing machine and cried over it so my kids would not hear me! I know how sad you are now and just wanted you to know I know how you feel. I now have 4 dogs two labs , a GSD and a 5 mo sheepy. Cindy |
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