How to handle jealousy of my Havanese?
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| Lots of people assume that all dogs get along. They don't. And not all dogs want a "friend" either. They may see a new puppy as an interloper- someone that will take their resources- namely your attention and your affection and your time away from them. Its really important that you give the puppy and your older dog equal time. And don't count on that time being spent on them together. We've had our new puppy home for 3 weeks, and he only gets to play with our older dogs 3 or 4 times a day. Just this week we've begun giving him LIMITED time wandering around the house with his older siblings, and always supervised. Up until now all play time was out in the yard. We're doing a very slow integration- we want our dogs to live happily together for years to come- so what's the rush? If you continue to have difficulties, consider contacting a trainer who can come into your home and help your dogs integrate more smoothly. |
| I think this is normal. I think it would be ABnormal for everything to go smoothly right from the start. There are several tricks and methods you can look up as far as the introduction but you are past that. Maybe some will still help...Hopefully you didn't just walk righting the door with her. I agree equal time is HUGE, you have to make sure puppy is adjusting and feeling welcome but also 6yr old is still feeling same amount of love as before. It will probably feel like walking on egg shells for awhile, I wish I could put a time frame on it for you. Please don't quote me on this but I believe after about 2 weeks I was much calmer and at ease. I was still following everyone around and there was an occasional nip but usually harmless play. Also keep in mind, I had done extensive research into how to introduce my dogs and had followed advice from my in home trainer. I remember doing things like giving the other dogs treats because they "let" me take Steel out to potty every 15 min. This way they didn't see potty time as him getting so much added attention. Even though they already knew how to sit, stay, down and were past getting treats for it...I started giving them treats again because Steel was getting treats for it. Started a production line for pets and kisses. Every person in my family - no one was allowed to pet just one dog! If you look up introducing a new puppy to your family you will stumble onto a ton of info. |
| I was where you are a little over a year ago. I had just lost Violet and China in January 2014 which left only Asia behind. Asia was about 6 1/2 yrs old. I adopted an 8 week old aussie Declan 5 days before China passed (she had cancer). I introduced Declan right away to Asia and they went through basically what you are going through right now. Puppy is learning dog language and adult is showing puppy the ropes. Good advise to treat old dog and puppy equally when treats are being handed out. Soon Declan became Asia's "boy". He could do no wrong in Asia's eyes. It was really sweet to watch and I think it helped Asia in her grief losing her two sisters so close together. Declan breathed a new life into Asia. She was up running around with him in the yard and in the house, she not turned back to being a lay about anymore. About a month after Declan came I adopted an 8 week old oes, Helene. There was work on having the two accept her, but within short order they were all buddies. I think Asia plays favorites with Declan, but she loves Helene and Helene loves the heck out of her. This past March I adopted another 8 week old oes puppy Mickey Finn and it didn't take long for him to be accepted as well. Most recently, I rehomed Mickey's sister and decided to keep her. She had a rough beginning before she came to us and was so thrilled to be with other dogs. They accepted her within a very short period of time. The important thing is they need to bond, so having them around each other is important. Older dogs will adjust to puppies and will put them in their place, which is what you want them to do so they learn "dog" language when they are out with other dogs. Just watch and interrupt if you feel you need to. DO NOT EVER GET IN THE MIDDLE OF A DOG FIGHT! Grab one by the back legs and pull him out of the fight and it will stop. Don't get bit. Don't leave the puppy alone with the older dog even for a minute until you're sure all is well. If you leave the house, but puppy in crate or other room. Keep them separate at bedtime as well. You don't want anything to happen that you could supervise and everyone needs to sleep. I've been very successful bringing these dogs together and I knew nothing other than what I learned from reading this forum and raising 4 kids. Good luck and enjoy that puppy. Get into some puppy classes too, they are so fun. |
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