Dealing with neighbors is a new thing
I moved from out of city limits to the middle of town. The neighbors are really dog friendly. It is a really dog friendly neighborhood, which is wonderful but there are some neighbors that cross boundaries. I am used to people crossing physical boundaries with lily all the time. Petting her, hugging her, sticking their face in hers. There is this one particular neighbor used to give my sisters dogs treats when he walked by. Today he walked up with his dog and pet Lily. Didn't introduce himself but reached over the fence and pet her. (we all know how sheepies are, *cough,attention whores,cough*) He reached in his pocket and pulled out a treat. I asked him not to give it to her but he gave it to her anyways. I had her drop it and explained to him that she has allergies and can't have it. He said "oh no treats then" and walked off. I don't want to cause issues with new neighbors (especially in such a dog friendly neighborhood) so next time I see him, I am going to offer him treats that he can give to her and explain to him more in detail what happens when she has treats she is allergic to. I do think it was inappropriate for him to give her a treat after I asked him not to and not to ask in the first place. Am I wrong thinking it is out right rude? Is there any other suggestions with dealing with neighbors without dog boundaries? |
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| Since there is a medical issue, you are well within your right to set limits and expect others to do so. Away from the dog, explain to him about this issues and yes, if you have some treats, give them to her. He shouldn't be offended and if he is.......the onus is on him, not you. Once he understands there's a reason why only certain treats are permitted and you enjoy sharing your dog with others......things should work out. I would also warn him some dogs aren't going to be such social whores and a hand coming over the top might be bitten by fearful dogs or those who have a strong guard mentality. Remind him dogs don't reason, they react (yeah, I know they reason but...), it's the uprights who reason. People are easily offended because they jump to conclusions to quickly, aren't properly educated, etc. |
| Yeah I think you were well within your rights. But I think it would be a really smooth thing do to seek out this neighbour and give him a bag of appropriate treats, mention you love people giving Lily attention, but she has allergies so these treats are the good treats, and you would be happy for him to give Lily the good treats when he sees her. |
Give him the vets bill he'll get the message  |
| How can a person trust 100% that what someone is giving your dog is safe, whether the dog has medical restrictions or not? So many treats are made in China and other questionable places and have been proven unsafe. Not sure if there's any way to keep from offending some who mean well. It would be nice if people were informed enough to ask permission before offering treats to someone else's dog. Just try to be as nice as possible and let them know your dog has allergies. If you lose their potential friendship, oh well... |
| We simply carry our own treats and if someone offers them a treat, we ask that they give the dogs one of our treats. It usually works. |
| I don't allow my dogs to accept anything from another's hand unless I have specifically given them permission. If someone does try, I take the treat from them before it reaches the dog. I walk through public parks and who knows what some crazy person might offer my dog. They love food and treats and would gulp it down in a nano second so I don't want them to think taking food from others (who might or might not be a stranger to them) is ever permitted. I just feel safer this way. And I never offer a treat to any other dog without first getting specific permission from their person(s) either. Linda Zimmerman |
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