I am about to lose Merlyn

My so very good friend, Merlyn, is almost 13 years old. He is the only dog I have ever had and we (my wife and 2 kids) love him so desperately. He can't get up without a complete lift and walking is almost out of the question. Arthritis, displaysia (sp?), old age. He beat cancer 2 years ago. We are really having a tough time taking him to the vet "for the last time." It will happen soon, when we feel Merlyn is getting nothing out of life. We make him comfortable, clean his messes, encourage him, love him, pet him and I carry him around (although he has lost weight, he still weighs 70 lbs). This is terrible.
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Most of us have been there, one way or another so we know what you're going through. Be strong for him.

Peace be with you Merlyn.

Vance and Jen
Oh I'm so sorry :( Prayers to Merlin and your family.
So very sad. Sending you prayerful support. All of our bodies wear out before we truly do. Thinking of you, your family, and Merlyn. He knows how wonderful a friend and Dad you have been to him. Continue to love him and cherish him.
I feel for you so much. As Vance says we have all been where you are now. You will always love him and carry him your heart. He does feel your love and when he passes he will trust you and know you have made the right choice.

Thinking of you all. Debs :ghug:
He sound a wonderful dog, and he is a really good age. I will be thinking of you all in this sad time. We have all been there, and know what you are going through. Please be guided by your love for Merlyn and he will tell you when enough is enough.
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. Strength to you during this difficult time. Gentle belly rub to sweet Merlyn.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Like others have said, we have been in the position you are in now and it is not easy. You just want to have them around forever. They are such a big part of your life and it's difficult to let it go. It's been a year for me and the emptiness is still there and so are the tears. You will never forget them. We are here for you. This forum helped me in the healing process. Visit back often.
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So sorry to heat of what you are going through. It is indeed the worst part of having a pet. Remember, you are doing the best thing for him, even though it may not seem that way you know in your heart that he will be better off. Having gone through this a number of times it really does not get easier but in life there is death. His quality of life was waning and his time has come. Best wishes for you and your family.
This part is the pits! After years of good time, you get stuck on these last times, sad, angry it has come, afraid, etc. You will know the time when it comes......it would be nice if he slipped away on his own one night......... The final trip will be tear-filled as will the days after.

He will not want you to suffer, but rather remember the many great years together. And perhaps he will find a replacement in the future to return joy to your heart.
So sorry for what you are going thru, it's a terrible time in all of our lives. He sounds like a wonderful companion.
I am so sorry for anyone faced with this, Merlyn will know one thing, you and your family's love for him. :ghug: :ghug: :ghug:
I am so sorry for your situation. I understand. :(

You will know when the time is right. You are the only ones who can decide the timing and please know that given your love for Merlyn, you are the perfect ones to know the correct time.

You haven't let him go too early and you will find the strength you need when you know the time is right.

Even so, afterwards you will question your decision for a while, precisely because you love him so much. All of this is natural and is something that many of us here have endured, and is part of the grieving process.

One of the very first threads here on oes.org was about the struggle that Joan and I were facing with this issue.
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We're here for you. :ghug:
So very sorry. Special thoughts for you and your family as you love Merlyn to the end.
So very sorry. This is what we all fear the most - yet we all know the day will come...Sending our thoughts and prayers to Merlin and you and your family...He sounds like he lived a long nice life. May the memories get yu through this most difficult time. Hugs and prayers your way :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug:
It's never easy to say goodbye to our best pals. And sadly, it comes all too soon. I'm so sorry for your family and Merlyn. Hugs to all of you :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug:
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Warm thoughts going out to you and Merlyn.
So sorry to hear about Merlyn. That is always the hardest part of sharing your life with a dog. My thoughts go out to your pack at this tough time.
It doesn't matter how many times we go thru this, it never gets any easier. You will always ask yourself "Is there anything else I couldn have done?" I had to let my last dog go due to mobility issues. He was 13 years 4-1/2 months old. OFA excellent hips. As he aged he developed arthritis in his lower spine. He never once had an accident in the house even when he was declining. I can tell you it was definitely the hardest because there were no medical issues involved. My vet was a great help. Over the course of his last year he gave us meds to help with the discomfort. I remember asking him once "You don't I'm keeping him going on too long do you? I don't want him in pain because of me." His answer was plain & simple: "One morning you will walk into your kennel (it's in my house) to let him out & feed him along with the other dogs & when you look at him you will know it is time". And that is exactly what happened. :ghug: to you and your family as you go thru this difficult time.
I'm sorry you are going through this. No matter how long they are in our lives, it is never long enough. Keep in mind something my friend's vet said to her "don't let her last day be her worst day." The animals don't mind crossing the bridge. It's our pain that is hardest to deal with.
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I'm sorry you are going through this. No matter how long they are in our lives, it is never long enough. Keep in mind something my friend's vet said to her "don't let her last day be her worst day." The animals don't mind crossing the bridge. It's our pain that is hardest to deal with.



"Don't let her last day be her worst day" is an excellent and true saying. I look back and think I may have held on to Pooh Bear one day too long, but the arrangements had been made and wound up rushing him in to the vet that morning. I don't think he would have made it one more day at home and I know we needed to go. It was the hardest thing we had to do. I remember the look he gave my son when he helped lift him into the van. He just stared at his face. I never saw that look on Pooh's face. It was as though he knew it was the final goodbye. I slept in the basement the last night with Pooh and was glad I did.
Enjoy every last minute you have with Merlyn. We are here for you.
Losing a dog is always hard. They are not "just dogs" to anyone on this board. Losing an OES has always been devastating to me. Even when you know it is time they leave such a hugle hole in my life when they are gone. They have more presence than any other dog I have known. I like the comment about not letting the last day be the worst day...suffering is harder on them. We never want to let them go but the kindest thing to do is to help them on their way when it is time. :ghug:
Thank you all so much for your thoughful and generous support. Thank you.
As others have said letting go is the hardest part of loving these wonderful animals. I agree you will know when you have to let go. That doesn't make it any easier though.
I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers. We are all here for you during this difficult time.

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Bonnie/ Carley's Mom
So sorry about Merlyn.
I have been there myself and have no words only my deepest, deepest empathy.
Merlyn knows how much you love him!!!! :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug:
Oh so sorry. I know this is difficult. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Enjoy the time you have with him.
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I'm so sorry.
:ghug: I'm sorry. One of the worst experiences in life in my opinion.
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Merlyn sounds like a wonderful friend.
It is always so hard to say goodbye to unconditional love. Just remember when you help ease his suffering it is your last act of love for your beloved companion. My heart breaks for you at this very emotional time, but as vance said we have all been through this. It does not make it easier ,just know, we here at OES.org are here for you. My thoughts are with you and your family. It will be one of the hardest things you have ever done. He sounds like a wonderful sheepdog.
Merlyn is a lucky dog to have loved and been loved so well. I wish you grace during this difficult time. It is always heartbreaking but knowing you are giving him your great love and respect when he needs you most is some small consolation , I hope.
I am so sorry for your Merlyn.
Take care in these tough days.
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The heartbreak that comes at this time is so bad. I felt this way when Doris and Rosie had cancer - you think you will never ever get over the loss - you never will. But the pain eventually subsides. These dogs are true soul mates once you have had one you think there will never be a replacement. Nothing can replace that special relationship, just like losing a friend or a family member, you can never get them back.
My greatest help to get over the loss of Doris after I agonised over her death was to get Rosie - I lost Doris just before Christmas and spiralled down into a deep depression which is how I came to find this website, I looked at happy pictures of other Sheepies, watched videos and just generally wallowed in sheepieless misery until one day about 2 months later I decided I just needed a distraction and I decided maybe a puppy was a distraction. It would not be Doris and would never ever be the soul mate that Doris was but it would make me get up and out of the house and be a talking point that wasn't about not seeing the iconic dog that Doris had been around the village. Rosie arrived and she didn't look like Doris and she certainly was not ever going to replace Doris!. She had a disconcerting blue eye which I had not been used to.
How silly of me to think that you can't love another sheepie as much as the one you just lost. Rosie became another soulmate - in a different way. Grieve your imminent loss but be sure that there is another sheepie puppy or maybe a rescue dog that Merlin has lined up for you - to take care of your hearts just the way you have taken care of his. My heart is breaking for you right now stay with him till the last minute - it helps to know they are out of painand suffering and waiting at the rainbow bridge for you.
We took Merlyn in last Thursday (today is Tuesday). It was done in a classy manner but was still horrible. Thank you again to all you great people that have helped me through this. I will never forget the lessons Merlyn taught me. I will always love you, Merlie.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Merlyn sounds like he was extremely well loved.
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So sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss of Merlyn. Thank you for being so strong for him.
We understand the anguish you're feeling. Please know it does get easier over time and the hurt will begin to fade but those wonderful lessons and beautiful memories will remain.

Run free, Merlyn. Run free.
I am so sorry you have lost Merlin. Sheepies make very huge pawprints in your heart, so he will always be with you. He is the wind that whispers in the trees, a sunny day, a laugh. Thank you for loving him. Go and find all our sheepies over the Bridge Merlin, run free xx
Oh I am so sorry :( This is such a difficult time. Please know that you are not alone. Sending hugs!
I'm so sorry for your loss. Run free Merlyn.
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I am sorry for your loss. We all shed tears when another one of us loses their family member. It is a loss that seems like only all of us here understand. I felt like my heart was ripped out of my body. I felt so empty inside. It was such a hollow feeling that is hard to describe. It does get easier, but it doesn't take much to get the tears flowing again, like now. We adopted Angus 2 months after we lost Pooh Bear. He will never be Pooh, and then again, Pooh never was like Angus. Angus mended a tear in our hearts and found his own place there. All of our loved ones are running together, every once in a while visiting us here to watch over us when we don't expect it. They will never be far from your heart. Cherish your memories of Merlyn.
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I'm sorry the end finally came. Yes, dogs teach us so much! Rejoice you had him in your family and remember him always. The hole he leaves in your heart never really heals, but that's because he's always there, close to you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Run free Merlyn.

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Cindy
So very sorry for your loss. Special thoughts are with you during this tough time. :ghug:
I am so sorry for your loss.
Having been there myself I know it is such a terrible time.
Wishing you happy memories and a peaceful heart.
Oh so so sorry! It is difficult to say the least. He and you were lucky to have each other.
Having just gone through this, I know your anguish all too well. Time will ease our
suffering... we'll some day be able to look at pictures of our beloved companions
without hurting so much. I know... hard to believe that right now.
Wishing you peace...
Merlyn passed away at the end of September. I am very thankful to you all for your kind words.
So very, very sorry about your loss.
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