Going gray? ME not the dogs..
I have my hair dyed every 3 weeks. I am so sick and tired of wasting time, sitting there with smelly junk on my hair for 45 minutes only to have to go again so soon. I am fifty-something years young so I think I am entitled to gray hair. Dino, DH has been silver ( that is what men do...they 'silver' and women 'gray'...  ) for the last 10 years. Even my son, Nick is almost all silver at 33. I LOVE it~~~ I think it makes a man look sooo distinguished. I know Carol (oesmom2) is almost done going gray and she looks so good!!!! Just thought I would throw it out there~~~ In about 3 months, I will be taking pictures of 'GRAMMIE VAL' and her new look~~~ ((At least we will ALL match .....from Dino...to Coz....to Pearl..to Heart...to MEEEEEE~~~))  |
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sheepieshake wrote: Dino, DH has been silver ( that is what men do...they 'silver' and women 'gray'... ) for the last 10 years.Yeah, maybe the lucky ones, the rest of us men just go 'bald'  I know Mady will bum-wiggle for you regardless of your hair colour! |
| I did it last year and love it..no more hair dye..it looks frosted..use to spend a fortune and many hours having it frosted in my 30s. Biggest difference is hair color added body...my hair is fine..Still prefer natural look. My Mom has spent the past 25 years dying her hair blonde...I think it makes her look even older..just about every woman in St Pete FL over 60 has blonde hair, dark tanned skin and lots of makeup! Grams rock! |
 Might be a lovely match to your dogs!!!Wonder why it's not any fun at all for us women to look distinguished  I have just began to dye my hair.......getting more and more grey hair between the red. And it sure takes a lot of money and time; I've always thought that I would let it be natural, I've never dyed before.  What's happening? More than old enough for silver hair...... Wish you good luck!  |
I have been waffeling about this for a long time. I stopped going to the salon a few years ago because they kept raising the prices. I got my formula and have been doing it myself. I seems now that it has become a real effort. Yesterday I went for a haircut @ Fantastic Sams(it's a chain) and started asking questions about "blending my silver blond" with the rest of my hair. As it turns out, I'm white in the front, lots of it, and the silver blond is throughout. It can be done and then I would be all done coloring my hair. From a vanity point, I think it will add 20 years to my looks. Not sure if I'm ready for that. I may blend with Oliver my sheepie but not with my Golden Abbey. She has red hair. It is nice to know there are options. It would be expensive but it would also be the last time.  And Remember, it is SILVER BLOND!!!! |
I will be ready when my hair is at that point yet: still the half gray, faded dead mouse stage. I am getting silvers in my eyebrows  and am working through how to disguise that.The biggest issue for me is that people tell me I look far younger than my years. I am mid 50's and most people guess me in my early 40's--btw, these are people in their late 20's to early 30's---so I am their mothers' age and they think I look a lot younger than their moms. My hair stylist thinks gray wouldn't match my face. That said, a former co-worker went all silver/white very prematurely (she's at least 10 years younger than I am) and it looks lovely on her because she has beautiful pink/white complexion, and completely unlined and unwrinkled. I can't make that claim. Still, looking forward to someday ditching the dye and going not only gray but also going back to my old braid down the back, or a nice bun. Hah! Also not sure how to do the transition. I was never a blonde and I would not look good blonde of any sort so I can't do the silvery blonde thing. I also prefer not to have super short hair, which is one strategy that is recommended for transitioning. Can't wait to see the pictures! |
| One of the savvy girls here in the office, is telling me to foil the roots (crown) with highlights so that way the ends will gray and underneath will gray, but I won't have a SKUNK LINE!!!!!! In truth, this is what has been stopping me when I think about going gray. I can't stand the grow out and the comments from the kids..ya know????????  |
| I won't do it. My 88 year old aunt still colors her hair...I am in it for the long haul! |
| I've been getting mine done with hi and low lights. My hair in front is pretty grey or silver so with the hi-lights I only have to do it 3-4 months apart and it all blends. I am going to be overdue when I do it again but have had some unexpected expenses so it looks good enough for now. |
| I suppose it depends on your "natural" hair color. Those of you with light brown to blond hair can make that transisition easier. My natural color is that very dark brown that most people call "black". About the only thing I ever really liked about myself was my hair! I started coloring years ago when I stated to go grey because I hate the look of the grey mixing in with dark hair......makes it dull & dead looking. I gradually went lighter & lighter up to a light brown /dark blonde but it just didn't look good on me. That happens when you are olive complected. I was hoping if I could get to a light brown it could silver out more naturally. Not to be. I am now back to a medium brown which is dark enough to look natural but not so dark as to look fake on me at my age. My hairdresser says I am pretty solid grey all the way thru but my husband says he just dosen't think I'd look good all grey. So I continue to color And Val, you are right. Women go grey & just look old & men who silver out (even 1/2 silver & 1/2 bald like my DH) look distinguished! |
I love grey hair!!!!!!  I keep waiting for mine to come in!!!! Maybe it is just me but I usually guess people's ages on their face and not their hair. So I don't think hair color really disguises age. My sister-in-law who is just two years older than me went all grey a few years ago. I love it on her. It looks beautiful. And doesn't Paula O. have some grey in her hair? I thought her hair was lovely too when she was in town visiting. I want grey hair. |
| Re: men and hair color and aging. I met and married my husband (light brown hair, blue eyes, fair skin) in the 70's, which meant that he had a full and very long beard. Throughout all of these years, except for one year, he had the full beard and I have never actually seen his upper lip: mustache always. The beard is neatly trimmed now, and distinguished looking, rather than rebellious looking. He is much grayer than I am, including his nearly white beard. He also looks a lot older than I do: is offered senior discounts, the whole nine yards. A couple of years ago, he had to have surgery for cancer and people asked me frequently if he was going to retire soon. If only we could. I swear I will retire the second he does, if not sooner. Because his skin color is much lighter than mine and because he spent more time on a beach than I did as kids, his skin looks much older than mine. He talks about shaving it all off because he thinks that will make him look younger. It might, but I have my doubts. Now, if he'd let me talk him into using skin creams, etc,. his skin might bounce back a little, but his crows feet are very very deep. I am 5 months younger and barely have any lines or wrinkles. He won't consider hair color (someone in his dept. does and is quietly ridiculed behind his back for it. Might not be if he weren't such an *ss otherwise, but hair color is much easier to change than character) so he's stuck with the gray. Oh, except he's also thinning on top.....Mostly he carries himself 'older' somehow. Most people tell me I seem much more youthful than my years. My father was, too, right up until suddenly, he wasn't. When he started to get sick, he really started to lose much of his youthful sparkle. The way I explain it is that my husband is easier to live with than I am, so he shows the years more. |
Quote: I will be ready when my hair is at that point yet: still the half gray, faded dead mouse stage My hair has always been dead mouse color, just bloody awful. Mom started bleaching it when I was about 9 or 10. The few times I've let it grow out since I was disgusted and quickly started coloring again. Last time, about 20 years ago (  ) friend was standing above me outside and said, "Wow! Look at all the grey!" I think it was pale dead mouse, not grey. Anyway, out came the bottle again. Well, about 10 days ago I got "scalped" at the beauty shop...1-1.5 inches. Now would be the time to let it go. I know there are light areas but I still see plenty of shadows under there........I'm within a day or two of coloring.......give me strength! I can't give up platinum blonde unless it's white under there and I know that's not in the cards. It's hard enough having a "biker dyke" hair cut but I'm not sure I'm ready for the resulting old half dead grey mouse color. |
| Makes me mad that my husband's hair is still brown, sparse but no grey, his beard is almost white. His mother wasn't very gray when she passed away in her 70's so guess it's all in your genes. |
You amercians spell funny.   Grey not Gray.!!!!Now we wont talk about not only on top, eye brows too A few have appeared on me, blame it on the sun and bleaching  Well that's my story and I'm sticking to it. At the moment, I am boring mousey brown with a few High lights, yep the odd grey but not bad enough to colour YET People grow old gracefully  |
| Hair colour (not color, you funny Americans ) is such a weird thing. Not only do men go silver and distinguished but women go grey but there are different perspectives on going grey. For example my Mom is very salt and pepper, I think that is what you guys are referring to when you say dead mouse. I take after my Dad and started going silver not grey, yes it actually glints under flourescent lights, in my thirties. Some years ago I was talking to my Mom about grey hair. She said proudly "I am growing old gracefully and NOT dying my hair!" I laughed and said "I am growing old gracefully AND dying my hair". The look of shock on her face was priceless. She'd never thought of the two perspectives. |
| I've decided to go blue merle. |
| I know several women who have the lovely silver grey (note the correct spelling) hair. Mine is the dead mouse color. Val, you gotta have highlights/lowlights. Those are the only way to cover the grey. My hairdresser uses bleach so I go every 3 months. I figure 2 hours every 3 months is worth it. Wash-in color is too temporary. I refuse to grow old, gracefully or ungracefully. There is a portrait of me in some attic......  |
| mouse brown, at least in my case, lacked any rich color. It was not dish water blonde--my aunt's color or a rich brown with auburn overtones like my mothers. No brown with gold tones. It was just an ugly light brown undefined. The closest I can come is ash.......and that was when I was 9 years old. Not grey just no rich color. I have 2 lockets of hair, one from 1 year old and one from 5. The early was blonde, the later is showing the deceased rodent moving in. From what I can gather is now; white in spots, silver grey in others and my old friend, dead mouse in the back and on the sides. Friends say I look 10 years younger as a blonde (vs. red head) and another 10 with this pixie/spike depending if I mousse or not. Gee, what will it take to get back to ....20? or even 40?? Surely not going grey. And as for Ron's suggestion: merle blue.......that may be easier than you realize what with the anti-yellow rinse so many older women.......used to use. Don't see it much anymore. I'm slowly coming around to "what the hell". I'm not working, not in public limelight, so why not?? |
| I started with highlights and lowlights 2 years ago. My hair is a dark brown, with a few gray (not grey) hairs mixed in. My father had naturally dark hair until he passed at 60. We attribute it to our Cherokee blood. |
| No, no: salt and pepper = pretty. That's not what I've got but I'd be happy to take salt and pepper. Dead mouse is just dead mouse. Lifeless, faded, nondescript brown that can only be described as dead mouse. Mousey is not mousey enough. As though most of the color and all of the life had been leached out. Please note emphasis on lifeless. My hair was originally a nice rich dark brown. In certain light, there were auburn highlights. In the summer, front parts bleached lighter, not quite blonde but not dead mouse: full of life and full of light highlights. Now, what isn't gray is just a faded dead mouse color--with random remaining dark hair mixed in. But this is why God invented hair dressers. Mine is a genius when it comes to coloring hair. |
| Mine is a dishwater blonde with grey in the front. The grey is in patches. As long as that is the way it is greying I will get it colored. I agree about the men. It is not fair that they look much better as they grey then we do. Dale looks better with grey at the temples but now he is getting a bald spot which makes him look older. |
| Us girls at work call them Sparkles. My mom had beautiful silver white hair. I am in my early 40's and have alot of grey so I color mine every 4 weeks. It's not time to be sparkley yet. For me that is. Lisa Frankie and Mattie |
tgir wrote: But this is why God invented hair dressers. Mine is a genius when it comes to coloring hair. OMG, isn't that the truth!!!  My stylist Kim is wonderful. My daughters both tell me to make sure I never piss her off.  They love her as much as I do, because she keeps mom looking hip and fashionable...ok, from the neck up anyway!! They noted I was growing my hair out (Kim suggested we do that, so I have more styling options for Lisa's wedding in August). I had to correct them - "No, KIM is growing my hair out!" They laughed, but totally agreed - they are very aware that she calls the shots. Every recommendation she makes is a success, so they know I just blindly let her do whatever she wants with my hair.  And last count I was deemed "20% grey", so I'll keep coloring...both my parents kept their natural colors with little grey for a long time. |
| My Great Grandmother had the most BEAUTIFUL LONG gray hair ever. I remember sitting on her bed at the nursing home and brushing it. My mom dye'd her hair until she went into the nursing home. And she kept it real short and she had the most beautiful silvery gray hair too. Me? I've been highlighting my hair for so long....... But i know that if i let it go a little 'too' long, that i can see how gray i am coming in.. Ahhhhh that's the Texan in me. Will continue......... don't do the sun thing but i will continue to be a blonde! |
| Probably why men grey so well is they don't have long hair. By being short and frequent cuts the transition is not noticeable....well, not distracting. Only when they let their hair get long does it become apparent....or it starts falling off the top and coming out the nose and ears. I don't think it fair, DH was a tow head blonde as a child, as adult light blonde and when he turned white it just "sorta happened." At least to him. I've been cutting his hair since marriage so I noticed the change and grumbled to myself.......not fair, not fair. |
I was standing in line at the checkout at Walmart's, there was a woman who was standing in front of me that told me she had gone grey very young and so had adjusted, but recently her hair dresser had streaked color through it. Her hair looked really nice, it had a "bob" back stack look. (I used to wear my hair that way, nice wash/wear style) and the brown streaks through out looked very natural. She said she was just getting used to the new color, but would probably grow her hair back out to her shoulders. lol I told her that "grey" hair growing out seems to be a common subject of conversations lately.  |
| I finally stopped coloring about 1 1/2 years ago, after coloring for 25 years. I, too, was at the point of having to color every 3 weeks. I figured, I'd passed the 55 milestone and it was time for me to accept it, lol! The last time I got it colored I had her do it a very light brown with lots of highlights so the grow out period wouldn't be so painful. I'm so happy I did it! No more money on salons or boxes, no more endless time getting it done. It's grown out a really nice silvery white color and I actually get compliments from people! I did figure out how to change a few things....I had a makeover to learn how to use makeup that better compliments the new gray. (when I wear it) I wear glasses, so changed from wearing brown or black ones to some really stylish turquoise ones. I wear more color in clothes. There's a great website called "Going Gray Looks Great" that has great tips about all thing gray, including how to endure the transition. Good luck!  |
| Yes, there is a color change. I still have enough gold in the hair to be able to wear gold jewelry, but my "all white" friends are totally into silver. In fact one just returned from state swimming championships and was laughing, "I didn't need all that gold, the silver medals go with my hair!" Turquoise is a good neutral........as it goes with warm and cool toned skins. Purple is another. I need a big mirror and sunlight to investigate the state of affairs in Root Zone. I'm sensing any root touch ups might be sectional........if I drop to a darker overall blonde I might be able to end all this........ |
| Last nite at the Santa Fe opera I wash chatting with people around me and we got to talking about other operas we've seen recently. Nixon in China came up (yes,it's an opera) and the lady from Boston area turned to me and said, "You're too young to remember Nixon" and went on. This super short bleach blonde hair is wonderful, I'm never letting the grey come in!! |
Val and anyone one thinking of trying GRAY/GREY try it you might like it  My head went "prematurely gray" at 19  I started coloring at 23. After many many long years, at 49 I said enough After 9 wonderful years of not coloring (yes I'm 58 and proud of it), I ask myself why did I do it for so long What's the worst that can happen. You really don't like it and start coloring again. As for those who say they really don't like their color of grey, give it a chance. My SIL says she'd let her's go if it looked like mine . When I look in the mirror DH(her brother) color looks just like mine....Here's a recent picture of me and "princess" Ripley.... judge for yourselves. The nice thing about this day and age, color if you want, don't if that suits you better. Pat  |
| Pat, your hair is beautiful! I'm not going to fight it. I hope when I go grey it looks that pretty but even if it doesn't, I am not going to start coloring. My hair grows incredibly fast, and I'm not up for the maintenance. I'd have roots every 2 weeks. Nope, just going natural and hoping for the best. Thankfully it hasn't started yet! |
| The reason I color to platinum blonde is it is the closest I can get to your lovely color! |
| Pat, your hair is gorgeous!! |
got sheep wrote: Pat, your hair is gorgeous!! I agree it looks very nice on you. Think I'm going to give up on the hi and lo lights, getting too expensive and I'm still mostly ash blond with gray on the top so it can all blend. |
| Pat....I am GOING for it!!!!!!! You look great!!!!!!!!!!! I DID ask Dino what he thought of me going grEy.....(Webster;'s Dictionary says either E or A is correct!! )~~I digress.... He said... """I think you will look beautiful..and the best part of it all...we WILL be matchy..matchy YOU..................ME...................................AND..............the DOGS!!!!!!"" gosh...I luv that man!!!!!!   |
| val, made me think of my youngest as a toddler, "da same, da same" now will this require more bling or less? |
| oh...I imagine...MORE bling for Heart!!!!!! so she will STAND out...because we ALL know.. it's all about HEART!!!!! |
| I love grey hair! You go Val!  |
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