They say time heals
Commercials, Radio spots, sitcoms. Everything is about Mothers day. I just wish I could live in a hole the first half of May. I sure miss my mom. Tears Lisa Frankie and Mattie |
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 I am so sorry... I bet she is smiling down on you and so proud of the person you are! |
| Lisa, I know just how you feel. My mother and I had a wonderful relationship -- Until I was 13, and then again once I moved out of her house that is! I could always rely on my mother, she was my ultimate protector. If I ever needed a boost or wanted to complain about something or someone outside the family, she always was on my side. She understood me so well and could never keep a straight face in the presence of my sense of humor. Even right at the end. Time will continue to dull the pain but the warm memories remain. Next year when you see the Mother's Day ads you'll still feel the pain, but it will pass and when you think of your mother just a hint of a smile will cross your lips. And that time, it probably won't fade into tears like it does now. |
This will be my first Mother's Day without my mother. Of course I miss her, but I also am happy she is not miserable, suffering from her various maladies. I can still hear her voice, "This is your mother calling...." which usually was code for "haven't heard from you for awhile."  She was a great mother, doing all she could for her 4 children but also knowing when to step back. She didn't wear herself down like today's mothers trying to provide everything for her children. If we wanted something, we didn't just snap our fingers, we had to earn it if she thought it was something that would benefit us. I never did get that dog I wanted as a child...I had to get one by myself and care for it by myself after I left home. We were taught to respect everyone by watching her. If she was upset or mad at others, it never showed. For years I heard what a wonderful mother I had........and I think a lot of it was because of the way she treated everyone, with respect. (the only time I remember her bad mouthing someone was after work in the hospital, "Those stupid women don't understand breast feeding, what did they think breasts were for??") Happy Mothers Day to all you mothers and daughters & sons of great mothers! |
| Lisa: I know what you mean about Mother's Day...I feel the same way. My Mom went to Heaven 10 yrs ago this August..her birthday is May 13th. My sisters found my Dad passed away on Mother's Day 2003. When we were planning my Dad's funeral we made sure it wasn't on Mom's Birthday, so it was the 14th...so I know why I cringe when the ads for Mother's Day begin. That day is still very painful to me, as is the first part of the monthi. I have 3 children and a step son that i have to hide my pain from and make it through the day. When my granddaughter was born last November, the first thing I thought was to call my Mom..even after almost 10 yrs. I was very lucky to have had great parents. Mother's Day will be over soon, tg. |
| Thankfully I still have my mother, but I feel the same way about Father's Day, as my father is over the bridge, probably playing with the dogs. I have learned to appreciate those twinges of pain. How wonderful to have had someone so important in your life that it makes your heart ache once in a while when you remember them. My father has been gone 10 years now, and the twinges are less frequent, even though I think of him every day. I hope they never fade completely, but I am happy that it is just less often. I do have issues with people complaining about 'having to visit their mother/father on Mothers'/Fathers' Day. I must confess, I usually pipe up and say how I wish I still had my father to visit. Yes, it is mean of me, and it makes them feel bad, but they SHOULD feel bad for taking their parents for granted. Of course, I don't say that to people who were not fortunate enough to have wonderful parents like I did. So time heals, the pain won't be as sharp, and the thoughts will increasingly be accompanied by a smile instead of a twinge, but I don't think that it ever goes away, so learn to embrace it. Please remind me of this when the time comes that I lose my own mother. |
| Lisa. I lost my mom about 20 years ago. (My dad died when I was only 8 years old). I am thankful that she was very healthy and active until the day she died. A blod clot took her from me. I am tearing up as I type, and it is very selfish of me, I know. She is with my dad and I know is watching out for all of us. Some days I miss her so much..but other days I find great comfort that she is with me, in my heart and in my soul. I am sad she never got to dance at my children's weddings, she loved to dance~~ But, again, her spirit was there. I felt it!!! Kim, I know what you mean...when people complain about their parents..I get sooo mad. I want to yell ""Please take every day as a gift! They may be gone tomorrow!"" but, of course, I don't. I know there were times when I complained about her..I am ashamed to say. And Ron...I feel exactly like you. My mom was my anchor in life. I always felt that, no matter what I did in life, as horrible as it could be, my mom may not have liked it, or even understood it...but she would always, always LOVE me unconditionally!!..I miss that most of all!! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY....TO ALL!!!!! |
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