my dad just died ...
my dad died yesterday between late afternoon and evening. His friend found him today laying in the livingroom on his beloved sofa. It seems like he did his loving garden and then layed down for a sleep as he always did. but this time he just never woke up.  Maybe the best way to die??Just not the right time as he would have had in 3 weeks his 80th birthday and I booked holidays for over a week to see him and we would have had a huge party for him. Also my birthday would have been just 2 days after his and I would have stayed for my birthday too. He was very much looking forward to it! My brothers and me will drive to Hamburg tomorrow to sort his house out and make it ready for sale and organise the funeral. A strange way to come back to his house .... Max is not coming, he cant bare the look of his house without my dad being there. He stays at home with Charlie while I will go for a week until we sorted everything. |
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| Monica I'm so sorry to hear your news. Its so hard to lose our loved ones. And its such a disappointment that your Dad passed just before you all got together for Birthday celebrations. I was just wondering how you and Max were going yesterday. I'll be thinking of you  and saying prayers for you, Max, your family and your Dad. |
| Monica, I am so sorry about your dad. It is so difficult to lose a parent. It's just not right. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Rest assured your dad is looking out for you still. |
| I'm so sorry to read this. But I like to think you are correct; he probably had a nice time working in his garden and took one of those wonderful afternoon naps that feels so indulgent and then just drifted away. While 80 might be early for passing, one has to admit that the way he went sounds very peaceful. A quiet end to a life that sounds like it was full of the love of his children. Small consolation, but I hope some consolation all the same. You and Max are in my thoughts! |
| Monika, I am so sorry for you and Max. As you described it, it seems such a peaceful way to go. Just a normal day, enjoying home and garden, taking a forever nap. for you and your family, as you adjust to this sudden loss. |
| Monika I am very sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in our thoughts. |
| Monika, I'm truly sorry for your loss. Yes, it would have been nice to have had that party, but he knew you were coming which also gave him great joy. Knowing he had a loving daughter who was eager to see him and share your two birthdays no doubt gave him many happy moments. It is a very peaceful way to go, for that be grateful. I'm sorry Max is still having trouble, I hope he continues to fight his way out of his darkness. Hugs to your fuzzface Charlie. susan |
| Oh I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers and thoughts to you and your family. |
| How devastating. I am so sorry. At least it was peaceful. |
| I have great sympathy for your loss. It is so hard but eventually the good memories will outshine the pain of missing him. |
| So sorry for your loss...will keep you in thoughts and prayers while you go through this tough time. This is the part of life that is so hard to deal with...I just like to think our love ones cross over to a great place and await us and they continue to be by our side. |
| My sympathies go out to you and your family Sounds like your dad went very peacefully after enjoying what he enjoys most - his garden. Try to think of that and be at peace....God bless him and you...You are in my thoughts and prayers. |
| Monika: I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. As the others said it sounds like he had an ordinary day and then passed peacefully. ((Hugs)) to you and Max as you go through your griefing time. Hugs to Charlie as well. Have a safe trip preparing everything. Max is in my prayers hoping he will feel better soon. |
| Monika- so very sorry to hear about your loss. Please find comfort in knowing he went peacefully. |
| I'm so very sorry for your loss. |
| I am so sorry to hear about your dad. |
So sorry to hear sending hugs over to you at this sad time.  |
| Monika I am so sory for your loss. No matter how long we have them it is never long enough.We are always the children and tthey are our momma and daddy. He seemed to have a good day enjoyed his garden and took his nap,it still is hard My thoughts are with you at this time Cindy |
| so very sorry for your loss hugs to you and your family |
| It's hard to lose a parent. We know it's going to happen at some point, but that doesn't make it easier. I am so sorry. My f-i-l took a nap last year (on Aug 14th) and never woke up. He, like your dad, was living at home and doing the things he wanted to do. A dignified death. No hospital or nursing home, decent health. Going through his things was hard, but it brought back some good memories and there was laughter at times - I wish that for you. |
| Hugs to you and Max. Your dad went so peacefully, it was nice for him that he didn't suffer but so sad for you and your family. Will be thinking of you xx |
| Monika I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It's very hard to lose a parent. Hugs to you and your family. Lisa and Frankie |
| My condolences, I'm sorry to hear this. |
| No matter weather they are old and sickly or young and robust, its still hard when a parent passes. Making it to 80 and still being able to enjoy life is still a big thing in this day and age. Both my parents died in their 70's and neither was in very good health. My condolences to you and your family. |
| I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is. Take care of yourself while you grieve. |
| My heart goes out to you and Max. I'm so sorry. |
| I'm terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your father, Monika. Hugs to you and Max during this very difficult time. |
| Monika, I'm so sorry |
| So sorry for your loss! |
| I am so sorry to hear about your dad |
| So very sorry for your loss--special thoughts and prayers for you and your family. |
| Thank you everyone, me and Max came back yesterday from Hamburg. My dad's funeral was on friday. It was the only day in the week where we had sunshine. It was a lovely day if you can say that! If my dad was watching he defenitly would have loved his own funeral. He was a singer in his local choir and his friends from the choir where singing for him, it was really lovely! All my brothers came, some with their wifes and also some of their kids. We all stayed for about a week in Elmshorn (he lived in Elmshorn, that about 30 minutes from Hamburg) to sort things out like his papers, the funeral, the coffin etc. etc. The hardest thing was to sort out which coffin we would like, I was just crying all the time! My youngest brother and me tooked the chance to see him face to face two days before the funeral. It was good for me as I was alone with my brother to say goodbye and see him one more time. He did look different as usually but it helped tremendoes with the pain especially because he had a cheeky smilee on his face like he wanted to do something naughty like a little boy. Since then it's easier for me to take it all in When they played at the funeral his fav song all his friends started to sing which made me cry too, it was lovely. I'm sure he was there watching us! We dressed him in style and that's how he was in his life! He never used to buy loads of stuff cause he wanted to keep all his money for his children even if we told him to take care and also have a great time for himself. We now have to sell his house to pay all the kids (his last wife had 3 daughters aswell, so we divide it to 7!) It was hard to discuss who wants which items!!! My mom was a great help by looking after Max. Soon some days later Max wanted to come aswell and I organised a flight for him to Hamburg and my mom looked after Charlie. So Max could be there aswell, he was very very sad but it helped him seeing everyone crying too and beeing in the same position. Max will join a new hospital where he will stay for many month until he feels better. They also will find out what job will suit him and will then organise him a new apprentice. I think that sounds good for his future! Thank you again to everybody for your great condolence!!! xx |
| Monika, I am sorry about the loss of your dad. |
| It sounds like a beautiful service for your Dad, Monika. How lovely that his choir friends came to sing. I'm glad you took the opportunity to farewell your Dad with your brother. Everyone is different but I know it helped me to realise that my Dad was actually gone when I went to farewell him with my Mom, brothers and sister after he passed away unexpectedly. |
| oh no! I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. It sounds as if it was a lovely service and your dad was given the tribute he deserved. Reading your post I couldn't help but think many people given the choice would choose to pass like your dad did. Spending the day in his beloved garden and sleeping in his favorite chair knowing he was loved by all his family. Marianne |
| Monika I am very sorry for your loss. I will say a prayer for dad and for your family. |
| I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. |
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