Tears
This is the third time today I have just broken down crying while reading the posts Lisa and Frankie |
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I'm ashamed to admit it, but I rarely read that section  . The reason is exactly what you're saying. Any time i do, I wind up sobbing. I also always wish I had the eloquence of some of the folks on here, who can come up with wonderful words of comfort...I just end up tongue-tied and useless there   |
ravenmoonart wrote: I'm ashamed to admit it, but I rarely read that section
. The reason is exactly what you're saying. Any time i do, I wind up sobbing. I also always wish I had the eloquence of some of the folks on here, who can come up with wonderful words of comfort...I just end up tongue-tied and useless there Sadly ditto. I don't read the section for the same reason. |
| I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't know what to say in that situation. I'm always afraid I'm going to say the wrong thing.
Lisa |
| I HATE reading that section. I always get very upset, and I know that NOTHING I say can make a difference in how the person writing about their passed dog feels. But today I had to read; I loved seeing Lola's photos, and reading her mom's posts. So devastating. |
| That's the one that made me post this. I'm still upset so young
Lisa |
| I also dislike reading that section but I do. Because someday I will be posting there about my experience. I really think that you cannot say the wrong thing to someone who is experiencing grief. It's always better to say something, anything, than nothing. |
| I hate reading the section and get very upset too but I agree with Paula, I think its important to offer support as my experience when I've lost furkids is that lots of people just dont get how important they are to me.
I often dont know what to say but I'll always at least post hugs |
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I may not only post but please realize I'm also crying in my heart for the lost pups and their devastated owners. |
| Oh sorry I hope you didnt read my comment as a criticism, It wasnt meant that way, its just how I deal with it but everyone is different and I know some would rather not even read the section which is fine. |
| I some times wait till I think I can emotionally handle it. Lately I've just been diving in and reading about the youngsters, especially, is like getting kicked in the gut.
I rarely know what to say either and hate whatever I end up writing because it is hopelessly inadequate, but I know there are others who will find the right words and so I'm just adding my voice to the many to say we're sorry, we understand what you're going through and we grieve with you. I'm sure it's nobody's favorite section and I don't blame those who avoid it. There are days I can't handle it either and reading about the young ones makes me not only sad but angry at the unfairness of it all and my helplessness in making those posts obsolete. Don't ask me to explain that last part. Kristine |
| I had never gone there before today. But I had to read about Lola. When my husband came up from his shower I was sobbing uncontrollably. I couldn't go to that section when we lost Portage either. Too hard. Too painful.
I can't even think the words rainbow bridge without crying. Today the dogs gave their daddy a Valentine's Day gift. A photo mug with about 25 pictures of all five of our sheepies (past and present). He loved it, but teared up. I guess he has his own "rainbow bridge" moments too. |
| I guess death is a part of life. If we didn't tear up when we read this section then it would mean that these dogs really didn't mean much to any of us. I think we all feel the same way but just express it differently. It may not be the easiest thing to do but responding to someone who has lost their dog means a lot to them. I don't think most people care what you say as long as they can tell you care enough to say something. |
| I don't like reading that section because I know I always end up sobbing after reading the post.
Although I never know what to say I always leave hugs as i have been in their situation and i know how comforting it is to read the posts and to know that someone understands what I was going through at the time. |
| I dread when I see a 'rainbow' thread, but I do read them, cry, hug whichever dog is closest at the time and then try to say something comforting, (((and always falling short...)))
But I know that whoever is posting needs all of our support, understanding and acceptance. Only 'dog' people can empathize with what they are going through ~~~ the grieving process is just that, a process that takes time and love to get through.... |
| As one who has had to post there more than I care to remember let me assure everyone that even just "I'm sorry" means a lot. That someone took the time to read the post and respond in some way is a huge comfort. Despite our differences on other threads these posts unite us all. |
| I always read the Bridge posts, as I know when we lost Katy it was such a comfort to me. It doesnt matter what you put you can just put the Hug emoticon. I have cried so much today over Lola, Pogo and then Ella.
I am not a cat person but on another forum a cat rescue team captured an old cat who had been feral for years. The instruction was to take him to vets to be pts. He was supposed to be viscious, he also had mange and fleas. The women took him to the vets but when they got him out of the basket he started to purr and they fussed him and he loved it. They decided to do blood tests on him and general health check. He was in the vets a week and responded well to care from the nurses, but his blood tests came back and they realised how ill he was. One of the rescue ladies held him whilst he went over the Bridge. See crying again...hopeless. xx |
| I am devastated by the losses in our community. I find it impossible not to empathise with everyone who has a loss, and sometimes absorbing the losses by my friends is so overwhelming leaving me drained and speechless I can barely whisper a few words of consolation. |
| My heart goes out to all of us when it is our turn to post that we've lost a companion. As someone who has lost and received all the wonderful posts from fellow members, I can tell you it helps - every single one.
Even if you feel like you can't say "the right words", it doesn't matter. What matters is you cared enough to write anything, even if it's a couple words or just a sad face emoticon. I too have to bear up to read the posts. Some days I just have to skip it altogether and come back later. |
| I read the "Bridge" posts. I guess I just don't know what to add that has already been said.
It makes me sad to read them but thankful, at the same time, for every day we get to spend with our "kids". They are tough to read, though. I know there will come a day when I will be posting in there and the thought of that just breaks my heart. |
| I do read the Bridge posts, although most times it is very hard to get thru them. I sometimes feel awkward about saying the right thing too, but from experience, I know that even a simple "I'm sorry" goes a long way to comfort a hurting heart. So, as much as I hate that section, I will continue to read it. |
| My heart always hurts when I see that there is a new post in that thread even before I open it. ALL of the posts do bring on the tears and the reminder of the pain of losing 'a furry member of the family'. This is a place where we all really do care and understand that feeling. |
| I too have a difficult time reading the Rainbow Bridge Post. Each time I see it as a new thread my first reaction is my heat skips a beat and I think "oh no." I do, however, read the post and make a comment even though it is very diffecult. I cry as I type, but I feel it is important that the author of the post knows that I am there to support them. Losing anyone is a terrible thing to go through and I want that person to know I understand and my heart aches for them. That is why a put in my signature line "tears" because that sums up how I feel.
Here in Florida we see a lot of Rainbows and each time I see one of think of the Rainbow Bridge and who has crossed over it. |
Darth Snuggle wrote: I HATE reading that section. I always get very upset, and I know that NOTHING I say can make a difference in how the person writing about their passed dog feels. But today I had to read; I loved seeing Lola's photos, and reading her mom's posts. So devastating.
gosh you took the words right out of my mouth |
 for anyone who needs one xx |
| I just realized that me writing "it's better to say something, anything, than say nothing" makes me sound judgemental. I know that sometimes it is difficult (even impossible) to say something and reading your responses makes me know that even though people may not say anything, they still care. |
Paula O. wrote: I just realized that me writing "it's better to say something, anything, than say nothing" makes me sound judgemental. I know that sometimes it is difficult (even impossible) to say something and reading your responses makes me know that even though people may not say anything, they still care.
True, but you, and a few other people saying similar things helped get me over there to post what I could. I think I needed a little kick in the butt, actually |
ravenmoonart wrote: Paula O. wrote: I just realized that me writing "it's better to say something, anything, than say nothing" makes me sound judgemental. I know that sometimes it is difficult (even impossible) to say something and reading your responses makes me know that even though people may not say anything, they still care. True, but you, and a few other people saying similar things helped get me over there to post what I could. I think I needed a little kick in the butt, actually I agree, I am going to be sure to just say something even if it is just sending hugs. Lisa |
bestdogs wrote: As one who has had to post there more than I care to remember let me assure everyone that even just "I'm sorry" means a lot. That someone took the time to read the post and respond in some way is a huge comfort. Despite our differences on other threads these posts unite us all.
My thoughts too...It is very comforting to know others care |
| I needed the kick in the butt too. I try to avoid that section. I cry and then obsess about it. But, its not because I don't want to send my sympathy or tell those in need I am thinking of them. Its because I just can't face the thought of my live without my dogs....
To everyone who has lost their love over the rainbow, my love and thoughts are with you
May the pups rest in peace knowing they were deeply loved by those left behind who will miss them so.... |
Ashley wrote: I needed the kick in the butt too. I try to avoid that section. I cry and then obsess about it. But, its not because I don't want to send my sympathy or tell those in need I am thinking of them. Its because I just can't face the thought of my live without my dogs....
To everyone who has lost their love over the rainbow, my love and thoughts are with you May the pups rest in peace knowing they were deeply loved by those left behind who will miss them so.... You stated my feelings on the topic perfectly. I avoid it because it tears me up. I couldn't even post about our own loss last month. I'll definitely work on that. |
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