Wording for "you are paying for dessert"
Our boss takes us out for a nice Christmas/holiday luncheon. She pays for it out of her own pocket (I know, nice boss). My friend and I are coordinating the lunch and making the invitations. Although our boss is paying for lunch, we want to go across the street to a different restaurant for dessert. And we don't want her to pay for it. How do I genteelly word the invitation to say "if you come for dessert, boss is not paying for it, we are splitting the bill." I know etiquette-wise this is a no-no, but I'm casting etiquette aside. Some of my co-workers can be incredibly dense and need everything spelled out. |
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| _________ (boss) invites you to be her guest at a holiday luncheon on December 8th at the ______Restaurant.
If you care to go out for dessert after the party, please join us at _______ . Too subtle?? |
| I'll give a couple of tries:
Quote: Please join us at _______, which will be dutch treat. Quote: Afterwards, several of us have expressed an interest in going to _________, at everyone's own expense. We'd like you join us there, too! Quote: Hey The Boss is footing the bill for _____, but everyone is on their own for _____. Come with cash! Quote: Bring $25 with you, because The Boss is finally cutting back on sweets, and refuses to pay for the place we really want to go, immediately afterward. |
| I like the Dutch treat in parentheses. I think I will word it:
Dessert (Dutch treat) will be at Graham's across the street. I can always count on someone knowing something here!  |
| I'll bet that you'll have a couple of people who won't know what that means. There's always a few in every group that grew up without hearing sayings like that! Be prepared for minor confusion, like they'll think the dessert is called a Dutch treat. *sigh* |
| Yeah, maybe you ought to change it to "at your own expense". |
| ^^^^^^^
I agree for the reasons Jill said. |
| Maybe you could say something like: (Boss) is inviting you to a holiday lunch at _____. Afterward we will be treating Boss to dessert at _______. Just an idea! |
| The way I see it, it is two separate occasions, just the same people are attending both.
(1) boss taking employees out to lunch. (2) employees getting together for dessert. Two Occasions, Two Invitations. That way it is clear and no etiquette issues. |
| How many people are there? My first thought was that it really wasn't necessary to say anything. Just let everyone know at the lunch that you're going to head over to the other place for dessert. It might be a bit smoother to do it verbally. |
| How about:
Quote: Separate from the party, individuals may wish to meet for dessert at ____________. |
| I would prewarn that you have to pay for your own dessert. Otherwise someone will order the $14.95 chocolate torte with a $7.95 coffee drink and won't have their wallet with them. |
| Here is what I've narrowed it down to:
Dessert (Dutch treat) at Graham's Dessert (at your own expense) at Graham's We will treat Pat [the boss] to dessert at Graham's after lunch In addition to putting it in writing, I will also tell everyone they have to pay for dessert. This is a group that needs things spelled out, multiple times, in various formats. And I will still get questions! |
| I've never heard it called Dutch Treat before. I've always just heard 'go Dutch'...Interesting! |
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