Would you let someone look after your Sheepie ...
I am very friendly but also shy and some people dont take notice of me or dont accept my words i say. We share the house with the ladyowner and her hushand and her 18year old son. I think She only rents the flat out cause she needs to pay out her sister. She does like company and like to have a chat but it annoys me when I come home that she "constantly" tries to stop me to have a chat. I just wana go in my flat and have a rest, be on my own if you know what i mean? They both told me that I can leave my housedoor keys outside in a bottle, so they can go in anytime to take Charlie out in the garden. I thought first it's a nice idea but that also means that someone got access to my flat all the time. The other thing I dont like is that her husband is "desperate" to get Charlie! I dont like that! I never ever gave my Sheepie to someone else cause I dont trust anyone. I need to know someone for a while before I give my dog away! Charlie is not like a normal dog, she pulls when she see's anything on 4 legs (cats, squirrels, other dogs, rabitts, deers), also even cyclist and runners! We still got Charlie on a lead cause even on fields there are signs that you should not let your dog run without a lead as the guard would kill any dogs chasing deers! well, taking about the landladys husband who wants Charlie, totally ignored me and said to Charlie that he will take her out every single day when he's in pension in sept. without even asking me if I allow that! Already this attitude stinks! I would like that that person ask me first! When I told him that I never gave Charlie away and I dont like it but he can have a walk with us first so I can see him handling Charlie, he refused and said "no, I can do this on my own, I had dogs before. Do you think I want to sell your dog?" - that was an unacceptable anwser and I was soo shocked that I didnt say anything at all and just left to go back in the house. Now I also found out that he drinks beer, loads of beer! I'm worried that when he goes in pension in sept. that he will drink daily and than take Charlie out to drink aswell, as he did say before. I'm not happy them having my housedoor key nor my lovely Charlie, but I know we will work all day. Charlie can last all day as she did this in UK, she just sleeps and even when I come home and open the door in the garden, she still doesnt go to toilet! Also, the back door of this garden here is open,the gate fell off. he wanted to repair it but havent done it yet and Charlie can go through the next door neighbours house on the street in their door is open too. tricky, also as I dont like to live together with the people who rent out the house and I dont like too much contact to them but it would have been nice if Charlie could go in the garden. I do prefer to live far away from the landlady/landlord and have a rest!! I just tooked the flat as it was the only way to move over, nobody else offered my a flat with no job! Any considerations what to do? PS: Charlie is also my "baby", not just a sheepie! I dont like giving Charlie to someone else, if you know what I mean!!!   |
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| I think you have to go with your gut and if you aren't comfortbale letting them have Charlie then don't.
Explain to them Charlie can do things when you least expect her too so you feel it would be better if they didn't walk her. If they want to let Charlie in the garden just say you would prefer it if they didn't so she doesn't get used to something which in time they may not want to do. Its kind of them to want to let her out etc but if its not what you want to happen then say no. Its easier to say no from the beginning than try to stop or change things later. |
| Hi Monica,
I can see that this is a very difficult situation but a totally agree with Vicki, you must be firm and establish what you think is acceptable. Could you have your own lock on your flat....I think that would be my priority. I hope that you can get the situation sorted soon and keep it all on a friendly basis. Good luck with the new job x |
| I dont let anyone else take my dogs out unless I have to, when away on holidays I have had to.
I'm not comfortable with it. Dogs can be unpredictable and I always tell anyone who asks that I dont want them to be responsible if something bad happens. I would rather blame myself than blame someone else. Just me, some people seem ok with it but I worry. |
| been thinking about this and I would have to say NO...... First off as a few wrote you never can know what they will do. I would not give anyone the responseibility of that.
I do not trust anyone to give them the loven's we do. spoiled rotten lol Once I gave my trust to a groomer that had a place in our vets office. We get a call saying sorry the groomer has gone. REASON he had been hitting the dogs on the head with the clippers. O rescue Kassie was one!  she came from a home of beatings.
never trusted another. now I sneak up to the groomers and peak in the window. so far all is very good 
so I vote NO |
| i only let two people watch panda...my stepdaughter colleen and another friend, theresa...i took both out (at seperate times) walking, to make sure that they were able to handle panda....they BOTH understood my reasoning....
while brian and i let panda off leash, they were told under NO circumstances to do the same.... you must implicitly trust whom to care for your beloved charlie...if you feel hinky, dont do it....same about the key..... |
lindy wrote: Hi Monica,
I can see that this is a very difficult situation but a totally agree with Vicki, you must be firm and establish what you think is acceptable. Could you have your own lock on your flat....I think that would be my priority. I hope that you can get the situation sorted soon and keep it all on a friendly basis. Good luck with the new job x I do have my own key and they dont have a copy of it, but they expect me to leave my key outside my door in a bottle so they could go in my flat anytime and take Charlie out! It's a NO NO from me and a no no from Max! I'm so glad that you all got the same opinion, I thought its just me being picky with choosing people for Charlie. But I just dont trust anyone, I've got to know someone for quite a while before I give them my baby! It's great that everyone stands with me, it helps me to stick with the things I want! I stay friendly, but in distance! It's my dog! ... and she really is MY dog!! LOL PS: I had my 1. day in the job and still got another test day wed and fri. Then we both decide if it's right for me and for them. It's a hairdressers salon and I would be in charge (!) of it together with the lady who is in charge right now. I NEVER been in charge before, I only worked in "small" positions and it feels strange. But I hope I made a first good impression and I'm willing to learn!  |
| Monika you need to stand your ground! Say firmly that Charlie doesnt need walking and that is that.
Also you dont want them having your key they could be poking round in your flat, and you would worry. Its a shame they seem like possessive neighbors, I hope you sort something out as you dont want to have to find somewhere else to live. Good luck with your job interviews I am sure you will be fab whatever you do..... |
| As stated earlier, you really need to go with your gut instinct.
You can politely thank them for their offer but say that you are not ready to leave Charlie in someone elses care right now until you are more certain she is ready for that. |
Oh no  I thought this landlady seemed too friendly, if you know what I mean. I don't let ANYONE look after Ru, mainly because his behaviour gets really bad around people he can dominate. He tries his luck with everyone, and even when people are being nice, it gives Ru too much freedom. I would only leave him at a kennel or with another 'sheepie' person because they are not like any other breed of dog!
Please stand your ground. Anything could happen, especially with a person who drinks and has had no experience with sheepies. It's NOT like walking a labrador!!! GOOD LUCK  |
| Monika - is it possible that with you just coming back to Germany, and for the last few years living in the UK that you might be misinterpreting their intentions, maybe you are literally translating into English?
If not some mistake like that, what is their history with dogs? have they lost one they were very close to and they see Charlie as a handy substitute? Maybe they are just a little lonely themselves and need company? or maybe they are simply over doing the welcome. Obviously this is all very difficult for you, you need to let them know your boundaries - when you rented the house did you get any form of written contract to sign/agree to, did you agree (maybe unknowingly) to allow them to have access to that part of the house you live in? Might it be worth talking to a solicitor or equivalent of Citizens Advise Buro asking what your rights are? |
Hint of Mischief wrote: Oh no
I thought this landlady seemed too friendly, if you know what I mean. I don't let ANYONE look after Ru, mainly because his behaviour gets really bad around people he can dominate. He tries his luck with everyone, and even when people are being nice, it gives Ru too much freedom. I would only leave him at a kennel or with another 'sheepie' person because they are not like any other breed of dog!Please stand your ground. Anything could happen, especially with a person who drinks and has had no experience with sheepies. It's NOT like walking a labrador!!! GOOD LUCK you're right Cassie, it's not like walking a labrador! This guy just doesnt want to understand what I wanted to tell him. and I dont like guys who drink either! He's too friendly to Charlie, everytime we leave the house he goes "Charlie, Charlie, Charlie, come here, oh Charlie" Yep and your also right that the landlady was from the beginning "too" friendly! I do know what you're mean! I did say to Max that I try to live here for 3 years if they leave us alone. In 3 years Max would finish his apprentice and would like to move in his own place anyway, then I would move out too and find something more suitable and smaller just for me and Charlie. If she/he annoys me I will do it sooner! They are both VERY nosy and try to find out everything about us and I HATE this, especially because they live there too!   ... it annoys me! TOOOO much!! Dont you thing??? |
Archies Slave wrote: Monika - is it possible that with you just coming back to Germany, and for the last few years living in the UK that you might be misinterpreting their intentions, maybe you are literally translating into English?
If not some mistake like that, what is their history with dogs? have they lost one they were very close to and they see Charlie as a handy substitute? Maybe they are just a little lonely themselves and need company? or maybe they are simply over doing the welcome. Obviously this is all very difficult for you, you need to let them know your boundaries - when you rented the house did you get any form of written contract to sign/agree to, did you agree (maybe unknowingly) to allow them to have access to that part of the house you live in? Might it be worth talking to a solicitor or equivalent of Citizens Advise Buro asking what your rights are? I think I've understood it exactly as they said it (and he said it in a nasty way!) but you are right: they had 2 dogs in their lifes and the last one died last year. They still got dog buiscits laying around and the dog leads! They definitly looking for someone to be replace their lost dog! But it will NOT be Charlie! I know they are lonely by themselve but it doesnt mean that I have to give up Charlie for THEIR loneliness! They can get their own dog anytime if they wanna go to a rescue! A do have a written contract for the flat and I'm also allowed in writing to have Charlie! It is nice if people want to offer me to walk Charlie but if I say NO, they should accept it as a NO, but they dont wanna accept it. They keep on telling me that they want to walk Charlie whatever I say and I dont like that kind of attidute in any language! I stick to NO! |
| I'd be looking for a new place to live.
This would really scare me...NO ONE but myself and my husband are allowed to take our dogs anywhere. From the sound of things, even if you say "no"...I dont know if I would trust them to abide by that.  |
| Monika we are all on your side honey! Just come on here and rant about your silly neighbours!
ps clicked on your profile by mistake what on earth is your occupation? |
ravenmoonart wrote: I'd be looking for a new place to live.
This would really scare me...NO ONE but myself and my husband are allowed to take our dogs anywhere. From the sound of things, even if you say "no"...I dont know if I would trust them to abide by that. I'm so glad you are saying the same! I thought I have to come here and write on the Sheepie site if I'm right or wrong! I just never ever let anyone having my Sheepie!! .... and they DO scare me! Especially I just found out that he drinks quite a lot, even my cousin and her husband saw it and they said the same: stay away from them! I do not trust them! Especially not because his attidute, he refused to come with us and show us how he would handle Charlie! He wants to walk her on his own! I wonder why????? 
I keep on looking for other flats, Max is worried as he doesnt like moving and we are just moved in and they dont talk to him, so for him it's not a problem. He just said "ignore them and say NO", but it's easier to say for him than for me as especially the guy constantly ask me for Charlie! |
KTB wrote: Monika we are all on your side honey! Just come on here and rant about your silly neighbours!
ps clicked on your profile by mistake what on earth is your occupation? yeah I love that! rant my silly neighbours! (and landlady/landlord) that was this side is about! To chat to all the Sheepie owners and friends who can understand each others problems! oh my occupation! LOL I wrote it in german, it's still the job I applied for before I came to germany, but I'm not quite sure if it's what I should going to do. It is a person who works outside, literally translated! .. in other words: a person who writes tickets for people who park their cars wrong!! If this makes sense!! LOL But I would have to work until 11.30pm at night and then drive home by tube and walk 15 min alone through the village where I live. I'm not quite happy with that and I also still dont know if they would take me! I think the Salon job sounds better, its inside and not soo late! |
Ellie's Mum wrote: oh my occupation! LOL I wrote it in german, it's still the job I applied for before I came to germany, but I'm not quite sure if it's what I should going to do. It is a person who works outside, literally translated! .. in other words: a person who writes tickets for people who park their cars wrong!! If this makes sense!! LOL
That's a "Meter-Maid" in American English! |
| This is all very creepy. Stay strong in your refusal to give them access to your flat AND to Charlie. Hopefully they'll get tired of pestering you and leave you alone. |
| Very odd. |
| I find this creepy and odd too! In the last days I tried not to meet them or sit in the garden as they are always there !! uuhhh!!
Max and me are going straight into the house when we come back from a doggie walk, in hope nobody starts the conversation again. But if he says something again about Charlie, I will still tell him "NO" |
| I would never leave my dogs with anyone regardless.....Too many horror stories.....Sorry that happened to you.... |
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