when your OES's best friend has to be put to sleep??
Tonight I have to put my English Springer to sleep and I am worried about Holly.... How do I tell her? I feel she will miss him terribly and I don't know what I'm going to do? Does anyone have any experience with losing a pet and the one left behind gets depressed? She could totally shock me and act like nothing has happened ....... ya never know with an OES! And how do I handle losing my best friend   |
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| I have been through this twice with sheepies over the years. All I can offer is that time helps, but you never forget. Every time I think about Dusty and Kelsey I fill up. It is so hard saying goodbye to your best friend. |
I don't have any advice - but I wanted to let you know I am so sorry. Winston, Pailsee and I send gentle hugs to you and your pups.  |
| I had this last year. We have Snowy our OES who then was just a year old.
Her best friend was our mutt we had for 12 1/2 years. They played all the time. We had to put Flannigan to sleep due to a stroke. It did take time but Snowy was ok. We on the other hand still miss him. Just takes time. Snowy now has 2 new play mates and is having a ball. My heart goes out to you. It was get better but just hang in there. Prayers to you and family. |
| We just lost Sammy our OES a month ago. Her best friend and constant companion for 10 years was our 14 yr old Westie Max. For the first week or so, it was so heartbreaking to see Max look all over the house for her, espercially at bedtime, he would wait at the bottom of the stairs for her to go to bed. We would have to carry him up.
It's natural to expect that your sheepie will miss her best friend. They do know that something is not right. Dogs do mourn. Max is back to his normal routine now, but once in a while, he will go lie on her dog bed. My deepest sympathy for your loss. |
| So sorry --special thoughts for all of you. |
| So sorry to hear your news.
My first dalmo was very lonely after we lost his best mate, a kelpie, it took a few weeks but eventually he got better. He was always a bit nervous at the park without his pack mate though. |
| No advise to add, just a note to tell you how sorry I am to hear of this terrible time for you. |
| We told Clyde that Lucy had to go to fat camp. He believed it but Bear didn't. He missed her for awhile, laying in her spot by himself. I'm not sure Clyde ever noticed. He's very self centered. |
| It's 9pm and Ijust got back from the vets without my Bear How do I go on without him? He was truly my best friend and I loved him so vey much and my heart is broken.......... I can't stop crying........ I held his head in my hands when he drifted off to sleep ........ when does it stop hurting.............. |
I'm so sorry  |
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I'm so sorry. |
| I am so sorry.
The pain lessens eventually, but having wonderful memories helps. |
| I've been through this many times, with many of my OES. The reaction of the surviving dog is always different but there always is some kind of reaction. Confusion at certain times like dinner time. Sudden odd looks at unexpected times that you know are saying "Hey! Where's ____ anyway?" Or lethargy. Call it anthropomorphism if you wish, but it is as if the remaining dog is mourning the loss of a friend.
Or even worse... The worst situation of losing one dog that I have had was with Freddie and Oliver, the pair before my current two. They were both rescues but lived together for about 8 years before Freddie the older, more dominant one died, basically of old age and worn out legs. Oliver went into immediate decline and was gone himself in two weeks. My wife and I were in shock losing both of them like that and it was the first time we had not had a sheepdog in the house in over 30 years. It was at that time that I found and joined this forum of sheepdog people who understood. That helped but the emptiness was only filled when we found Charlie a few months later, a year old male whose owner had passed away from a terminal illness. Charlie is so much like Freddie both physically and in personality that I almost can believe in reincarnation. (Toby, my other current rescue, is certainly NOTHING like Oliver, however). Here's to you, Freddie and Oliver (Oliver giving the kiss) 
They say dogs live in the moment but I believe that they do have memories, sometimes long memories. My dogs can go for years without seeing my sister (who they seem to especially adore) but when she visits, it's like a big happy reunion. They know who she is immediately. I think they remember those they consider to be part of their family. Some may adapt more easily to loss, but they remember. Why don't you post your favorite picture of Bear so we can too. |
| I wish I had advice to offer; but I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your heartbreak and loss Time will help heal.
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| it has been a long night here. Yes I do believe they know something is up. No one would 'settle' here last night. Even the cat was 'off'. I know as days go by they will get better.
years ago, 10 actually, my Duncan's littermate and the others accidentally got out of the backyard when my one houdini oppened the gate as she was known to do, and his sister was hit by a car and killed. Everyone was so quiet that day and for about 2 more......... they knew somehow..... no one has touched a toy or bone here.......... which is extremely unusual. Now he and his sister, and his mom and his dad are all together....... |
| you have my deepest sympathies. |
| It will be 4 years on July 31st ( our wedding anniversary ) that we had to put our Jake to sleep. It was like losing any other family member, Bob was a mess, it was the 1st time in 30 years I really saw him weep.
Raven, it does get easier with time, and there will be a trigger and you will be able to smile when you think of something funny Bear did. Other times you will catch yourself crying because your doing something that he enjoyed or your just missing him. Just know you gave him a good life....... Hugs and prayers.....Kathy |
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