Giving It A Second Try
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| My first reaction is about your daughter. I would think she would be afraid of dogs at this point. What does she think about another big dog in her face? |
| That was my concern too .
Julie . |
| And mine.. |
| Your child should be the main concern here. I'd wait until she is older, even out of the house (if that every really happens anymore.)
If you are truly serious about this, your daughter should be around the dog as much as possible (multiple visits) before the adoption. That way your daughter can be totally at ease with the dog and the dog familiar with her and you. I can't comprehend singling out one dog and saying, "we have too many, one has to go and it's you." The dog is devoted to the family, especially the adult male upright. Yes, there are circumstances where a dog has to be given up, but just because it's hectic doesn't fly with me. |
| My niece had a similar bite in the face incident at about that age (bad scarring too) and she had no lasting emotional effects. She never transfered a fear to other dogs at all - in fact she LOVES them!
So, my 1st thought when I read the original post was that the 6 yr old was OK with getting a new dog. 
And, we got a basset through a very similar circunstance - where one dog had to go. My MIL was a rural letter carrier, and these people on her route had an adorable basset pup named Daisey. My MIL always told them if they needed a home, she would take her, One day the mom met her at the mailbox and asked if the offer was still good. This was 2 yrs later, they had to sell their home and move to a cheaper, smaller place in town d/t their preemie son's medical bills. They kept their dachshund, who was their older son's favorite and couldn't part with. Daisey became Todd and my new dog, she grew up with my girls and lived a long, happy hound life! |
| I can only tell you about my experience...I was bit by a dachshund when I was 4 yrs old, the dog bit my face; my lips and my neck had to be put back to normal. As soon as I came out of the hospital my first way was back to the same dog that bit me and played with him as if nothing happened. Growing up we could never afford a dog, we lived in a small apartment but that never stopped me from taking home feral dogs and then hiding them in the closet from my mom.
I got my first dog when I got married at 23. That was Lumpi (my lab/greyhound mix) and then I became a dog trainer. 
I get bit pretty much every single week since I work with some aggressive dogs and help out at the shelter. But this will never stop me from loving dogs and wanting to work with them and even having them! My thought about re-homing a very attached dog...my first OES love was my neighbour's dog who had to be re-homed when he was about a year and a half. I found a great home for him since we couldn't keep him. I used to walk him every single day, we were in LOVE!  He would open their front door and come to ours and sit there until we let him in or came home.
A year after he was re-homed, we went to visit him. He didn't care about his old owners but when he saw me, he peed himself while laying on his back.   As I was leaving he was ready to come with me. It was killing me!!!
It is extremely hard for the person and for the dog as well to have that ONE other in your heart and then take it away. I can't tell you what would be the best thing to do but I'm sure you will make the best decision! Good luck! |
| I have to add, when my children were young we went to visit my then husbands uncle. He had some lg dogs then. We had to honk the the horn so he could chain the dogs. Well he did and we got out of the car. In min. a dog broke his chain and ran after my so, then 5 yrs old. He NEVER would go near a llg dog for years. We had to take him to the hosiptal. He had stiches in his back.
Funny He has a lrg black lab now with his 2 children and wants to go into the K-9 unit ( NYS Troopers.) He is a trooper now. |
| I know this is off topic now, but I just wanted to add that I was bitten by a lhapso aphso(sp) when I was about 8, in the butt, through jeans and it HURT...I'm still scared of little dogs and wary of dogs in general because of it... |
SheepieBoss wrote: I can't comprehend singling out one dog and saying, "we have too many, one has to go and it's you." The dog is devoted to the family, especially the adult male upright. Yes, there are circumstances where a dog has to be given up, but just because it's hectic doesn't fly with me.
Amen!! |
| I was also bitten by a wirehaired dauchand when I was 7 years old...He tore 1/2 of my bottom lip off..had to be grafted back on,,,I was in the hospital 2 weeks, waiting for the graft to 'take'.
For being so brave,my mom wanted to buy me a very special toy..anything I wanted... ....I wanted a stuffed dauchand signature dog..(am I dating myself????) ((MOM knew then that I would never change about how I feel about dogs!!!  ) I still have that dog~~~~
I think your daughter needs to be totaly comfortable with any dog you bring into the house before deciding. This may take time for a trust to build, but I think it can happen. Good Luck!!!! and please keep us posted!!!!! |
WCLARKE wrote: My first reaction is about your daughter. I would think she would be afraid of dogs at this point. What does she think about another big dog in her face?
Megan was amazing after the biting incident. She wanted to play with Murphy the day after he bit her. Of course I told her that was a no-go. She LOVES the sheepie we are looking at. His owner has brought him over the last 3 nights to get to know us and our home better. We have asked extensive questions about the dog, his habits, etc. He's very submissive and laid back. We are going to have him over on Saturday night to start the trial period to see how he does with us and without seeing his owner for a few days. The owner is very torn about letting him go. I let him know that we would love for him to be active in the dogs life and if he changed his mind in the next couple of weeks I would understand. Overall I feel really good about the situation. If I had any sort of reservations I wouldn't consider this at all. Thanks for all of your advice and stories!  |
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