May have to give up my OES-heartbroken & not sure what t
I haven't been on this site in a long time because of the craziness that has been my life for the past 9 months! I'm in the middle of situation that may result in us having to give up our 3 year old OES, Onyx, and I'm very distraught. I'm hoping someone may have some advice or be able to help us out with our situation. Originally from Michigan, hubby, myself & pets moved to Virginia early this year for hubby's career. This summer we found out we are expecting a baby come February 26, 2009! We moved back to Michigan in September to be near family when the baby arrives. We "temporarily" moved in with my in-laws for "a couple of weeks" until my hubby could find work. I had a job waiting for me, but knowing I would be out of work this spring we wanted to save a little money while hubby was looking, so we hesitantly decided to stay at in-laws. Well, if any of you don't know - Michigan is about the worst state to call home in this entire country because of unemployment rates & 3 months later my husband still has not found work (He's a pilot & not finding anything. Has even looked into retail/minimum wage jobs to get us through the next few months - but no luck there either). Baby is due in 11 weeks & we're still at in-laws with little hope of moving into our own place before baby comes (that's a whole other story in itself!) For a long list of reason's that are too complicated to go into, our dog is not allowed to stay at in-laws house. There really is no way around this.... My dog & cat have been staying with my mom & brothers about 45 minutes away for the past 3 months, which has been a temporary plan B. My mom lives in a very small ~600 sq ft house with a small back yard - but already has 2 large labs & 2 cats....sooo...small house, 3 humans, 3 dogs & 3 cats...my mom & brother's are going crazy, needless to say! When I told my mom this week we would likely not be able to take Onyx back until after the baby is born, she informed me that she can no longer keep her at her house because it is just too stressful. She suggests that I give Onyx up for adoption, because she doesn't think I need the burden of a dog right now with no home, no income & a baby on the way, not to mention she thinks Onyx is too hyper to have in the house with a infant & is a worried grandmother-to-be. Ever since I told her I was pregnant she thinks I should not have a dog...(ugh!) She agreed to keep her until after Christmas to give us a little more time to sort things out, but then she has to go. I really don't know what to do...my dog is my family. I know she is a burden at times, but she is my responsibility & I commited to her when I rescued her 2 years ago. I love her & miss her so much & its broken my heart to be away from her for 3 months (I visit on the weekends to brush her & play with her). She is so upset when I leave because she doesn't understand why she can't come with me. She IS a little on the hyper side & has demonstrated food guarding when other dogs are around, so it has concerned me how she will react with a baby in the house, but my plan was to do everything in my power to work with her behavior & make that decision if/when the time comes. I would never give her up for that reason until I was absolutely sure she would not be safe with my child...(BTW - she's been around kids, toddler & baby's many times & has NEVER shown aggression) Anyway, I almost cannot even entertain the idea of giving my dog away permanently & I need to find a solution to get us through the next few months. There is still a chance that my husband will find a job & we'll be in our own home within the next 2 months, but realisitically it will probably be 3-4 more months. I am almost 100% positive that we will be on our own within 6 months. I really have no one that I can trust or burden with the demands of an OES for 2-5 months. I thought about contacting the OES rescue to see if someone can foster her temporarily, but I thought I would post my situation here first & see if anyone knows someone in the Michigan area or would be willing to help us in our situation. We would be willing to compensate for help & pay for all food & vet bills - we just need someone who understands what it takes to have an OES & would be willing to take care of her for us until our lives get sorted out a little more. If anyone has advice or knows someone who can help, please let me know. |
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| how sad. perhaps someone on here may be able to foster her for you. I really do hope so I love Onyx for a name. Good Luck! |
| I PM to you give her a call |
| I am sorry for the season. When my wife was pregnant with our first we had to let our schnauzer go live with her brother. It was a hard decision but what was best for him and us.
We have an Old English that is 14. We are going to have to put him down next week and are heart broken. I am looking for another Old English. If you decide that you need to find a new home, please feel free to contact me. Michael Riensche Lexington, KY 859-388-4454 |
| I just wanted to update you all that I was unable to find a temporary foster for Onyx, but when my mom realized that I would really would have to permanently give up Onyx, she changed her mind & decided that she would be able to keep her for a few more months until we get into our own place. It looks like we'll be somewhere new by March, so things will be okay. Its not the most ideal situation to have Onyx with my mom for that much longer, but at least I don't have to give her up at this point. thank you for the concern & for those of you who offered help. |
| Yay! |
thats great news  please keep us posted, and I hope everything turns up roses for you. |
| So glad to hear this! |
| Hi Sarah,
Sorry I missed you post earlier during the holiday chaos. Glad to hear that you will be able to keep Onyx & congrats on being a mother-to-be! |
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