Anyone have the baby itch?
I keep telling myself that EVERYONE says 2 is great, but 3 is when life starts going crazy. No one fits in the car anymore, it's an uneven number, chaos becomes unmanageable, and I even hear it's when structure is needed the most or the marriage has a difficult time. YET the itch is still there. I keep asking God for signs, and Mr. J to wait for them, and I don't feel there have been to stop us. I just wish I could have the baby in me today instead of waiting for nature to take its course so I can finish nursing Joshee. Someone get pregnant so I can get excited. Mop Lover at least needs to have hers soon. 
I'm guessing bgirl.nemesis or jcc9797 are next. Then another announcement by barney by the end of the summer of next year. ...sigh |
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| Is this maternal or the need to put more food in your tummy but frustrated for lack of oven?
Or the need to dry out? I think Mr. J needs a daughter......keep trying. And if you end up with 6 boys, Mr. J will have a good start on a football team. OK, New Year's 2010 baby! |
SheepieBoss wrote: Is this maternal or the need to put more food in your tummy but frustrated for lack of oven?
! How can anyone not laugh at that? I do love the amount of food one can intake while pregnant. It just seems to lay in the right places when you gain it. I tend to have lots of issues with eating bad though. I just crave unhealthy stuff! We do want a girl. Boy would be cheaper though, and we have a crap load of clothes for one. |
| So dress her like a boy for awhile......I don't think it will influence her development. Husband family photo shows his uncle in a dress at age 3...his older siblings were girls, life was tough on the farms in the 1800's.
But I suspect Daddy will be happy to fund some pretty dresses and tights.......oh, that sounds so cute. |
Joahaeyo wrote: SheepieBoss wrote: Is this maternal or the need to put more food in your tummy but frustrated for lack of oven? ! How can anyone not laugh at that? I do love the amount of food one can intake while pregnant. It just seems to lay in the right places when you gain it. I tend to have lots of issues with eating bad though. I just crave unhealthy stuff! We do want a girl. Boy would be cheaper though, and we have a crap load of clothes for one. I have one of each - bith relatively grown. figure a girl costs five or six times as much as a boy  |
| no itch for baby for myself.....but i do like to send my friends with babys cute clothes........ |
| Ha ha ha! I knew you'd be having the itch sooner than later!
Girls are awesome. I think you should say you're going to start trying next year, but really start now |
Quote: I'm guessing bgirl.nemesis
HELL NO! Ugh I can't believe you just said that 
Actually I would love a baby... but not anything older than 3 years! I can't stand the thought of all that pre-school/school/teenage/young adult/adult/grandkids part |
| Well, I'm over four months now.....can't wait to find out if she is a she or a he. Finally starting to gain some weight, and my hubby is excited because the weight is going to my ummm.....lets just say its not my hips and I don't have a baby bump yet....just a little alaska fat around my belly button still, lol. My mother has threatened me if I don't inform her immediately after finding out the sex...she can't wait to start making gender specific goodies! |
barney1 wrote: I think you should say you're going to start trying next year, but really start now
i THINK that's more your plan than mine.
I'll tell you when I'd like to start although we will have to discuss it more. Count 14 days from feb 18th. Assuming we miss the first time around b/c I won't know when to expect "it" ...I'll nail it the second time around. We can only pray we're as blessed as the two other times to get things to stick and be healthy the first time around. So...no reason to tire myself out "now" trying. It won't happen even if I left mr. j happy nightly. My body just won't ovulate until after Feb. Mark my word. |
Hint of Mischief wrote: Quote: I'm guessing bgirl.nemesis HELL NO! Ugh I can't believe you just said that I'll have cyakins blow some baby dust your way. Just so you twitch some more.
I forgot you were pregnant! Post belly pics when you start showing. I'm excited to hear about anyone preggers. You need to post more! |
Joahaeyo wrote: barney1 wrote: My body just won't ovulate until after Feb. Mark my word. What, do your ovaries hibernate for the winter? Hey, I'm busy dealing with baby #1. She has a double ear infection and a cold and she didn't respond well to the antibiotics (projectile vomit and diarrhea), so having more right now isn't really on my mind |
| J -I know exactly how you are feeling! I understand the "itch". I had all 3 of my babies 18 months apart. Just a warning - if you think you will not ovulate because you are breastfeeding.....I'll just tell you that I breast fed all 3 of my children and always ended up pregnant when they were 9-10 months old!
And I must agree, the dynamic of the household totally changes when you add the third child. But I'll tell you now, I would do the same again. Actually I have been seeing alot of babies lately and I have been getting the same "itch", but there's nothing that can happen unless I go out and have a torrid love affair (my husband is neutered)  |
Blueshire wrote: but there's nothing that can happen unless I go out and have a torrid love affair
(my husband is neutered) You didn't want to show him anymore?  |
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No more shows for him....he's now officially my pet!  |
barney1 wrote: Blueshire wrote: but there's nothing that can happen unless I go out and have a torrid love affair (my husband is neutered) You didn't want to show him anymore? |
Joahaeyo wrote: I'm guessing bgirl.nemesis or jcc9797 are next. Then another announcement by barney by the end of the summer of next year. ...sigh
Not me!!! Although now that my boss is on maternity leave, and my only co-worker is preggers, I think *maybe* one-day... But, come-on give a girl 5-10 years to think about it! Mrs. J, I think you should have a little girl. You know, there are ways to improve your chances. And, you and Mr. J make such cuties!!! |
Baby itch GAWD NO!!!! I use a repellant to keep the sting away 
Hubby is only a pet too now No more showing or breeding with |
I have two teenagers...that will cure any baby itch...and I am the one who is spayed.  |
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I always feel a little clucky around Christmas time. But I'm happy to borrow friend's babies to spoil and go silly over- then I can give them back at the end |
cheyennebuford wrote: barney1 wrote: Blueshire wrote: but there's nothing that can happen unless I go out and have a torrid love affair (my husband is neutered) You didn't want to show him anymore? LMAO....
I agree adding number 3 changes things in a big way. Having 3 all close together you suddenly realize you really do only have 2 hands. Just going to the store for milk can become a nightmare. No more babies for me!!! My oldest is almost 18 now (gawd I feel old) |
Willowsprite wrote: No more babies for me!!! My oldest is almost 18 now (gawd I feel old) Oh my how time flies!!!!!!!! 18, wow! Maybe we'll all be here to see you become a grandmother.  |
I will be thrilled to be the balm for your itch!!! This little girl is coming right around the corner and I promise to supply plenty of pictures - probably ones that remind you how insane you feel the first few weeks, months, whatever!!!  I am feeling more excited every day! It's so awesome! |
Willowsprite wrote: I agree adding number 3 changes things in a big way. Having 3 all close together you suddenly realize you really do only have 2 hands. Just going to the store for milk can become a nightmare. No more babies for me!!! My oldest is almost 18 now (gawd I feel old) You think you feel old - my youngest just turned 21!!! |
| my youngest was 25 in June - my oldest si 30. not quite sure how htat happened. |
Joahaeyo wrote: Willowsprite wrote: No more babies for me!!! My oldest is almost 18 now (gawd I feel old) Oh my how time flies!!!!!!!! 18, wow! Maybe we'll all be here to see you become a grandmother. Bite your tongue!!!!  |
| ha ha ...old people
<guess my long ostrich legs will come handy now>  |
| I never had nor wanted the "baby itch", before, durning, or after either pregnancy.
I have two wonderful, full grown, men childern that were a pleasure to raise. But, whenever a friends says "I want a baby", I suggest they get a puppy instead. I say it more frequently since moving to Utah.  |
got sheep wrote: You think you feel old - my youngest just turned 21!!!
So did mine, go figure that one as I am only 21++++++ myself
Your as old as what you feel , babies NO MORE, NO WAY, I look forward to gran kids in the future, spoiling them rotten, hyping them up and sending them back to Mom and dad to deal with.
Ooooh enjoying the freedom now and only 21 ++++++
Mrs.J you have a long way to go before the TEENAGE YEARS. I was told once long ago, adopt at 17 then send them out to work, wish I listened to that many years ago. If we could have babies, skip the dreaded hormonal teenage years then that is the way to go for more kids.
Now, we survived the teenage years, WOO HOO. 
There is no going back to square one with more bubbas FREEDOM YAY  |
lisaoes wrote: Mrs.J you have a long way to go before the TEENAGE YEARS. I was told once long ago, adopt at 17 then send them out to work, wish I listened to that many years ago.
If we could have babies, skip the dreaded hormonal teenage years then that is the way to go for more kids. That is the only thing that scares me and has me thinking twice. Trust me, I believe you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sheeps Over Acres, that is exactly what has convinced my husband and I we want more. How funny. So many of our Mormon friends have shown us the joys of having and receiving more love within the home, and we want in on that. The more, the merrier! |
Joahaeyo wrote: lisaoes wrote: Sheeps Over Acres, that is exactly what has convinced my husband and I we want more. How funny. So many of our Mormon friends have shown us the joys of having and receiving more love within the home, and we want in on that. The more, the merrier! The only problem I have with our neighborhood is once they have the multitude of kids, they don't parent them. Not all of the parental units are morman, but are the major influence. I've captured way too many toddlers running loose on the street without a parent. Cleaned bloody injuries, then searched for a parent or sibling Too many young children are left alone to care for the younger children ( I found one on a porch in the middle of the winter, no coat, lips blue, left in the care of an eleven year old). We refuse to dine out at local resturants because you can't hear over the screaming and out of control behavior. I don't shop Costco on Saturday because people take ALL of their kids and won't make them behave. I have been hit, screamed at, and watched the little darling lie to the parent when I ask them to stop. We love to get out of state where we can enjoy seeing children in public and make a point of telling responsible parents how much we appreciate them. I can only assume the folks in our area beleive in the "it takes a village" child rearing concept. They toss them out the door and figure somebody with raise them.
Our schools are a nightmare. Ask about Utah schooling and everyone will tell you it's based on "stack em' deep, educate em' cheap. Schools cannot be built fast enough. All new schools have portable classrooms the minute they open their doors. Why, because the new neighborhoods are overwhelmed with children. There's a reason our state has the highest per capita anti-depresant use. Most of the mothers I meet are living only to give birth. Frequently, when knocking on a door in mid afternoon, a toddler will answer and say mommy is napping.
I know the morman concept is based on family is the ticket to a higher level of heaven. However, many have lost track of the process between birth and sending them off on mission. I'm all for well planned families. Happy Mom, Dad and kids. It just isn't the standard where I live. It's very sad to watch. I won't even start on how they treat their pets. Everything is up for breeding. |
| I'm glad we are not surrounded by any of that.
Our friends, thankfully, are parents I can only dream of being. We try to mimic so much of what they do, but I just don't have the energy they do! I tried competing w/a friend for a little while when she'd have weekly family night. I tried to not only do it, but come up with better things to do. It consisted of a bible lesson for the kids, a book, special treat to eat, and one family activity. Seems easy... boy did it poop me out. lol Amazing how precious one evening is, and how we use our days (in wasteful ways). Needless to say, we went from doing it weekly, to moving it to the weekends, to when we could do it. She has 2 more kids than me too. Amazing! All of her friends that we have met do this too. On top of volunteering once a week (a family in need - usually having to go over and cook for them or clean their house), and helping out in church. Though I don't think I could live up to their way of living, we're always taking notes and trying. I can't emphasize how much of their family concepts we love ...just not all their biblical beliefs.  Before meeting them, I think we had a lot of misconceptions. |
| Uh, getting the itch over here on my end Oh geez, did I just say that out loud? |
| That must mean ....you're trying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You better give us the priority "I'm pregnant" announcement one you know. Or do you know...  |
| It's on a month by month basis if you know what I mean. One month we decide we want one, the next month we decide we need to rob a bank. Some days the $ thing overrides the baby thing. I'm scared to death of not having the energy or the $, but we do think we want a family. If we continue to live in this area, I would need to continue to work at the same pay rate I receive now. Unfortunately, this pay rate doesn't bode well for part-time work. The companies seem to either want you full time or not at all. I suppose we'd figure something out if and when the time were to arrive. |
| Well, I completely think what they say is true...
You're never going to be ready [financially]; however, you do get older ...tic toc tick tic
We definitely weren't ready for #1, but it wasn't nearly as bad as we thought. In fact, we didn't notice too much of a difference. I'm sure your parents/family are like mine and will provide the first year of clothes for you. Even with all the hand me downs (plenty), you won't be able to help spend more money. It's just one of those things.
I hope you find a way to work less. I'm sure your boss doesn't want to lose you
So here's hoping for two lines to show up next/next few months I'm so excited! I was watching that life with the Duggars (whatever it's called), and that's just evil tv for me. Too inspiring to have more. I realize I'm viewed as a nut, but I don't care. Nothing new to me. |
Joahaeyo wrote: We try to mimic so much of what they do, but I just don't have the energy they do! I tried competing w/a friend for a little while when she'd have weekly family night.
Jo, it's obvious you and Mr. J love your children! Why compete??? The best quality time doesn't come on a schedule. Seems you are already giving it to your children, it just doesn't keep the same schedule as your friends. I see so many children on the "Monday night family schedule" and frankly, it isn't making all that much difference to the kids. Instead of quality time, it becomes a drill. Look to your heart instead of the neighbors for whats best for the kids. You are already doing a great job for you and your children!!! |
| Oh, man. Don't get me started on the Duggars! While I have no problem with them having so many kids, and they seem to be happy and all that, I just don't like how they have their buddy system with the older kids raising the younger ones. To me, that's not fair, even though the kids in the family can't complain because they don't know anything different.
Their oldest son just got married--I wonder when he'll start having kids--and how many! It'd be funny if he decided to only have 1
Go Stacy Go! And it's true about the finances. If you waited until you were ready financially, most people wouldn't have kids. They actually aren't that expensive when they're young (well, they CAN be, but don't HAVE to be). You just deal with it and figure out how to handle it the best you can. But babies are fun! Well, my baby is, I still don't like other people's kids |
| I had my checkup yesterday...ultrasound on the 27th...cross your fingers she's a girl! I didn't get in trouble, but it was close, because I've only gained two pounds, which almost puts me back at my pre-pregnancy weight. It's not like I'm trying to not gain weight, we eat, believe me! I just haven't gained weight with this one yet. With our son, I gained a lot! But he nursed it all off, lol. So far so good though, no issues really. Just minor annoyances. Good luck to yall who are trying! |
barney1 wrote: Oh, man. Don't get me started on the Duggars!
GGGRRRRR The Duggars! I'm sorry but I don't see them as "good parents". All they have time to do is sheppard their flock of kids. Their family life isn't much more than indentured servitude, especially for the kids over 8.
The only good thing I can say about them is they don't cry about not being able to afford the kids like the people that use fertility drugs and litter 6-8 kids at once. |
| I guess different strokes for different folks. I wish more people were like them. Not necessarily amount of kids, but I love their beliefs and how they raise their children. I guess this is good to note if anyone wanted to leave their kids w/me to babysit. |
I want another one too. I've had to stop watching the baby story. Even tho Sullivan is only 4 months, I really want another one. They grow up way too quick!!!
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| I watched that story of a lady who was pregnant for 9 months and didn't know and was in denial as they found the baby on the ultrasound. She came into the emergency room after being in labor for over a day. Apparently she suffered from a tumor (i think??), and the pains were very similar, so while she took these meds for 9 months, this is what she thought was coming back the day she went into labor.
I was a lot more critical of the story until I saw it and the lady on tv. She said she never felt kicks and doctors said that's common especially if you don't even think you're in labor. And with weight gain, I guess the few times the healthy boy did kick ...she thought it was indigestion. |
I'm not quite ready for another one yet, but I thought I show a picture of my first. She was born in August and is such a joy!
I've missed hanging out on the forum, but apparently I am much busier at home then at work! I haven't had time until I came back to work. [/img] |
| she's adorable. Is she as long as she looks in the photo? |
| ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?!!! She's gorgeous. What's her name? I love it and want pink now ...still not 100% but pretty certain. |
| That's kind of a bad picture, but yes she is long. Born in the 97% and 23.5 inches at her 2 month check up.
Her name is Anabelle Grace and she is a doll baby. She's a very good girl. My poor husband wants to have 2 kids, but only 2 because he is sure we will have all girls no matter what and he thinks 2 is the most he could handle. I can't imagine more than one at the moment, but would eventually like 2 or 3 max. |
| She is so cute. I want a girl too but I have so much boy clothes. |
casearoo wrote: She is so cute. I want a girl too but I have so much boy clothes.
well girls can easily wear boys clothes - not so easy the other way around |
| Kerry wrote
Quote: well girls can easily wear boys clothes - not so easy the other way around
I keep looking at dresses and thinking I could put him in one. Chris keeps telling me NO! HEHEHEHE |
Joahaeyo wrote: I keep telling myself that EVERYONE says 2 is great, but 3 is when life starts going crazy. No one fits in the car anymore, it's an uneven number, chaos becomes unmanageable, and I even hear it's when structure is needed the most or the marriage has a difficult time. YET the itch is still there. To give voice to the other side of that comment J... I am a kid of a family of 3 (mom is gotsheep). My brothers girlfriend is a kid of a family of 2. She says that she likes our dynamics at three and she feels like she missed something in growing up with only having one other sibling. Something about the way we interact with each other...maybe it is our variety .
I must confess I liked having 3 of us...I don't know how my parents live through it. Sorry mom and dad, but I guess I will find out sooner or later...we plan on having another one when I get done with school
Keith wants 4 but I told him the only way that is going to happen is if we have twins next time (I should watch what I say ) |
| as one of three I can say one is always on the outs with other two - but that could be because we are three girls |
| I'm the youngest of three, but no matter how hard my mother tried to convince me I was planned, I'm convinced I was an "oops." My sister is 13 years older than me, my brother is 15 years older. My neices and nephews are closer in age to me than my own siblings.
We have two kids - one of each. We always said that if we had started our family a little younger, we would have had 3, but in hindsight, 2 was just right for us. We just got done paying 8 years straight of college - whew!  Can't imagine if we would still have another one going to college yet!
The love you get from them is proportionate to the love you give them, regardless of if you have an only child, 2, 3 or 18! I never felt like I was lacking anything having "just" 2. On the contrary, I was able to give each one a bit more because there was more of me and time and attention and money to go around. JMHO. |
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VERY good points! |
kerry wrote: as one of three I can say one is always on the outs with other two - but that could be because we are three girls
Hey! That was me too!! 3 girls are a whole different dynamics, that's for sure. If Travis would have been a girl, I would have had another child just to not repeat growing up with 2 sisters. LeAnne - that's OK! |
| I used to be sad that I didn't have an older brother when I was young and I couldn't stand my sister. Now we get along really well and I'm glad I have her. Another sister though? No way. One other girl is enough. |
| The only thing that holds mr. j back is: We have two healthy boys, why roll the dice again? So we're not 100% yet what we'll do. For me, it's all trivial stuff like the stuff I already mentioned, and knowing how expensive chucky cheese is. I always thought those places were cheap. I mean.. I see cheap pizza on tv ...jeez, to get into that dang place, it's like amusement park prices. In Houston, it's all about this place called ITZ which is even more expensive. |
| you know mrs j - you have time to decide. my son is 5.5 yars older thna my daughter, they have always been close and are good friends even as adults. |
Scruffy's Mom wrote: That's kind of a bad picture, but yes she is long. Born in the 97% and 23.5 inches at her 2 month check up.
Her name is Anabelle Grace and she is a doll baby. She's a very good girl. My poor husband wants to have 2 kids, but only 2 because he is sure we will have all girls no matter what and he thinks 2 is the most he could handle. I can't imagine more than one at the moment, but would eventually like 2 or 3 max. Your little Ananbelle Grace is so adorable!!!! |
| 2 children
2 parents The math doesn't get better than that. |
| Whenever I want a baby, I get a puppy or temp foster an extra.
That usually cures me...
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