Left out
Through my times here on the forum I have felt left out so many times.When i post I get hardly any feed back,when i post "my advice" there are certain ppl who make me feel like I know nothing.Now sure theres alot of ppl here who do have more experience,however my advice never goes noticed.The main thing that feeling hurt my feelings is I have asked 2 members here to post some pics of my boys,the 1st time I asked it went great and I was very grateful for it,however i asked if they could post a few more pics the week end before Thanksgiving and I got no responce,so I sent her another email asking her if she got my email/pics,and her reply was I dont have time w/ the holiday and my birthday I could tell she wasnt too thrilled of me asking her to post for me,altho I did understand but I was left feeling left out,so I replied back to her and said sorry to bother you ill try and ask someone else to post for me.So I sent a pm to another member and she seemed ok w/ posting pics for me,altho she did say she didnt have much experience in posting but she will give it a try for me.I said thats great I really appreciate it.So i sent her my boys pics and Thanked her once again.Will I got email from her saying my pics didnt come through and asked if i could resend them,and of course I sent them right away.Never recieving an email letting me know if they came through or not I waited to see if my boys pics would get posted,and they never did,so i thought will she must not of figured it out,and me not knowing i understood.However about a week after me sending her my boys pics to her I look over in the pictures and there were pics of her kids,a few days later she posted more pics,I thought if she figured it out why wouldnt she post my pics for me?I felt really upset about this.i understand that ppl are busy,but why couldnt you have posted mine for me?now if they would of told me up front that they would rather not post for me then I wouldnt have wasted your time.So I ended up emailing Ron asking him to post my pics,he had enough respect for me(us) to take time out of his schdule even w/ his dad sick to let us know he would be delayed in posting pics.Even after all his trauma he still felt the need to let us know what was going on.Im sorry if I sound childish however being fairly new here i feel that im ignore as a member here.Its funny when I did get my pics up hardly no one said anything no "what cuties"or "looks like they are so much fun"no nothing,however when some of the other members post their pics they get all kinds of responces.i should add that im not the only newbie here that feels this way.Theres alot of new ppl here that also feel that this forum is great alot of good advice great pics,but theres another side that makes us feel left out. please dont take any of this the wrong way,I just feel very left out. |
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| Tanya I'm sorry you feel this way..... however, it's not hard to post pics, there are step by step instructions in the pictures forum, and several tips for people who have had trouble. If you can email your pics, it is no more difficult to drop them into the ft.oes.org incoming folder. Then wait. Ron is busy at any given time, but especially with what is going on in his personal life right now, I'm glad you recognize that it may take time.
Having this forum costs money and time, and makes none. I think this forum is a wonderful gift, and am so grateful for it, for the wealth of information, and the wealth of friendships I have found here. Sometimes other members may miss a new post, sometimes members don't check in for quite some time. I check in several times a day most days, but I don't alwys feel like replying to any given post right at that time. I'm sorry you have felt left out.... we are all learning as we go, there is not one person who 'knows it all' and I do appreciate every bit of advice and info and funny stories form every member, whether they are experienced or not. Even the most inexperienced member has something to offer, because we are all individuals, we all think differently in different situations. Tanya, my suggestion to you would be to re read the instructions in the pictures forum, I'm sure you can figure it out. |
| Thank you for your reply.....and I am trying to figure this out on my own,but I have ADD and it is very hard for me to figure this kind of stuff out.I also feel this website is wonderful ppl here have helped me out tons w/ learning what to expect from my Mickey.My thoughts are w/ Ron and his family and in NO way do I expect him to even think about my pics at this time of need,and my prayers are w/ him and his family. |
| Tanya,
I offered to post Mickey's picture but when you sent it to me I couldn't work with it and had emailed you to see if you could send them as attachments. I didn't hear back. I hope you didn't think I was blowing you off - but obviously you did! It took me some time to figure out the pictures and ended up putting them on photobucket based on someone elses suggestions. If you can send me pictures as attachments I'm happy to post them. All you needed to do was email me asking me what was going on. Kristen |
| Hi Tanya,
I think that's the trouble with the net...you don't hear intonations of voices and things that are said in a joking manner may not be taken that way when viewed written down. Or.. you feel left out and you experience hurt feelings but please trust me on this it's entirely done unintentionally by the members here. Everyone is valued on this site, as are their opinions. In fact, that's what makes this forum so neat is all the helpful advice or comments from everyone. Without them, this place just wouldn't exist. I think what happens is (I'm thinking of my own experience) is I get busy and try to catch up on what I've missed. I love reading and viewing all the new pics but sometimes I realize I've spent a few hours on the computer and don't have time to respond right away..I'll save that for next time. With so many post it's easy to fall behind but again every post and opinion is valued. You are an important member here and I like reading what you have to say. (I checked back but didn't see your pics and I apologize if I didn't comment on them as I was offline for a few months). I want to see them!! I'm the hospitality hostess on a website specifically for magicians...eeeks!!! My gawd are there ever squabbles on that site!!! That site has 16,000 members from over 80 different countries and again due to the net and lack of intonations in voices people get upset with each other all the time. The worse bunch believe it or not are the kids magicians and they are currently arguing about whether or not it's rude not to send thank you letters. 
I'm going off topic a bit and I quess in a way I'm trying to let you know that while people don't intentionally mean to leave you out ...what you feel is real. Thanks for bringing it up and you've made a good point. |
| Tanya,
I also am sorry you feel this way, however I think you answered your own self in the post. People are busy! You even said it was the weekend before Thanksgiving and my birthday weekend. My husband I have a lot of family, we have 4 different dinners and it gets stretched out as long as we can. I also have 2 sheepies that I am trying to get their coats ready for show, I have 6 cats, and they haven't learned how to feed themselves or learn how to change the 4 litter boxes yet. I also have 2 children, one who is home all day with me, and the other when she comes home has math and reading homework. Of course there is house cleaning and dinner. I do come to the forum everyday, but I don't post as much as I do usually and I haven't had time to even post pictures of my dogs or my kittens. I am also sorry that somehow my email explaining that I was busy made you think I was being rude or short with you. It was the furthest thing from my mind. I think Marianne made a good point, the internet takes out tone, but in all the posts I have ever made I have never meant any disrespect or meaness to anyone. If I have made any of the members here, newbies or long time posters feel bad, it was unintentional. Stormi and co. |
| Will I really appreciate everyone taking time out to reply to my "feeling left out",and Im sorry if I hurt anyones feelings,but like I said this is a wonderful forum and I love ALL stories of these sheepies,and I do greatly appreciate all the awesome advice I have gotten from you guys,especially the crate training for potty training,he has blossemed into a great boy. Please forgive me for venting,maybe it is just a hormonal thing. |
| Hi tanya
I would just like to say although i don't post very often i do read your posts and everybody elses posts and i find this forum very helpful and friendly. I havn't got ADD and i still can't figure the picture thing out 
one day when i'm not to busy i will sit and read it and post some pictures . Hopefully it will be before i get my new pupster in April/May time. |
| Okay group hug everyone!!!!
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| Hi Tanya,
I'm sorry that you feel left out on certain posts. In general, I don't read all of the posts, especially if I get busy with work, unless the subject matter catches my attention. Of course, I'll always look at photos too, but if I'm late getting to the post, and there are already a bunch of comments, usually I won't jump on the bandwagon. It doesn't mean that I don't enjoy what people are posting or gain some valuable info that is available at all times on this forum. Even if it is a subject that doesn't pertain to my dog right now, it may someday, and the search feature on this site is super if you have a particular issue you need answers for. I sometimes get bummed that people don't use the search feature before asking specific quesitions, because some of the posters here are kind enough to answer the same questions over and over again. (Once again I would like to aknowledge how fortunate we are to have Ron as such a pro-active creator & moderator!) Regarding the photos that you are saying that people are not commenting on, I am not sure which ones, except for the ones that Ron posted last night? (Which of course are completely awsome!) This is a really hectic time of year for a lot of people and please do not feel offended if it takes a while to get a response via forum or email. I personally get up to 100 emails some days and have a hard time just going through them and unfortunately, I usually always try to answer client's emails first, as I cannot afford not to. This forum is a real luxury to me and I really enjoy anonymously perusing when I can sneak a few moments. So I hope that you will continue to post and please not take it personally that you don't get a response right away. You are a person that cares about your dogs and that is what really matters! People on this forum really value that. ~VerveUp |
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