The Grieving Mother
The news was tragic to all, but worse it happened two days before Mother's Day. The family built a beautiful fountain in front of their home, planted flowers and light candles every day. No matter what time I drive past day or night - the candles are lit. I have to drive past it several times daily. The newspaper did an article 2-3 years later when the driver was finally caught and sentenced. The mom and dad had still not been able to return to work. At Christmas time , I was suprised to see the house brightly decorated and it was also the same at Halloween. The family it appeared were honoring children. They do this each year. The rest of the year the blinds are drawn and there is no sign of life from that home. After spending an early Mothers Day with my two , I couldn't help but think of that mother. I wanted to add something to the memorial. It was difficult and I was at a loss in the floral store. When staff found out what I was looking for, they all became involved, even tho it was busy in the store .In the end, it was an angel wreath, a beautiful glass swan which contained babies breath and a white rose for a coursage. I got in my car at midnight and left it at the memorial sight unseen. I'm not sure if I did the right thing or not - my hope is to make the mom aware that the community cares and the family is not forgotten. Now I'm questioning whether leaving those items will cause her pain or ease it a tiny bit. Did I do the right thing? When I laid the flowers down I was filled with terrible sadness and cried all the way home. I wish I could have hugged my kids at that moment. Marianne |
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This morning, on my way home from the firehouse, I drove by the spot where the young man died last weekend and couldn't help but think about another Mom who is without her son this Mother's day. We are lucky to have our children. |
| I was thinking of her as well Ginny as your recent post was also on my mind. We are indeed lucky.
M |
| Marianne,
I think what you did was very sweet and caring. I am sure the parents will appreciate it. |
I can't see how it would cause the mother more pain.......knowing that others remember the accident and her son may make them feel less isolated. You done good..........  |
| I think what you did was amazing! I'm sure not just the Mom but even the Dad is thankful for this "midnight angel' for thinking of them. And when they saw your present I'm sure they had happy tears in their eyes.
(I would have loved to see their face that morning!)  to you, Marianne! |
| Thank you.
I was really torn if it was the right thing to do. This evening I walked past their place when I took Merlin for his evening walk. The florist had placed the swan and flowers in a box filled with tissue paper. It was raining heavily when I left them by the memorial so I wrapped the items in plastic so they wouldn't get ruined. This evening, I was happy to see the angel wreath was hanging on a tree next to the memorial. The swan was placed next to the fountain. Marianne |
| I think it was a lvoely thing to do Marianne! |
| I think that was really lovely. It's wonderful you did that, you have such great ideas! |
| I think it was a lovely gesture and one which would not cause the mother any pain.
It would be a lovely suprise for her and hopefully create agood memory she can treasure. |
| Marianne, I think what you did was wonderful!!! You made her know that her son was remembered. That would be very important to her. What you did was a wonderful tribute to his life and to his mother on mother's day. God Bless You!!! |
| That act was very thoughtful Marianne....and I am sure appreciated. |
| This may sound strange, but I hope your neighbors never discovers who the thoughful angel was...........
This way they will look upon all of you and wonder, "Could this be the one?" thus giving them warm fuzzies about all of you. But even if the truth gets out, that's fine too. |
| What a heartwrenching story! Marianne, I think you absolutely did the right thing. I do not see how your random act of kindness would bring anything other than joy and encouragement to the family. It means their son is not forgotten.
I can not fathom losing a 5 yr old (or someone of any age) in such a horrific way. I know it is not at all the same...but I do know that the words of encouragement I have received in losing Chloe has actually brought me strength and comfort. I would imagine the family feels the same. Bless you, Marianne, for your thoughtfulness! |
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