Loosing a part of us
 We lost our best friend, our companion, and a part of us Sunday morning. When we woke up, we found Happy next to our bed, where she slept each night. Only this time, during the night she crossed the bridge into heaven and joined her sister Goldie. We know they are prancing in the fields together. My wife and I are devastated. We don't know how we will get through this. Perhaps there is someone out there who can give us some advice on how to handle this incredable loss.
Mike and Candy |
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| Mike & Candy,
My heart goes out to you both! I don't think I can offer any advice - because I'm having a hard time dealing with the loss of my OES, Brittney who passed October 29th. I had hoped that Brittney would pass in her sleep (as Happy did) but unfortunately, I had to make the decision to help her over. One of the most difficult decisions of my life! The pain is unbearable! You aren't alone - and if it makes you feel better - please feel free to share with us. We all greive differently - please take time to grieve in your own way and in your own time. If it weren't for the support I got from so many people in this forum and on other OES Lists - it would have been alot more difficult. I try and remind myself how lucky I was to have Brittney for so many years and remember that she will always be with me in spirit. I still cry (alot)! I'm not sure you ever get over it - you just get passed it. I'm lucky to have 2 other beautiful dogs to fill my life with - that makes a difference. Happy was greeted by many friends at the Bridge - including Brittney! God Speed Happy! My thoughts and prayers are with you all!!! Sincerely, Kristen (Presley & Sydney) |
| Thank you for your kind words. As you said, I am sure Happy and Brittney are playing together. Happy may have introduced Goldie, her feline sister who we lost a few months ago. We had to do as you did with Brittney, and make the choice for her. We can understand how hard that must have been for you. It is the ultimate sacrafice of love that you gave to Brittney. We want to be selfish and keep them, but when we let them go so they don't have to suffer, we are doing what is best for them.
Making the decision for Brittney was not only the correct one, but we think the better one for you. You were able to say goodby as we did with Goldie, but were not able to do with Happy. As you said, we have to be thankful for the the time we had with them. Our lives would not be what they are today, if we were not given the joy and happiness we had. We think perhaps the only way to get over the grief will be at some time in the near future to get another Sheepie. Thank you again for your kind words. You take care. |
| I am so sorry....I have no words, but if you were near..I'd have hugs for you. I believe Kristen said it best, "I'm not sure you ever get over it - you just get passed it." I'm still getting passed the loss of Cupcake, from 1991. I like to just imagine them all, Cupcake, Brittany, Goldie, Happy et al romping, rolling and laughing in the meadow, near the bridge. We're all with you.... Deboarh |
| Hi,
I'm very sorry about the loss of Happy and can relate to the grieving you are now going through. Like the other posters I too lost my beloved sheepie Shaggy in April. I was fortunate to have had her many years but allowing her release from her pain was so difficult. If we had the choice we'd want them to live forever. Sadly our furried friends has such short life spans compared to us. Before Shaggy I lost Oscar my 21 year old cat and a month later my 19 year old cat Fe'line. Each was heartbreaking and I grieved for months and even now 8 months later I still get teary eyed when I think of my wonderful furried friends, but the pain has lessoned as I have wonderful memories of each of them. Everyone of us grieves differently, for me, each time I lost one of my pets I went to the shelter and consoled myself that with their passing I was able to help yet another animal. I never saw any of them as a replacement for the one that passed as each is beautifully unique. For others, getting another pet is too difficult for some time. This board is wonderful to tell us about Happy and Goldie as each of us on here can offer support and understand the bond you shared with them. Please feel free to write Happy or Goldie stories when you are able. The sharing of their memory has a way of healing. Take Care and Hugs to you both Marianne |
| My deepest sympathies on the loss of your beloved Happy. We all know what it is like to lose a sheepie, so we can all empathize with the pain and intense grief you are feeling. We lost our first sheepie in 1994, and to this day I still cry when I think of that last visit to the vet and how much I still miss him.
This forum is a wonderful place to share your grief. Non-pet owners can't understand the depth of despair we feel at the loss of a pet. They can't understand how we can cry at the drop of a hat months afterwards. After all, they reason, it was just a pet. But we know better. It was a member of our family. There is no magic formula to make the pain go away. Only time lessens it. Your memories will keep Happy alive for you forever. We always said we would never get another pet when Buford passed because he was irreplaceable, but within days, we were looking. The house was just so eerily empty and quiet, and that quiet was deafening. Although we will always love and miss Buford, Dresdan (Drezzie, or Drez) is the most wonderful dog. If we would not gotten her, I dread to think of all the love and devotion and fun we would have missed out on. Life's too short to not share it with a pet. Hugs to you both, and please feel free to share your grief, because only when grief is shared is it lessened. Chris |
gumina wrote: We think perhaps the only way to get over the grief will be at some time in the near future to get another Sheepie.
Getting another sheepie will help and don't worry - they will never take the place of Happy! There's plenty of room in your heart for Happy and any other dog you decide to open your home and heart to! I'm sure Happy will play an important role in bringing that special sheepie into your life! 
Good Luck! Kristen |
| What a wonderful name for your buddy Happy.I bet that describes your beloved pet doesnt it? Like the rest I really dont have any advice,all i can say is that as time passes the grief will lessen,and all the wonderful days you had w/ Happy will consume you and give you a sence of peace knowing your beloved friend is at peace now. Deb I love that name for a sheepie cupcake...so fluffy and sweet  We are all lucky to ahve such wonderful buddies arent we? God Bless and please keep posting here Id love to here stories about your Happy. |
| Mike & Candy
I am so sorry for your loss. It's amazing how a lot of us have found this haven to come to after our loss. I know I did back in February when I loss my Rosiegirl. I didn't have a computer back when I lost my first sheepie Odie and I sure could have used it. These wonderful people here helped me thru the months until I was blessed with another little girl who also was named "Rosie" when she came to me from heaven. I kinda felt that my Rosiegirl wanted me to know she was the one, so she came with her name. I did rename her AnnieRose so that Rosie could have her own place in my heart where she will always be, along with Odie. All these years later I see something that will remind me of Odie and even now the tears will flow, but they are usually turned into Happy tears when I think and talk about her antics. You definitely never lose them from your heart but I will say that Rosie came along when the moment was right and now so did AnnieRose. As so many have said already, everyone does handle their grief differently, when the moment is right for a change you will know it. Many hugs to both of you and as we know all our pups are running and playing as they should with one another in a happier special place. Raggamuffin & Raggmopp (Alias Annie Rose) |
| So sorry to hear about Happy.
I also read your post on my Newman Tribute page about potentially getting another sheepdog puppy again. We felt the same way about getting another sheepdog after having such a perfect dog in Newman. We even looked at a bunch of different breeds and kept coming back to the OES personality traits. We got Frank at the end of last March. He is about 10 months old and delightful. We're happy to say that although he does exhibit a lot of sheepdog personality traits, he's very different from Newman, which is good, because it wasn't our intention to replace him. We still grieve for Newman, and our black cat that we also lost this year, but it is wonderful having a young pup's energy & antics bouncing off of the walls here as a constant distraction. Take whatever time you need to grieve as with each person it is different and please continue to share with us about Happy and any potential "addition" on the forum. |
| Mike and Candy,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my Peke-a-poo, Sara, on August 13 this year. I Agree with a couple others, you don't ever get over it, you just learn how to live with the pain. Sara had cancer for awhile, so I guess you mentally start preparing for the inevitable. The last month, I knew it was close and would rather her have gone in her sleep. I had to help her and she passed in my arms. The vet was very helpful, but it was still the worst thing I had ever done. I guess everyone has different ways of dealing with it. I was not sure what to do, but I knew I was a dog person. Two days later, after talking to my wife a lot, we decided to find a sheepdog. She had one before. Sara was my child from a previous marriage, whom my wife adopted and loved as her own. I could not have found her a better mommy. We found little Madison the next day. Very fortunate to find a breeder who just had seven puppies and had both parents on the property. We visited once a week, for three weeks. The third visit, she had all seven puppies out and my wife fell in love with the biggest boy, so we ended up with two. Bailey and Madison came home the day they were eight weeks old. A quiet house, with no one to greet you at the door was horrible. We now have two crazy sheepies. Not really, but going from a perfectly behaved dog to two puppies is certainly an eye opener. Now, 10 weeks later, they finally have calm times and we get lots of morning time snuggling and it is great! I still miss Sara terribly and it still hurts a lot when I stop and think about it, which is a lot. I am very thankful for the time I had with her though, 14 years. I would never trade the pain and sadness for the fourteen wonderful years we had together. I guess I don't have any good words to help make you feel better. I just wanted to share my story, I think it helped me also. I am certain when the time feels right that you will give another dog a wonderful place to live. Nothing will ever replace your Happy or Goldie, but just talk about it with friends and family. This board is also a great place for support. Best wishes, Eric |
| I AM REALLY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR HAPPY! I LOST MY OES (DOZER) A COUPLE MONTHS AGO. I AM HAVING A TERRIBLE TIME WITH THIS. IT WAS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS I HAVE EVER GONE THROUGH. I STILL CRY A LOT. I HAD HIM FOR 11 YRS . HE WAS A MEMBER OF THE FAMILY. I HAVE DECIDED TO LOOK FOR ANOTHER SHEEP DOG, NO OTHER BREED COMPARES TO ME. DOZER CAN NEVER BE REPLACED, BUT I KNOW I CAN LOVE ANOTHER ONE NOW.
THE OTHER PEOPLE WHO HAVE POSTED REPLYS SAID IT THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE. YOU WILL NEVER GET OVER THIS BUT IT DOES GET BETTER. |
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