A Big Mistake
We are just two different people, who want different things in life. The only problem is she let me stay at her place so I could start this job. A part of me wishes now that I would have went back to Colorado. I still can and just might, depends on when things blow up here. If I can manage a couple more weeks then things will be ok. If not well who knows what will happen. I have always learned from my mistakes and this will not any different. Just need to vent to someone. |
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There are a lot of OES.org people in Colorado...I plan on being one whenever the market gets better. I am sure it will work out for the best Shon. Maybe Colorado is where you are supposed to be. I am sure you will make the right decision.  |
This has made me very interested in your "way of life."  |
At least you got out now. That's the important part! I hate hearing people felt "stuck" and just stayed somewhere they didn't want to be. You are brave, and I bet doing the right thing 
I forgot, but did you once say you went down to meet this person from the internet? Sorry if this isn't you, ...just wondering if it was, if you had even met her prior to living together. Anyway, your situation sucks. /master of the obvious  |
| The whole living together was suppose to be for approximately a month. Well if it makes that long it will be a miracle. So far it has been two and half week of hell. The whole reason for even coming to Atlanta was so I would not have to commute and hour and half one way during the training period for this job. I have been looking for a place in Atlanta since I got here. One problem was two of the places would not be ready until the end of the month. Hope it gets here soon. |
You can make it for another couple weeks. Here's the trick: Just choose not to let her bother you. You're not going to have a long term relationship with this person, so civility is all that is required. If she criticizes, just blink and stare. Then smile. 
Hang in there. |
| Shon, The end of the month is Monday. Keep your thoughts forward, and hopefully it will get here fast. I'm sorry you have to do this...wait. You don't! Grab a motel, drive the commute, get yourself out of this situation as fast as you can. Sometimes it can be "safer" that way rather then living with a crazy person. |
| Learn these phrases:
That's interesting! Tell me more! I never thought of it that way before! OK, when would you like to talk about it? |
and whats the other side of the story  |
This is a great place to vent......We are all listening...Whatever happens...it will be right!!!!  |
| Shon, I think most of us have been where you are. The key is to acknowledge it was simply a mistake, pick yourself up and move on. What's the expression? Sadder, but wiser. Good luck...but I don't think you'll need luck, just a fresh start. |
| I tried talking last night, (after I got a rude email from her even though I was in the other room). The response I got was... do not feel like it. Ok I think the only words spoken this AM was have a nice day. I am putting stuff in my truck after I eat a bagel, going to my meeting this afternoon for work and commuting the rest of the week from another location. I do not need this attitude.
The other side of the story someone asked... my dog for one. I walk him 2x a day, he gets brushed every other day (pick-up & vacuum afterwards). He is just spoiled, I said no he just doesn't spend 75% of his life in a kennel like yours dogs. Her chihuahua is losing its hair and has something wrong its skin (turning black). So I don't want my dog around it. She is mad about that. I asked why don't you take it to the vet? Never mind that response, I don't have much of behind left after that comment. The other one uses the bathroom inside constantly. I can have him out, watch him go, afterwards he goes back to the door to be let in. He comes in and goes to the bathroom. I don't clean the house properly. I guess, I should use a feather duster and spread the dust else where like she does. Then complain about it being dusty an hour later. The dishwasher, full with space left on top rack for a bowl so I put my bowl there. WRONG bowls go on the bottom, Excuse me I'll just hand wash the bowl from now on. That is her side. Some of it anyway. Not sure of the rest because she did not want to talk when I asked. |
| Sorry to hear things aren't working out like you'd hoped Shon. As you said, just keep your chin up and learn from your mistakes. That's the best any of us can do. Learn our lessons and move forward. |
| Sounds to me like you could never win with her. Some folks are just more difficult than others. It is so hard to live together. (Now you know) Sorry you have been dealing with so much stress. Keep your chin up. |
I'm sorry it isn't turning out well  |
| I will be back in Colorado by Friday evening. I pack my stuff and left this afternoon. Have my old job back and a place to live so everything is good. Thank you all so much for listening and being great freinds. |
| Good for you!
Sorry it didn't work out -- enjoy your long ride together! Take pics! Hey -- how are you posting... one of them fancy iPhones or something? |
| Shon, sorry it didn't work out, but things happen for a reason. Drive safely back to Colorado and let us know when you get there. |
| Shon,
Sounds like she definitely wasn't the right one for you. Be careful in driving back to CO. |
| Shon,
If someone isn't a positive force in your life, be it friend, partner, lover...all but family usually...then you should move on. We spend too much time with people who make us unhappy or drag us down. The only way to be happy is to do what makes you happy...someday someone else will come along with the same likes. At least that way you are always a positive force. Good luck and be safe on the drive back. |
| Hey Shon,
I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out but as others said everything happens for a reason. It's great that you are going back to Colorado to start fresh! Enjoy your new adventure, drive safe and keep us posted!  |
wendy58 wrote: Shon,
If someone isn't a positive force in your life, be it friend, partner, lover...all but family usually...then you should move on. We spend too much time with people who make us unhappy or drag us down. The only way to be happy is to do what makes you happy...someday someone else will come along with the same likes. At least that way you are always a positive force. Good luck and be safe on the drive back. Ditto!! Sorry it didn't work out, but at least you got out and knew when to get out. |
| The way you said "way of life" I was really hoping for something sexy and mysterious, like a spy, or even a pirate. I guess both of those would get in the way of all the brushing though... |
ButtersStotch wrote: The way you said "way of life" I was really hoping for something sexy and mysterious, like a spy, or even a pirate. I guess both of those would get in the way of all the brushing though...
LOL - the above said from the girl who got married on a pirate ship!!!
Seriously - good luck with the trip Shon, and the move back home to CO. |
got sheep wrote: the girl who got married on a pirate ship!!! She only did that to support oes.arrrrgh
Hey, I'm going to KEEP ON SAYING THAT until it becomes as funny to everyone as it is to me!
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| blah, blah, blah, blah <said with fingers plugging ears>
ok, maybe a little smile  as I picture you saying that with that crazy Boston accent!! |
| OK...made me smile. |
| Pirates sound a lot like Bostonians. |
| Shon, sorry things didn't work out....what everyone else has said. Have a safe trip back "home". Please give your sheepie boy a big hug for me. |
| Wow Shon, when you make a decision you really go for it. Here I thought you were going to live in the south. Now its back to CO. Thats what I call getting away from her. Have a safe trip. |
Ron wrote: got sheep wrote: the girl who got married on a pirate ship!!! She only did that to support oes.arrrrgh Hey, I'm going to KEEP ON SAYING THAT until it becomes as funny to everyone as it is to me! I think it's hilarious!!! |
That makes 2 of us!!!  |
got sheep wrote: ButtersStotch wrote: The way you said "way of life" I was really hoping for something sexy and mysterious, like a spy, or even a pirate. I guess both of those would get in the way of all the brushing though... LOL - the above said from the girl who got married on a pirate ship!!! Right! Sexy and exciting. And getting married on the pirate ship did get in the way of my brushing! |
Sounds as though you made the right decision for you both. Best wishes in your new home. Remember a dog loves us forever, forgives us all our sins, and will be there for us no matter what.  |
| Hey...I thought OES.ARGGHH is funny too! |
| shon good luck on going back home.. hey you tryed, some people well most don't get the love of our sheepies!1 many people treat their dogs as dogs!! at least you found out sooner then later like i did.. i married one who said they loved my dogs---- yes 2 years later he said me or my dogs!! guess what i am still with my best fur buddies,and got rid of the poop |
| After a waste of Wed, I made it as far as Chattanooga... forgot my file with everything important. That was at noon made it back to Atlanta got to her place, had to wait. Door locked she was at work. I got the file and left, time 4:30. Made it back to Chattanooga at 7. This was a days worth of driving and made it nowhere, 3 hours driving chatt - atl and back, 2 hours waiting, 2 hours sitting in traffic. So the rest of the trip went smooth, made to Evergreen at 1 today. Snowboarding and having a cook out at A basin with friends and dogs. Nice to be home.
Ron, yes I was on the computer either working or reading OES.org so another X. I for got that one. |
| Glad you made it back!
shon wrote: so another X. I for got that one. I don't understand. |
| Shon, WELCOME HOME! Ready for a great day Sat........ then the snow hits again.........
You need to meet Michelene and Tab in Evergreen.... they have Oliver and Cassidy. Wendy's Carmella (Bella) is Cassidy's daughter and Oliver is from my early litter.......... Michelene and Tab are both great jewlery makers! Someday i'll make it back up that way. Ali |
| Shon put it all behind you and try to forget the whole thing, it was not supposed to happen, be thankful for small mercies. Look forward too and enjoy the rest of your life. |
| Ron I meant the X as, the good things with being their and the bad. Well her not liking OES.org was an X in the bad column. Sorry didn't make that very clear. Headed to A basin, my son will be exhausted this afternoon. Will be doing more cooking out and letting him play than boarding though. |
| Hi Shon,
Glad you made it back home and I'm so sorry things didn't work out for you. I'd give you a hug if I saw you but here's one via cyber from me and the furkids. 
Marianne |
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