Solitary Vacation
Of course, just the very thought that I'd go on vacation alone has received comments from a few family members...I'm being selfish..they think I'm running away from them  Why the heck can't I just go in peace and not feel guilt from anyone? I'd like to decompress for a few days. |
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| I have never done that....but it is something I think I would enjoy...even if it was to a hotel in the county...just to be by myself and totally relax..maybe go to a day spa ..facials, pampering, pedi and mani... |
| No Stacy, but the thought makes me feel nervous, not relaxed.
If you feel the urge to get away by yourself, then it is something you should do. Your body and mind are feeling the need to get away - listen to it! |
Stacy wrote: Of course, just the very thought that I'd go on vacation alone has received comments from a few family members...I'm being selfish..they think I'm running away from them
Why the heck can't I just go in peace and not feel guilt from anyone? I'd like to decompress for a few days.Yes, I get away alone now and then. It's great! Clears the mind and reminds you who you are. I encourage my husband to take time for himself too (usually a short golf outing). We are both happy when we return and have new stories to tell. The best (least stressful) trips for me are unplanned with short travel time. I like Park City with a spa package. An overnight with nothing to think about but what to have for dinner, which gallery has a new display, and what type massage, hot stone or deep tissue. 
Just a simple break to remember who you are. There should be absolutely NO guilt associated with a solitary activity! Listen to your mind and body. If they say decompress, do it before you explode. You won't be any good to the family building up to, or after the explosion. As for guilt, it's only yours should you decide to accept it. Seems to be the one gift people/families love to give.  |
| I have done it numerous times. Sometimes I go visit family by myself - other times I have gone to stay near where family is so we can have alone and together time. A spa package as part of that has been great!
I've thought about taking the dogs to stay by the beach by myself- but haven't done that yet. I always tell my husband to go away by himself as well - but it is not his thing (travel). |
I was thinking about this a bit. Maybe I don't feel the need because of where I live. I can get beauty, tranquility and alone just right outside my door. And trust, me, I do it often.
Living in suburbs or an urban setting would have me crawling the walls after awhile. All those people constantly around me... Todd calls it living like gerbils in a cage. Kind of an interesting analogy. I visualize a large Habitrail cage, with all the levels and tunnels.  |
| Hi Stacy,
I've been doing it forever and even now that I'm married my husband and I each take a week of vacation by ourselves. My best single woman vacation is Australia. I have very good friends in Sydney and on my last trip down under I stayed with them for a couple of days and then flew down to Melbourne (Lisa's territory), rented a car and drove along the Great Ocean Drive. I stopped at Phillips Island to see the penguins, went to the gold mine area in Bendigo, cruised the Murray River and treked the Grampians Mountains. I had a blast. The Aussies are very warm, don't look askance at a single woman traveling alone and in general are very welcoming and helpful. I have been to Australia about a dozen times (I'm due for a trip soon) and always suggest Australia to my friends who want or have to travel by themselves. Its the easiest place in the world to travel alone. I love traveling with someone else, but I also like traveling alone. When I travel alone I get to do what I want, when I want and for how long I want (very selfish, I know). I have traveled by myself for both business and pleasure around the world and the only place I don't recommend traveling as a single woman is some of the more religious Muslim countries. They can make it very difficult for a single woman. Other than that the world is open to you. Go out and enjoy! Kathie |
| I do this alot the past 3 years! not bad. I tend to go to Mexico or the Carribean or Central America or Europe even. It isn't so bad really and I have met some of the most extrodinary people and have seen things tht Norm wouldn't be interested really in going to do............ (full days at the Louve or the Nat. History Museum in London). I'v emade friends all over the world and feel very fortunate in this. And they don't all have OES either! lol. |
| Joan and I have always vacationed together, but last year she took a vacation trip to San Francisco with her sister. I had a wonderful time!
Well, I'm just kidding. Since Joan has done a lot of business travel she has been away from the house quite a bit over the years, and since I worked so hard and so many hours we enjoyed being together on vacation. Now that she is traveling so much less and I'm at home 7x24... some amount of separate vacation(s) could be good too! |
| I have been to England 5 or 6 times, and the last time I went was the first time I didn't go alone. I have friends there, so I am not alone when I get there, but I love to see my friends and my husband can't stand the long flights. |
| Sure. If it's something I want to do that I know only I'll really enjoy. I've done a couple of solo shopping excursions by myself to Los Angeles. I always manage to meet people to show me a good time. Then again, I was single then... |
| Both hubby and I will go off by ourself if it's something we wish to do but when Hubby and I were young and the 4 kids small I used to tell him that the best present he could give me was to lock me, myself and I in a motel room with a pile of books never happened tho :D |
A few years ago (pre-marriage), my cousin's daughter was getting married in Boston. The whole family planned on going for a long weekend. I happen to  Boston, so I decided to get there 4 days before the rest of the family, and vacation.I had the most wonderful time!!! There are a million things to do and see in Boston. I'm not a huge night life person, so I didn't mind having dinner alone and going back to the hotel for a nightcap and to bed to read. One cousin came in a day early, and she and I spent the most marvelous day together. We really got to know each other, and we have been close ever since. It was a wonderful experience for me. |
John and I take a seperate trip each year-- and a couple together. I LOVE it!!! When he is gone-- I have a wonderful week doing what I want. And I am sure he does the same. And when we are on our trips, we relax. He goes on a golf trip with the guys, and I do something with friends or my sister and Mom. Or a couple of times- by myself. WONDERFUL. I think it is good for the soul- good for attitude and darn good for a marrige to spend a few days apart. The welcome homes are great too!  |
| every third day is a mini-vacation for me....brian is gone for 24 hours....so on those days, i get to watch what i want, eat what i want, sleep in the middle of the bed WITH all 6 pillows....or go out with the girls to resturants that I like, shop...etc....oh, the beauty of it.......
what am i going to do when he retires?  |
| I've spent many a nights solo but I don't think I would call it a "vacation". Mine have mostly been visits to go see family and of course all the wonderful dog show locations which I got to spend the night with Frank...
I say do what you want. If you can afford to sneak away someplace, you are your own person and you should live your life. |
| When I was younger...ROFLMAO (more than a couple of years ago)
Try a three or four-day cruise along the Mexican Riveria. Carnival has a great deal. About $350-400 for the four day trip. Your hotel, meals and entertainment are all included. I used to go by myself several times a year...never got off the ship in the ports...just sat in a deck chair, read and asked for a refill of my never-ending pina colada. Had a spa treatment and a massage and, in general, had a very good time. Met a lot of nice folks...especially a number of gals doing the same as me...a mental health time-out. Try it...you'll like it!  |
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I believe they have four day cruises out of New Orleans too. |
VerveUp wrote: I've spent many a nights solo but I don't think I would call it a "vacation".
I guess my last 3 years are that way! I love Norm and would love to have him home....... but after about 10 days he and i are both ready for him to go back!  I guess it's a good thing i made a good military wife..... seems like it's going to go on...........
I may have to try the cruise thing Darcy. |
| I love going away by myself!
The "bug" hit me when I was 15 and would travel to a small town to visit a friend that had moved away. This is the same friend that later moved to an Island with only 30 residents. For years, I used this place as my get a way to recoup and rest. Some times, I didn't even see my friend during my stay but perhaps once as I stayed in a cabin overlooking the ocean and not her place. Since then, I've travelled to 27 countries, including many of the US states. At 17 I went to London by mself after I graduated from high school...I did eventually meet my mom in France. I always saw my travels as "adventures"..still do! The last couple years with a housefull of pets it's not that easy to even get away for one evening..lol ..but that Island awaits! In our days of hustle and bustle..solitary time..is what's needed sometimes. |
I've been travelling alone for years! Once my son left home, I was on my own. I love it! I find that there are so many interesting people everywhere, there is always someone for company if you want it. I like to make up my own itinerary: good breakfast, museums, art galleries, lunch, shopping, theatre in the evening and doing nothing, sitting on a park bench, watching people while eating ice cream! and city tours. I love the trolleys: San Diego comes to mind! Also, watching the latest movies in the evening at the hotel. I'd like nothing better than to go off on a holiday again when the house is sold, everything is packed and I'm in between houses and cities! Cheers.Lynda  |
| Okay, so who has toasty weather now? Arizona? |
| You know Stacy, you just said something that made me think...ahh travelling for medical reasons!!
Yesterday, Oprah and her guest discussed those that suffer from SAD, (Seasonal Dyfunctional Disorder). It's very real as lack of vitamin D which you get from the sun causes loss of Seratonin in the brain. Definately go away to some hot sunny place!!!! I'll live vicariously through you and be at home - green with envy from my lack of Seratonin.
Marianne |
Stacy wrote: Okay, so who has toasty weather now? Arizona?
I talked to my Dad this morning and it was only 36 degrees by them. They live northeast of Phoenix, and it is usually cooler by them. So Phoenix may be warmer. Maybe Tucson? |
| It's 78 and sunny in Key West!!
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simm2zoo wrote: When I was younger...ROFLMAO (more than a couple of years ago)
Try a three or four-day cruise along the Mexican Riveria. Carnival has a great deal. About $350-400 for the four day trip. Your hotel, meals and entertainment are all included. I used to go by myself several times a year...never got off the ship in the ports...just sat in a deck chair, read and asked for a refill of my never-ending pina colada. Had a spa treatment and a massage and, in general, had a very good time. Met a lot of nice folks...especially a number of gals doing the same as me...a mental health time-out. Try it...you'll like it! OMG, NO!!!! Whatever you do, don't go on a Carnival Cruise to the Mexican Riviera, unless you want to DIE. WORST TRIP EVER. |
Amanda P wrote: Stacy wrote: Okay, so who has toasty weather now? Arizona? I talked to my Dad this morning and it was only 36 degrees by them. They live northeast of Phoenix, and it is usually cooler by them. So Phoenix may be warmer. Maybe Tucson?Tucson is about 10 degrees cooler...it actually snows down there....brrrrr.... the lows here in town are about 40-35 and the his right now are 70-60....still chilly durning the day but not freezing cold... hot flashes are starting to kick in, so i am finding this weather actually delightful  |
Darcy wrote: Amanda P wrote: Stacy wrote: Okay, so who has toasty weather now? Arizona? I talked to my Dad this morning and it was only 36 degrees by them. They live northeast of Phoenix, and it is usually cooler by them. So Phoenix may be warmer. Maybe Tucson?Tucson is about 10 degrees cooler...it actually snows down there....brrrrr.... the lows here in town are about 40-35 and the his right now are 70-60....still chilly durning the day but not freezing cold... hot flashes are starting to kick in, so i am finding this weather actually delightful When I talked to my Dad he complained that it was sooooo cold. 36 degrees is cold...but we are supposed to be at 1 degree tonight without factoring in the wind  |
| i have to say last night WAS really really cold...we had a freeze warning so we had to cover our baby tangerine tree and banana trees....
it was actually so cold that panda WANTED to be inside with us....wonders will never cease! |
Darcy wrote: it was actually so cold that panda WANTED to be inside with us....wonders will never cease!
I don't think Foz would like it in AZ. He is absolutely loving outside in these freezing cold. He just goes out and lays down lookin' around. Crazy boy! |
Darcy wrote: i have to say last night WAS really really cold...we had a freeze warning so we had to cover our baby tangerine tree and banana trees....
Awwww its going to warm up to 9 here Sunday. |
| We are having miserable, bitter cold weather, here in Chicago. I think the high Saturday is suppose to be 4, with a wind chill of -20. Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.......................... Darcy...do you have an extra bed? I'll make you matzo balls, chopped liver, brisket and latkes. |
debcram wrote: Darcy...do you have an extra bed? I'll make you matzo balls, chopped liver, brisket and latkes.
i have a brand new sterns and fosters pillow top bed with sateen sheets and a big comfy fluffy duvet cover...oh and a 27'' flat screen on the wall....for all of the above that youre gonna cook for me, stay as long as you like |
| I've been on some solitary vacation trips and had a great time. But these trips don't take the place of a trip with my husband rather in addition to the trips we take together.
If you're feeling the need to get away alone, nothing wrong with that. Have you considered trying one of those pampering spa type places to restore and rejuvenate? Really the only opinions that matter are those of you and your spouse. If you're using your only vacation time together possibly there's a compromise where you can spend a few days together and a few days alone. We've been three times to the Mexican Riviera on Carnival and two times it was a blast and one time not so fun. But, I highly recommend cruises in general they are great. IMHO |
| I love it, I call it ME TIME. Nothing wrong with a break from everyone and recoup the spirit.
I have been doing it for years and my hubby occassionally takes off on the weekends as well from time to time on his own too.
It helps to have some ME TIME every now and then
Best one I did was get in the car and drive to another state on my own, stopped where I liked and had a wonderful trip exploring all the things I like on the way to South Australia. No kids saying "Are we there yet" or I don't want to stop here or boring, you get my drift. So I was gone for 5 days and you do feel safe travelling on your own now especially with the cell phone handy on you all the time. So go for it stacy and enjoy some Me Time.
Sunny here too, your welcome to drop by. |
| Stacy, don't listen to those nay sayers. If you want to get away for awhile by yourself...GO!!! Its selfish of them to try to make you feel bad. I took off for whitewater rafting with 2 nieces and a boyfriend and although I wasn't alone it was fun without dh for a few days. He left to go to Vegas for a long weekend with a buddy and I LOVED BEING BY MYSELF. The Bahama's are great this time of year! |
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