I have missed everyone so much
Ron, Happy birthday |
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| Welcome back! Sorry to hear about your mom. It's very important to take time for yourself so you don't get "burn out". It's the most difficult thing I've ever done (both of my parents in 2000) but also so very rewarding. |
| Thanks it is hard. She is very confused right now not altimers more demencia and really nasty, and rude. She wants to go back to her house but she can't make it by herself, she hates being here but she does not eat when she is on her own. My brother actually had to pick her up and carry her to the car for her to go to the doctor because she refuses. She swears when things don't go her way. The boys and their friends are driving her nuts but it's their house not hers and I tried to explain it. All in all I don't know if this will worki which makes me very very sad. My 3 year old grandson does not like her because she won't listen to what he say's then she starts yelling when he does not listen. He is a toddler with a toddler mind so toys are all of at times which drives her nuts. He likes to play with balls she gets upset then he and she start crying. Just an all out ugly situation that I am trying to get fixed and really don't know how |
I'm so sorry  However, I'm glad you checked in with us. |
| I completely understand - my mother in law is the same way. She has good days and very, very bad days where she is rude, nasty, and completely living in a different world. It's sad, because the dementia has changed her so much, and very stressful.
I would strongly recommend that you look into an assisted living facility. I know that people have the impression that they don't want to "lock their parents in a nursing home" - but these places are totally different now. Activities every day, lovely grounds, outings for shopping, she can have her own apartment but there will be trained professionals there to help her when needed. It would be much less stressful for you and your family, and she might actually enjoy the friendship of ladies her own age. My MIL is making friends there. Her biggest concern was that she would have to give up her things - furniture, knick-knacks - but she was able to furnish her own apartment with her stuff. And she was able to keep her cat. Some people there have dogs too. One other recommendation - ask her doctor if he/she would recommend antidepressants. We were worried that all the negative changes were health related but her neurologist told us that many older people develop depression. The antidepressants have made a positive difference. She still has evil nasty days, but fewer than she used to. Good luck! |
DTrost wrote: Thanks it is hard. She is very confused right now not altimers more demencia and really nasty, and rude. She wants to go back to her house but she can't make it by herself, she hates being here but she does not eat when she is on her own. My brother actually had to pick her up and carry her to the car for her to go to the doctor because she refuses. She swears when things don't go her way. The boys and their friends are driving her nuts but it's their house not hers and I tried to explain it. All in all I don't know if this will worki which makes me very very sad. My 3 year old grandson does not like her because she won't listen to what he say's then she starts yelling when he does not listen. He is a toddler with a toddler mind so toys are all of at times which drives her nuts. He likes to play with balls she gets upset then he and she start crying. Just an all out ugly situation that I am trying to get fixed and really don't know how
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. This sounds just like mr. j's grandmother who has dementia. She is realy nasty and rude some days. Sometimes she doesn't know who some people are, and then other days, it's like she doesn't even have it. She's gotten to the point that she has to be carried to the dining table to eat. It's torn the family because sometimes she says really mean things to her grandchildren. Anyway, I'm glad you could come back and visit!!!  |
| Hi Dee,
Just wanted to say I am very sorry for what you are going through with your mother. I second what Bailey's Mom recommended. My Grandmother was in Assisted Living community she LOVED it. The only thing she complained about was the food being bland. It still gave her the independance she was used to. She had her own apartment and all of her stuff. I wish you the best of luck during this hard time.  |
| Welcome back! |
| So sorry about that. My grandmother just died a few weeks ago and she had dementia. My parents couldn't take care of her personally (she was a VERY difficult person in the best of times) but they had her in a small private home. The family had dogs and cats which she loved and they did a really good job of taking care of her. That and it takes the stress and emotional toll off of you.
My other grandmother (who has been dead 10 years or more) we took care of in her home. My mom and uncle and all 5 of grandkids took care of watching 24 hours a day. It was so hard and draining. Each situation is different and calls for what is best for all around. Even if you do put her in a home its not horrible. You just go and see her frequently. That and they also get to the point where they are out of it enough they don't even recognize you any more. Sigh. Getting old is so sad. |
| Its good to see you back. Don't forget to take care of yourself!!! Its so hard to see our parents llike that. I remember when my dad though everyone at the nursing home (he had broken his hip) was trying to kill him. Its heartbreaking. Hey...don't forget..we are here for you! |
| Welcome back, sorry to hear about your mom, dementia is hard on all family members. My Gran had it and she had her good days and bad days.
Get some books on it, there is plenty around, they really help to understand what is going on and to be able to understand the progression & stages of Dementia and they also help family members caring for them as well, especially when they are having a not so good day with them.  |
| Welcome back. im sorry to hear about your situation, but know that youre in my thoughts. |
| Thank you everyone it seems Social Security may send someone in two hours every three days. She was extremely mad at me this afternoon because of this. I ran to the grocery store when I can back she was even more upset and insisted that my daughter does not live here and why was she here and she wanted to call a taxi and stay at the holiday in for a week. I am waiting for the doctor to call me back. It seems like it's going from bad to worse. I sincerely appreciate everyones help with this
Thanks Dianne |
| Hi,
I'm so sorry you are going through this as my oldest son deals with this with his grandma, who calls him numerous times during the day. This is his dad's mom and it's so difficult to see this once vibrant woman inflicted with altizmers and undergo through such a personality change. I can't even imagine how hard this must be. Hugs to you and glad to see you back! You were missed!
Marianne and the boys |
Hang in there, Diane. Hang in there. |
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