Need information. Please Help if you can.
He needs a place to live (possibly long term, a few months to a year maybe) that includes alcohol rehab, help with employment, transportation, medical assistance, etc.............. I've been looking for days now. I find places that sound great, then I hit a dead end because he has no insuranace or MONEY! Some of these places want $19,000 a month!!!!!! This "gentle" man got lost in his teens, "to the bottle", and is now in his mid 40's. He has NEVER agreed that he needs, or wanted any help in all these years until now. Now he wants a car again, his driver's liscense back, to make something of himself and after all these years of praying for this day, I CAN"T FIND A PLACE THAT WILL HELP HIM!!! This man was put out in the cold and rain 16 days ago. He called me to come get him. I told him no, I can't. One of the hardest things I've done in my life. My brother went for him with stipulations that he doesn't drink and gets help. He agreed, saying he wants to change his life around. NEVER before has this man said that. He hasn't drank a drop since. He went cold turkey.......and, is still going strong, but we don't know where to take him for the help he needs now. Its difficult to tell this man that he can't stay with any of us, that he HAS to find another place to live, one that hopefully will offer him help with all these issues. Please, if you have any suggestions of what to look for, where to call, WHAT TO DO, I would appreciate it. I've prayed for God to send me an answer. His answer was to ask you. You've all helped me in the past, and I think one of you (or many) have the answers I need. This "gentle" man is my brother. We've realized that "tough love" is what we have to have in order to help him, rather than loving him, helping him and enabling him. That is sooooo hard to do. We don't want to loose him again, now that he's gotten this far. There IS a place out there that can help him accomplish his new found goals. I (we) just need to know how to go about finding it. Thanks!!!! Pam |
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| Maybe if you could slip him into Canada.... |
| Have you contacted AA (Alcoholics Anonymous). They have a very strong program and provide a lot of support, not only to your brother, but to the family as well. May also have connections to other resources. He has taken a very important first step in recognizing and admitting he has a problem. Will keep him in my prayers. |
| Pam what State are you in? I cannot remember. Here in Alabama we have several places that you can go to and actually work while you are there to earn your "keep". I will do some research for you if you will just let me know what area you are in. |
Ron wrote: Maybe if you could slip him into Canada....
I was going to suggest that! All of the services he would need are free. I don't know where you are, though so I can't be of much help. There must be social services available.... I would think so. The suggestion to contact AA is an excellent one. You could also contact the pastor/minister of your local church. They would have knowledge of/access to resources to help. |
Call up the major church organizations in your area, and ask for the charitable organizations area. A good start is the Catholic Arch Diocese in your area. I KNOW the Arch Diocese here in the Twin Cities has MANY support programs, homes, and employment programs for the poor and abused. They'd be the first people I'd call if I needed to get someone help in that area. I'm sure other denominations and religious organizations have some great charitable programs too  I just know more about the Arch Diocese! Many of them even have websites to check with. |
| The Salvation Army has a great rehab program for addicts and they also house the men and have the men do charitable work. They have group & individual counseling sessions as well. You may want to check with them. |
| You are dealing with a very difficult problem. In addition to contacting AA, I would call your state/county/local social services department. Depending on the person you reach they can be very helpful. I would also contact your local politician's office and ask them for resources. They can be an amazing source of help (especially if you vote!!). You have to be persistent and diligent about persuing help, but it is out there if you look hard enough. Good luck and I will keep you and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers. |
| I live in Indiana.
You have given me some new areas in which to search. My hope is to get him out of the city limits, thats where his "bottle buddies" of present day are. Do you have to be a citizen of Canada to get treatment? Have to take my friend, the one with gullian-barre to therapy now, so will check back later. Thank you sooooo much!!!!!!!!!!! Pam (mouthypf) |
Anonymous wrote: Do you have to be a citizen of Canada to get treatment?
Pam (mouthypf) I'm not sure but since the services are funded by tax dollars, I would assume that yes, you have to be a citizen or at the very least be a legal resident of Canada. |
| "I've been living on the streets here for 4 years..." |
| Haha. Good point, Ron. For people of no fixed address with no identification there is no way to prove they're a Canadian citizen or resident.
Now all you have to do is sneak him across the border before they build a fence.  |
Anonymous wrote: ......Do you have to be a citizen of Canada to get treatment? Pam (mouthypf)
Sorry! I need to correct that. I meant "don't you have to be" a citizen..... I can't suggest that to him since I'm firmly against that here in the US. It would be nice though..........  but,
The good news: A Personal Message provided a lead similar to some of those listed afterwards. After emailing that organization I was directed elsewhere. I then found the connection we needed to assist my brother with all his needs. That connection is HUD. Just need to see a field rep! Thank you (all) for your help!!!!!!!!! God provided rescue once again through you (OES), this time for an upright! I was able to see my brother today for the first time in several years. He looked great! 19 days SOBER!!!! Thank you God!!! God bless you all! |
| Wonderful, wonderful news. |
| that's great news! I hope he continues to recover! |
| What good news. You have done so well sticking by him and helping. Now it's just up to him to continue and help himself. Yay! |
| That's fantastic. So happy you found assistance. |
That's great news, Pam!!  |
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