I don't want to be posting in here... Jasper is gone.
 It's only been a few hours since I last gave him belly rubs, but I miss him already... |
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Oh Gail. I am so terribly sorry. I cannot begin to imagine the grief and shock and horror you must be feeling. Oh...and to have to tell the boys. My heart is breaking for you.  I'm in shock, too. I can't believe it. Bless your heart. |
| Gayle: I am so, so sorry! (tears) |
Oh, Gail, how tragic!!  My heart is breaking for you and your family. I can't imagine all the emotions you are feeling right now. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers to get you through this time of sorrow and grief.
Jasper will stay alive in your memories forever. I'm so shocked I don't even know what else to say. |
| I'm so sorry My shock is causing me to be at a loss for words. Hugs and kisses from us. |
| OMG.. I am so so sorry for you and your family.. like Stacy said.. I am in shock..I don't know what to say...
You get to know everyone on here over time, so when something tragic happens, you feel like you have lost one of your own. Hugs to you and your husband and your boys. |
| Oh I am so so so sorry! I am also in shock and can't even imagine your pain. This is so unexpected and horrible. I guess you have to take comfort in all the love and fun Jasper had in his too short life and know that his end was probably too swift for him to even notice. I am going to miss him. . . My heart goes out to you. Poor sweet baby boy. This is so wrong. |
| I am so very sorry for your loss. It's just too sudden and far too soon.
Love and prayers to you and your family. |
| My husband and I are just so sorry for you and your family. What a terrible loss. |
| Oh Gail, I am so sorry for you and your family. I am in shock too. I am at work with tears streaming down my face. Just remember that accidents happen and don't blame yourself. We will keep you and your family in my prayers. Give your boys extra hugs today, that always helps. |
| I'm simply devasted by this news, Gail. This is simply awful. I'm soo sad for your loss and wish you strength in dealing with it.
May you find some wisdom in how to tell your boys. |
| Oh Gail, my heart hurts for you and Jason and the boys. I am so sorry about Jasper. You loved him so much. Please don't blame yourself. I hope you find comfort in how much joy Jasper brought to your family. |
| I am so very sorry. My Tramp will be crossing over today. Trampy will have a friend waiting for him. Fate is Fate, you have no contoll over that. Take care of yourself and love yourself for all of us. You are in my thoughts and prayers. |
| I am so very, very sorry to hear about Jasper. It can happen so fast.
Sending out lots of hugs for all of you. |
| Oh Gail, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is breaking for you.
Please don't blame yourself, it was an accident. It could have happened to anyone, it was an accident. Shellie |
| Oh Gail, I am so sorry. Like Shellie said, it was an accident. Try not to beat yourself up (too badly). We are all here for you.
I will light 4 candles in my window for you guys tonight at 8:00. Make that 5. |
| Oh Gail I am so very sorry. What a terrible thing to go through. There is no way you could have anticipated that, it was an accident. Let us know how you all are doing. Hugs to you all |
| Gail,
I don't know what to say. This scenario is my worst nightmare since I live on a street that has become a cut through for a lot of traffic. Please know that my heart breaks for you and your family. (((((HUGS))))) |
| Oh im so sorry sending you lots of ((((((HUGS)))))
Kim & Maizie |
| Oh Gail, my heart goes out to you all, I am so so sorry |
| Oh no.... Gail I'm so sorry... how awful
*hugs* |
| We are so sorry.
Words fail at a time like this. |
| im in tears as im writing this, im heartbroken for you. i know how much you loved jasper, he was a very lucky boy to have a family like yours.
im so sorry |
Oh My  So very sorry
Diane {{hugs}} |
| Gail,
I can hardly see thru the tears I have always adored Jasper.
I am so very sorry for you loss. When I saw the forum outlined in black and I saw "In Memory of Jasper" I prayed it wasn't your Jasper. But then came here and found out it was.
Hugs to you, Jason and the boys!! |
| Gail,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sitting at my desk crying. It was an accident, please do not beat yourself up. I heart aches for you and your family. |
| I'm SO sorry. I saw the memory too and thought it couldn't be yours. I'll be thinking of you guys... |
| I AM SOOOOOOO SORRY! You gave him a really happy life and he was a very special and lovely boy. He was loved! Our thoughts are with you and your family now and Jasper. |
| Gail I'm so so sorry. I can't beleive Jasper is gone. Everyone has already I said it I'm completely shocked, I just didn't want to think that it could be YOUR (our) Jasper. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers today. |
| Oh NO....I saw the black too....Oh Gail, I am so sorry. I just dont even know what to say...for once I am speachless....All of my thoughts and prayers are with you. May you find stregnth and peace to come! |
| Gail.
I had goosebumps reading your post and don't know what to say. I am so very very sorry for such a tragic accident. HUGS to you and your family...what a terrible loss..... 
Take your time and know we are here for you. |
| Oh No! This is so heartbreaking and seeing Jaspers name in memory brought tears to my eyes. As someone else said...OUR JASPER as he's part of the OES family. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and I'm holding you, your husband and your two little boys in my thoughts.
Just this week I was going to send you a note telling you how many smiles Jaspers car photo has brought to so many disabled children I work with. There's so many adorable puppy photos, but that one, never failed to make tears dissapear and a smile shine on a little persons face. I'm deeply sorry for the loss. Marianne |
| I am so sorry for your loss. |
| Gail I am in tears for your whole family, I am so sorry this happened and my heart goes out to you all. |
| OMG I'm all teary eyed just thinking of what you and your family are going through. I'm so sorry for your loss. (((((HUGS))))) |
| I am so, so sorry!
How tragic! |
| I am so sorry for your loss - I will keep Jasper and your family in my prayers |
| Gail,
I'm so so so sorry about Jasper. He and Ridley are around the same age, and it breaks my heart for you and your family. My thoughts and prays are with you. |
| Oh God, Gail, I'm so sorry. I teared up as soon as I read your post. Since he and Clyde were around the same age, I watched them grow up together on the forum. It was an accident so please don't make yourself even more miserable by blaming yourself. I'm so sorry this happened.
Hugs from all of us, Jill |
| Gosh, I think that must be my greatest fear. I am so sorry.
I can't imagine what you and your family must be going through. I am heartbroken over the loss of your Jasper. |
| Hi Gail,
We are so sorry for your loss of Jasper. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Love, Zahra |
| I can not respond to PMs right now, it keeps saying User Unknown, but I do want to thank each of you for your good thoughts. Jasper worked his way into our hearts SO much so quickly, and it's just anguishing here without him already.
The boys handled it better than I thought - better than Jason & I did. We told Brandon he had gotten hurt and died, but he didn't understand (he's only 3). Then, we told him that we had buried him and he would be sleeping underground forever. He still didn't understand and he told Jason to go dig Jasper up and get him out so he could play with him. We told him he was gone forever to live with God in Heaven, and if he ever missed Jasper, he could go there and visit him. We then took him to Lowes and he picked out some plants to go on his grave and we bought some decorative rock and some border to go around it. He then told us we had to buy another sheepdog that looked like Jasper and name him Jasper. I don't think we'll be getting another for a while though - the pain is still too much right now. Maybe Santa will bring them another puppy since we'll be home for Christmas this year, but I dunno... and not a sheepdog just yet. *I* definitely can't handle that just yet. I loved him sooo much, and I've been crying all day and all last night over it.
We didn't tell Jake until he got out of school today, because he had two tests and I didn't want him distracted or interrupting the class/crying in class all day. I was crying, and his response was "aww, it's okay, Mom". Then he asked where we buried him. I took him outside, and he asked me if Jasper was with Jesus with his sister. I told him that he was, and I was sure that they were playing together. He said that it was okay that Jasper went with her then since he has me and Daddy, and she didn't have a mom or dad with her. He is such a sweetheart. Then, he asked for a new puppy too. It's hard to believe it's only been 24 hours. It feels like an eternity without him already - the house feels so empty, his toys are still in the corner, and I miss my "shadow" so much. I used to get a little aggravated sometimes when he'd wake out of dead sleep and follow me all over the house if I left a room, but I'd give anything for that shadow right now. He worked his way into all of our hearts so quick, and it's so lonely here without him right now...especially now since both the boys are sleeping and aren't keeping me busy.
Marianne, thank you for sharing that story with me. It's so nice to know that he brought smiles to their faces being so far away. I hope he will continue to do so, because he was full of love and happiness and he brought smiles to our faces every day also. I could have never asked for a better furbaby for us; he was perfect for our family. It's amazing how much they can work their ways into your heart and your lives in such a short time. We got him after I had a miscarriage, and he helped me recover from that so much. I couldn't even help him - it was such a helpless feeling, time was like someone had went into slow motion, and then rewind was hit in a blink of an eye. He used to run to my protection when Jason & the boys were tickling me, and he'd bark at them until they stopped. One night, the boys and I were in a hotel by ourselves, and he slept by the door all night and growled at everyone that walked past. He protected us so many times, and I hate that I couldn't do the same for him. Earlier, I kept going over all the "what ifs", but I guess it doesn't matter - the end result will be the same. He left us way too soon, and I was looking forward to watching him and the boys grow up together. Again, thank you everyone. I love you all, you feel almost like distant relatives after the past two years since we share so much of our lives together, and I really appreciate all of your kind words. |
| Oh and Ron...thank you for dedicating the site to our boy today. That meant a lot to us. |
| I don't mean to... but I normally don't read this thread but the black writing at the top of the board caught my eye. I couldn't believe it said "Jasper."
My heart sunk when I saw it was actually you posting. I guess sometimes I feel bad for others, but since I don't know them... it's not as real. But, I feel like I know you since I enjoy your posts so much, so it really hurt to see you in pain and hear what happened to Jasper. I remember when you first came to the board and showed us Jasper's beautiful face. I was so jealous. So fluffy and pretty. I always told my husband Yuki and Jasper should be friends because I think they were the same age. (got them around same time) I'm sitting here trying to imagine how you feel, and all I can do is feel so terribly bad for your family. I hope you guys do decide on another OES when your husband and you feel better because... you're a part of this OES family and we need current updates on you guys!!!! (HUGS)) |
| Gail, Please accept my sympathy. Wish I was there to give you a hug.
George |
| Gail, I'm a believer in "getting right back on the horse". Not to replace a beloved pup but to help you heal. Tasker came to live with me just a couple months after I lost my much loved cocker spanial Buffy. Buffy was 14 and basically had grown up with my kids. His loss was a terrible pain. Tasker didn't replace him in any way but he did help me to get over the constant ache I had for my beloved pup.
You'll make the decision that is right for you and your family. (((HUGS))) |
| Oh Gail! We've been so busy that I hadn't seen this. I am so sorry about Jasper! You'll always have him in your memory and when the time is right you'll have another shadow. |
| Gail, I am so sorry and I just know how you feel, the emptyness in your heart.
Three weeks ago I had to help my beautiful boy, Dallas, over the Bridge. He was only 8 years old and my shadow, like Jasper to you. Yes, sometimes I got annoyed with him because he was always in my way, how I wish he would be by my side right now. I know how it hurts, you just want to die. I am glad your children are taking it well, children are so good about it. They give us stength. Dallas was a therapy dog, so he is missed by lots of people. He was my love. You are in my prayers. Just follow your heart, if you are not ready for another one, just wait. Some people go out and get another right away, some have to grief for a while. You will NEVER replace Jasper, nor will I replace Dallas, but when the time is right, and you will know it, you and I will have another one to love. Maybe one of the rescues will catch your eye. sometimes they say that the one that went to the Bridge will send us another to take care off. I know the house is so lonely and quiet. I still have Sara C. and BB, but they are quiet dogs, and no matter how many others you have, you will miss the one that has gone. Thinking about you. Ingrid |
| I'm so sorry to hear of your lose. There is nothing to prepare you for something so sad! Keep you chin up, it wansn't your fault! |
| Gail, I am so very very sorry to hear of your loss. My first love, Nature, a border collie, was hit by a car as well. They are never replaceable and the hurt is intense. I am sooo sorry about your beloved boy. It makes me cry. |
| I am so sorry. My heart is breaking.
I usually don't read the crossing over posts. I cry the entire time. It brings back all the pain of losing my sheepies as if it just happened yesterday. Jasper can now play with my Panda(13), Pennie(2) and Daisy(4). I know all to well that emptyness and heartache. I thought I would never get another sheepie......I now know that I could never live without one. You can NEVER relpace them nor should you try. You will know when the time is right. We are deeply saddened and will keep you in our prayers. Laurie, Emmie and Bella |
| So very sorry. I feel very bad for you. |
| I'm so sorry for your loss! Accidents happen, so try not to beat yourself up! Jasper's death, although so horrible and sad, will be a reminder to all of us to be a little more careful.
Perhaps his story will come to mind just as someone else is about to leave the door cracked, so they close it. Acting on that thought may spare the life of another pet or even the life of a child. God bless. |
mouthypf wrote: Perhaps his story will come to mind just as someone else is about to leave the door cracked, so they close it. Acting on that thought may spare the life of another pet or even the life of a child. God bless.
Oh it's already reminding me to be more careful!!! Last week I pulled the door closed but it didn't latch. It's a tight fitting door so I thought it would be okay but the wind was very strong. Toby got out and thankfully only went down the stairs and put himself in the car. Between that and hearing about Jasper I am exceedingly careful about it !!! While unloading the car yesterday and many trips in and out, I though of Jasper every single time I closed that door. May his legacy be the safety of all his brothers and sisters here with us! |
| Gail, I don't know what to say to help ease the pain. You are in my thoughts. |
| Gail,
I'm so sorry about Jasper As long as he lives in your heart he will always be with you.
Holly |
| I am so sorry - I am just reading this now. I am so heartbroken for you guys. Poor Jasper. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. |
Oh, my heart just sank when I read the 1st post. I don't know how I missed it until now. I just went through 2 kleenex's getting to this point, reading everyone's posts. I know it's all still fresh and raw for you, and the boys sound so sweet - you must have done a great job explaining to them. My heart goes out to your family.  |
Maxmm wrote: mouthypf wrote: Perhaps his story will come to mind just as someone else is about to leave the door cracked, so they close it. Acting on that thought may spare the life of another pet or even the life of a child. God bless. Oh it's already reminding me to be more careful!!! Last week I pulled the door closed but it didn't latch. It's a tight fitting door so I thought it would be okay but the wind was very strong. Toby got out and thankfully only went down the stairs and put himself in the car. Between that and hearing about Jasper I am exceedingly careful about it !!! While unloading the car yesterday and many trips in and out, I though of Jasper every single time I closed that door. May his legacy be the safety of all his brothers and sisters here with us!Me too. I've been thinking of Jasper nonstop. I just wish there were an easier way to learn this lesson. |
| Gail,
I have been away from the forum for a few days and am also in a state of shock. The loss of your beloved Jasper has been doubly compounded by the fact that you lost him in a tragic way. I know because I lost the sheepie I had growing up to an overdosing accident. My heart goes out to you and your family at this time. Eventually the pain will lesson. We just lost Mopsy, our first sheepie as a family, after ten years in January. My two boys grew up with her and I was worried that getting a puppy just 2 1/2 weeks later would upset them. But Harry has been good for all of us and they love him to pieces. We still talk about Mopsy and she will always be in our hearts. Even though I am not on this forum with regularity, I too was fond of your stories of Jasper and the boys and I was totally in love with the car avatar. If Jasper was going to be on this earth a short time then what a lucky boy to have had your family. Take care. |
| Thanks again everyone. Jasper's breeders e-mailed us a few weeks ago that Jasper's parents may be expecting another litter around Christmas, so we're thinking about talking to them to see if we can get on the list for one of those puppies. Jasper was such a wonderful pet that I think it would be great to get a puppy from the same set of parents. I'm sure they'll have just as wonderful of a temper as our boy had. I think we'll try our luck with a girl this time...if there's any girl puppies available. I don't know if I'm ready, but I do know a lot can change over the next 4+ months before the puppies will be ready to come home. If we were to get another sheepdog, I'd love to have a piece of Jasper with us through a full sibling of his. |
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I've been thinking about you every day. |
| Gail, I just found your post. I'm so sorry that this happened. I have so enjoyed hearing about Japser's adventures and your boys. Please accept my sympothies. Jasper's little sister might be just the thing you need for christmas this year. Hugs and prayers from New Mexico.
Jodie |
Tasker's Mom wrote: :cry:
I've been thinking about you every day. Me too-- and that's really saying something since I'm such a big sarcastic jerk! |
| I can't get Jasper out of my mind either.... he was my favorite forum puppy... always has been...
I think getting a Jasper sister is a wonderful idea.... I know it's hard... but really, you are honoring Jasper's memory by getting another oes, especially a sibling... |
| Oh I hope you get a jasper jr around christmas time. i hug yuki extra tight now due to your story. today my neighbors beautiful dog was wondering in the street because the kids didn't shut their front door all the way, so i rushed to get their dog. |
| After we lost Merlin, we got puppies about 4 months later. I had been wanting to raise a puppy again for a while, but Merlin's needs and what was going on with my parents made that an impossible thing. For me, Sophie and Sherman were what I had been wanting for a long time. For my husband, they are a very frank substitute. He says that it took 2 to replace Merlin.
Whatever you decide and whenever you decide, I wish you the best. No puppy will replace Jasper, but a puppy will find its own spot in your hearts and in your lives. |
| That would be so special and as you said a Little bit of Jasper to live on in a little brother or sister.
I can't stop thinking about you all either, I hope when the time is right it will happen, make a pretty special christmas gift to the whole family. Hugs Kiddo.  |
| Gail, I just saw this thread. I'm so sorry! I'll be thinking of you and Jasper, he was such a sweet boy. |
| Gail, I'm sure you'll be ready for another pup when the new litter would be available. A girl would be great! From my experience, they tend to be a bit more protective and definitely have a stronger personality, but what returns you get from them!! Good luck in whatever you decide. My heart still hurts for you. |
| I'm thinking of you and praying for you every day, Gail. I, too, have had Jasper on my mind all the time. And, like everyone else, have hugged my babies a little tighter and kissed them a little more often. It makes me remember to be sure to lock the storm door as I come in, too.
I agree, too, that getting a sibling of Jasper's would be a wonderful way to honor his memory and all he meant to your family. I'm sure you'll make the decision that is best for all of you. |
| Well, we're now on the list for another puppy. Maybe the boys can hold out that long - they're wanting one NOW. We're hoping with a girl, she won't have that instinct to run. Jasper was neutered, but he still wanted to explore the neighborhood, mark his territory, and run out of the house/jump our fence every change he got. We're having a 6' wood fence put in come late Dec.-January (whenever they can fit us in - this was in the works a few weeks ago when they came and gave us a time frame/estimate), and I think we're going to carry it out to the front yard also. Not quite 6' but maybe a 3 ft decorative fence. It won't stop them from getting out, but maybe it'll slow the dog down enough for us to catch if they should get out of the house like that again.
As if what happened to Jasper wasn't bad enough for the week, we had a trip planned for Jason's birthday (Saturday). We went because we had already spent so much money towards it...plus it was nice to get away and take our minds off things. Well, on Sunday, we went to the N.O. Saints vs. Tampa Bay Bucs game, and a guy about 5 rows behind us passed away. I've heard he had a stroke and that he choked on a hot dog, so I'm not sure what the cause of death actually was. The EMTs rushed up there and worked on him about 20-30 minutes in the stadium, but they couldn't revive him. When they brought him down, he wasn't covered and he nearly fell off the stretcher when they were taking him down the steps. On the row right in front of his, his head and upper body did fall off and they had to put it back on. It was sooo sad, and I think that's one image that will never leave me. I felt so terrible for his son - he seemed to only be in his early 20s. That's something you never expect on an outing with your dad. |
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| OMG!!!!!! What a horrible few days you have had!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HUGS HUGS AND MORE HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Try to look forward at the exciting time to come!!!!!! A PUPPY OHHHHHH what fun!!!!!! Did you say they were DUE around Christmas? So February some time? Weel, good your fence will be in by then. Don't count on a girl being any less inquisitive than a boy! |
| I just read and my heart is breaking for you! That's the one thing I fear above all else......the dog out the gate into the street. Makes me sick to think about it, I'd be heart broken as you are.
Even with a front fence and gate, the boys will have to be taught that a moment's inattention can result in another tragedy. And of course, training for dog at an early age. Oh, what a terrible time you have had! |
| I am so sorry for your loss.
My heart goes out to you. Reading about Jasper and your boys response brought tears to my eyes. Jasper was a wonderful part of the family, I can see why the boys would want to get another one right away. |
| so sorry, this was an accident try and to beat yourself up. i pray for you and your family .. been there |
| Gail....I had no idea, I don't like to come into this part of the forum, but everyone once in awhile I do.
I am so shocked he is gone, I am soo sorry for you. But don;t beat yourself up over it. Accidents happen, and I am sure the driver feels horrible too. I hope your family can heal, and in your time find a new best friend for the boys. I think the sibling and a girl is a great idea. He will also be missed very much here on the forum..we are apart of his family too. I am sorry it took me this long to find out, hugs to you. |
| I'm so sorry to hear of you loss, the heart break is so much at first. I know this. But I also know that he wants you to be happy and not grieve for him. He loved you all too.
My best for all of you and I will keep you in my thoughts. I hope that you do get another baby soon, it will help you over the pain. Lots of hugs and support Leslie, Kiera Jean, Daisy Jane and now Taggart James |
| There are no words I can say to make you feel better. I am so sorry for your loss |
| I am so terribly sorry for you. I am certain that Jasper knew how much you love him. I am at a loss. |
| Gail,
I am so sorry about Jasper. I dont come on much these days so I missed the black banner page. I found out about Jasper from your post about the new pup. Your family is in my thoughts hugs.... |
| Gail, Iam so very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. loried |
| Oh my... I have no words. I'm so sorry-I can't even imagine this. |
| Thanks again everyone. I still miss my boy terribly. It's odd not having him lying beside me in our bedroom floor or in the hallway outside our bedroom...or as a cozy 'foot warmer' while I'm sitting at my computer. We only had him for a short time, but he worked his way into all of our hearts early on. I can't wait to get a part of him back when his sister arrives. I miss my Jasper so much still. There will never be another like him. |
| Gail,
Big hugs for you!!! This is such a hard time for you now. It will get easier. |
| I am so sorry for your loss. Words, can only; inadequately express, the heartfelt sorrow felt for you and yours. May GOD, heal your heart and be with you in this time.
Tearfully, Chris and Shaggy |
| Gail, I am so sorry for your loss. Please do not blame yourself. My heart aches for you and family...........Kathy |
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