It's time for my husband to leave...
I'm so depressed. He'll be leaving ...let's say very shortly. I still can't give a date over the internet until he actually "leaves" but I feel like a brick is just pressing down on my heart. Today I noticed that lil J is growing more hair. I had my first tear come out just thinking how my husband won't be there to see it come in. I promised myself to try to be stronger this time, but it's so much harder this time around ...having a son and all. Just being here in Alaska without him. Yesterday lil J learned how to put his hand over his mouth and "HOWWW" like an Indian (best way I know how to describe it), and it's just a wonderful feeling to see your little boy "learn" something. Sigh....... I'll have to drive him to the drop-off point (where we'll say good-bye, and when I passed it today... I could barely contain myself. Just thinking of me having to take lil J out of his arms makes me feel like I have to throw up. The increase in violence in Iraq and everyone being extended doesn't help. His job will be to teach Iraqis how to do THEIR job, so he's already in more danger than the rest of the guys in his battalion (company). He'll be placed in a different location, so he can basically live with them. That scares me so much. Tomorrow we go to his pre-deployment ceremony (where a bunch of guys just march around ...as sort of the start off to their upcoming deployment). Even that will be tough. 
Anyway, ...any prayers would be great! He, I, and lil J all need them!!  |
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| I am so sorry.
I really admire the military wives who hold down the home while the husbands go off to where duty calls. How difficult it will be for you to be there, with lil J, hoping that your other half will make it back safe and sound. I had family in the Gulf War in the early 90's, but this time around nooone I know is there. This is where it really feels like a reality, hearing about it from you, and trying to share your pain. I will be sending prayers that you all will survive this and your son will grow up knowing his dad. Hugs |
 this is so heartbreaking. I feel for you in my heart.
I am so sorry My thoughts are with you all. He will return safe and sound |
| I will keep you in my prayers.
It isn't the same thing, really, but in a way, it is. My son is scheduled to deploy to Afghanistan in a few months. There have been so many rumors about when and where he will be deployed over the past couple of years that I actually almost feel lucky that it's Afghanistan and not some of the other places that were possibilities. We've been lucky that we've had him stateside (if half way across the country) this long. But hard to think about. |
| Oh, Jo, my heart goes out to you and your family. Of course I'll keep your husband in my thoughts and prayers, asking God for his safe return. |
| Jo I pray each days that God will bring our troops home safe; will keep your hubby and the family in my special prayers. |
| Jo,
You are in my heart and prayers. I have been there and it is not easy. My first husband was in the Army and I went through Panama, Bosnia, and Desert Storm. We didn't get divorced until after he retired. Hugs |
| Jo,
We are here for you! Sorry Mr J is leaving soon.
Sending prayers! |
| It is EXTREMELY hard when babies are in the picture, but at the same time, they keep you VERY busy while he's away too. Sending lots of hugs and prayers to you guys! |
| Hugs and blessings to you all, we will have you all in our thoughts and prayers in this difficult time
Stay strong, you are an amazing bunch, very hard on families. XX |
| Your post is heartwrenching.... I'm so sorry you and so many other families have to feel this way
You will all in be in our thoughts and prayers.... and we will be here for you too *hugs* |
| Thank you. |
Ditto the thankyou.  My husband was in the military, but before we were married. He has 3 brothers who were career Air Force - 1 is still enlisted. It was so stressful when they were overseas. It just seems safer when they are on US soil!
Where are you stationed in Alaska? We visited when one of Todd's brothers was there - I can't recall the Base, but it was by Fairbanks. 2 of his brothers have been stationed there. Todd has 1/2 his relatives living around Anchorage too, so we did lots of visiting. Uncle Louis keeps after us to move up - he always says "we need more nurses up here!". It was very beautiful, that's for sure. |
| Wishing you and Mr. J strength and courage through this very difficult time. I can't even imagine the sacrifice he is making and the impact it will have on you and Lil J. You will all be in my thoughts and I will be wishing for the best for all of our troops. . . |
| I so admire you and your husband for the great sacrifice you are making. Your post is truly heartwrenching and I feel so upset for you. You and your family are in my prayers! Thank you, we appreciate what you are doing. |
| I try, but I really can't imagine how difficult it is for you & Mr. J & Lil J. The sacrafice you're making cannot be measured.
My prayer for you is that God will give you the grace & courage to endure this difficult time and that He will prosper you during it. That as individuals, a couple, and a family, you will be better for it. I will pray for you to be comforted during the long months apart, and for divine protection for all of you. Bless you! |
| Try to hang in there and know that lots of people will have you all in their prayers. We are adding you to our list.
Be sure to take lots of video moments of Lil J for your hubby to view when he gets home. Take care. |
| My heart goes out to you and your family. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. |
| Huge Hugs from me Jo. I'm not going to fill you with brave words or clever phrases, because frankly, it doesn't help. I know how hard it is watching them turn and walk away for the last time to leave on deployment. I can't imagine how much worse it is to see them leave their baby too. You know where to find me if you need to talk, I'm always here! I'm thinking of you and yours you guys are in my prayers.
Karen |
| I'm so sorry you are having to go through this again, it doesn't seem fair that you all have to do this again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We are here for you!!!!!!!!!! |
| My prayers go out to you, your son and husband. It takes very special people to do what your husband does and even more special women to marry them.
susan |
| L,
You, lil' J and Mr. J are in my thoughts. What we would do without men like your husband, well, I dont know. Thank him again! Be strong! |
| Okay, I made the post in hopes to feel better because I know you guys are always there ...but the replies just made me cry. Knowing he is leaving soon hasn't really affected me until just recently. ...now that the time is near. I got up 3 times last night because I had some bad dreams. I don't want my husband feeling any worse than he already does having to leave his family, so I didn't tell him. This morning he kissed me goodbye, so he can go to work, and I just started bawling. He of course thinks it's funny that I'm crying "yet again." I guess the joke at work for them is having to go home and going through another night of their wives crying. I'm sure it's their own way of coping since most of them won't shed a tear until the day of...
I don't know what I'm going to do when I get back home from dropping him off. I already know the house will seem so silent..
Quote: Where are you stationed in Alaska? We visited when one of Todd's brothers was there - I can't recall the Base, but it was by Fairbanks. 2 of his brothers have been stationed there. Todd has 1/2 his relatives living around Anchorage too, so we did lots of visiting.
We're in Anchorage. I can't imagine living in Fairbanks. They had their first frost a few days ago. It's too cold there!!!!! Plus, all the cool stores and restaurants are here  |
| Sending good thoughts... |
| He may tell you that he thinks it's funny but I'm sure he knows that REALLY it shows how much you love him.
OF COURSE YOU ARE CRYING!!!!!!! I'd cry too!! I think you are incredibly brave to be the wife at home!!! Do you know how long he will be gone? Can you try to plan some "BE GOOD TO ME" things for while he is away? Cry away, you are entitled!!!!!!!!!! |
| I'm so sorry for you. I can't even imagine how you feel. I know, in my heart, that G-d, or whomever you believe in will bring him home safe and sound. In the meantime, we are here for you. Always! |
| JO: I am so sorry that you and your husband must go through this now. What a terrible thing for you to have to look forward (?) to. Remember the days leaving up to the departure are usually the worst of days. Once he leave, you start looking forward until the day he comes home to you and little J again. My heart is with you and I will keep all of you in my prayers.
Tears, Helen, Mom to Violet, China and Pearl |
| I am so sorry
My thoughts are with you all! |
| I'm sorry, too. It is a very demanding way of life filled with tremendous ups and downs. Thank you for the huge sacrifice of time and love your whole family gives to this country. |
| Are you going to visit your family or have them visit you while he is away? I used to always do that when Jason got deployed, of course, now I can't since Jake is in school. (((HUGE HUGS))) |
| I feel so bad for you. My son in law is a surgeon in Iraq. He had to leave when my daughter was 7 months pregnant, of course she moved back home. He didn't see his son until he was 1-1/2 and then again for his birthday this year August. Brad is in the air force. What part of the miltary is your hubby in? Where will he be maybe we can get the two of them together. Because Brad is at the hospital he is able to use the internet frequently. Cell bills are just too expensive.
It is very sad, the situation there stinks. Hopefully it will be over soon. He will beincluded in my prayers all the boys there need them |
| I apologize for our nation asking your husband, and so many other's to return. Our military should have enough troop's that only one tour of duty in a combat zone is required.
We thank those like you and your husband, for the sacrifices made by serving our country, at home and abroad. It will be sad, and lonely. It will wear on your nerves, but you're the proud wife of an American GI. One that will get beyond the tears and fears, by knowing who she is and the role she plays. G-d bless and be with you all always! |
| Hi,
I can't even begin to imagine the turmoil you feel. How brave you and Little J's dad are. How sad I am for you to have to go through this. Many of us "long timers" on here have been with you through your engagement, his first tour, his homecoming, your marriage, the birth of little J, and now his upcoming deployment. We will continue to always be here for you - you are part of the big family of OES. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Give big Mr J a noogie from me and little J a tickle..hug for you as well. Marianne |
| Marianne, you always have something encouraging to say. Makes me feel good inside
Mr. J's date to leave has been pulled back a day, so I'm thrilled. Although it only means one day ...it's worth every second to me! Although I'm very sick (started the other day), so Mr. J is disappointed. He wanted some smooching before he left.  Lil J is also sick, so he's been a handful for us. Our date night (had a babysitter too) is ruined, but at least we can spend time at home together ...with me coughing and blowing snot on him.
DTrost, my brother in law works as the guy who gives you an epidural, etc,... so it would be neat if they were currently in the same hospital. However, he and my husband are both Army. They actually have it tough there. JUST KIDDING  I was Air Force myself, so that's the crap I always hear/heard. As far as where my husband will going... that's still unknown to him. He definitely won't be able to have a cell phone. That's great that some guys can now. His job will entail him moving around a lot, so it may be like his last tour... where I only heard from him once every 2-3 weeks. |
Marianne wrote: Hi,
I can't even begin to imagine the turmoil you feel. How brave you and Little J's dad are. How sad I am for you to have to go through this. Many of us "long timers" on here have been with you through your engagement, his first tour, his homecoming, your marriage, the birth of little J, and now his upcoming deployment. We will continue to always be here for you - you are part of the big family of OES. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Give big Mr J a noogie from me and little J a tickle..hug for you as well. Marianne Marianne, I was just thinking about that last night when I was trying to get to sleep. Almost feels like Mrs. J is a daughter or a sister or SOMETHING |
| How are you doing tofday Jo? Feeling any better? It sucks to have him leaving AND be sick at the same time! I hope you feel better on the day he goes!!!! Still praying for a gentle leave taking, a safe tour, and a swift homecoming!!!! You know where to find me if you need to talk
Karen |
Quote: Almost feels like Mrs. J is a daughter or a sister or SOMETHING Sad
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Iriskmj, I'm not sad today about Mr. J leaving, but as far as being sick... I feel like poo. I can't even talk. I haven't eaten much the past few days, so I've dropped several pounds. So hard to eat though. Usually I eat MORE when I'm sick. I'm telling you... Food is a sick addiction for me. |
| Your immune system is understandably weakened by the stress of your husband's impending deployment, that's probably why you got sick.
This life is so unfair. |
| I'm so sorry Jo. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. |
| I'll be thinking about you! Hope you are able to keep moving on while your husband is away. Take care... |
| Just know that my family appreciates the sacrifice that you family makes to protect and keep us free. Your family will be in our thoughts ,just as all the families of our military forces. Thank You... |
| Jo, I'm the one that talked to about living in Alaska. I was raised up Yonder... Being raised as a Military Brat I know how hard it is when They Have To Leave.... You just have to Love Harder in The TIme You Have With Them....... Surround Yourself with other Wifes that Understand...................... You Are In My Thoughts and Prayers........ Sheepie Hugs, Kaye Second Chance OES Rescue |
| Thanks Shug ...and everyone else.
I guess I passed my sickness off to Mr. J. He can't even get out of bed, and is sweating really bad (despite our window being wide open and it's 39 outside).
I'm a bit cranky this morning. The days are getting shorter and today I really wanted to cuddle close to my husband, but lil J woke up at 3 a.m. and is still up by my side. Now if my husband even puts his hand on mine... I can't control myself. I scheduled to get my maltese's teeth cleaned the day after he leaves to get myself UP, OUT, and SHOWERED, but I bet I'll be a mess! My face is already swollen from crying. Sigh.. Well, I'll feel better after he's left, and I've had two weeks to get used to everything. |
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Every time I receive a notification that there is a post on this thread I hold my breath sure it's you telling us he has left!!! Wonder if you all have the same bug that spreading around upstate NY!! I came home from work on Monday with a 103 fever and spent 24 hours in bed shivering. Doug has it today. Know that when that awful day comes we are all here thinking about you and you always have aplace to come "chat"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Quote: I came home from work on Monday with a 103 fever and spent 24 hours in bed shivering. Doug has it today.
YUCK!!! Are you feeling better? Mine seem to go away fast. Still have a sore throat, but no temp. |
Joahaeyo wrote: Quote: I came home from work on Monday with a 103 fever and spent 24 hours in bed shivering. Doug has it today. YUCK!!! Are you feeling better? Mine seem to go away fast. Still have a sore throat, but no temp. Yup, mine went away fast too. 24 hours and I was right as rain. I did have to take my first sick day in TEN years though!!!!! |
| I'm sorry that you have to go through this again. I hope that there is a good support group for all of you spouses & families to find some comfort. |
| The sickness is here in MN too. I feel crappy with the snot and fever, and I'm not even having to deal with the impending departure of my husband . My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you! |
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